2/16/25 - Approach 3 + 2# closes (DG)
Man, I've been inspired so much after joining this forum and reading up on your guys' reports. I was very excited to go out today and to do some DG (daygame). This forum has given me "permission" to approach again, or at the least has rid me of apathy and excuses. Very valuable to be part of the community again...
Before coming here, I have had years of experience doing this, but on my own, and away from the community, I'm very apathetic to a fault. I'd walk around when I felt like it and was never really motivated to approach, or made the typical excuses: "she's too young", "I'm not really into her", etc., etc. So today was the first time in a long time I've done multiple approaches in a session, so it feels fucking great!
Approaches:
Approach #1 (Asian girl fishnet stockings)
I was out for 1 hr and 59 minutes today in midtown Manhattan. It is raining all day today, but doesn't matter to me because I'm currently very motivated, and I want to approach daily. The first place I went to was a huge Macy's store off 34th and 6th ave, mainly because it was raining, and I figure I'll give it a try. Walk around a bit, went up a couple floors, didn't really see much so I left. I then went inside a Target store. Same thing. Didn't see anything.
Finally, about 20 minutes in, I spot an Asian girl -- probably early 20s -- in fishnet stockings and looked kind of rebel-like. Before coming to these forums I almost certainly would have thought to myself, "too young", but once again, this forum has shed that excuse (thank god). It's a dumb excuse anyway. So, I didn't see her face as she walked by, so I did a thing where I walked in front of her a way so I could turn back and get a proper glance at her. I noticed she was indeed my type, so as I walked by I quickly turned around to approach and literally a second after I turn around she goes into a girly makeup shop and I make an excuse not to go in. I stand outside for a few minutes for her to come out, eventually I get bored and start walking again.
As I walk down the block a bit, I turn around and come back, and I see her walking, so this time I get behind her and speed up walking and approach her from a side angle. My typical street opener is, "Excuse me, I know this is a bit random, but I was walking by, I saw you and I thought you looked very nice/pretty, so I wanted to say hi". She smiled, but didn't seem to hook as I tried to get into further conversation, her momentum was to keep walking forward. So I let her go, as I felt she didn't seem too interested in talking.
Approach #2 (Ukrainian girl tourist)
Not long after I start walking down the street and see a girl in front of me wearing thin silk-like pants where the outline of her ass was very fit and nice, and it's one of those things you just knew she was hot by her ass. But because I didn't see her face, I walked in front of her so I could turn around to walk by and get a glance at her. Indeed, she was hot, probably 8.5 or so on my scale. I was a bit nervous for this one, as she was somewhat tall and posh-like, wearing a wannabe fur coat and carrying a rainbow umbrella. Regardless, I do the same stop as the previous girl, this time she hooks. My energy is very open, and I'm good at making girls feel comfortable nowadays, even though I was pretty nervous with this one.
Anyway, we talk, and it's a solid conversation where she seemed interested in talking, crosses her legs and give me her full attention and contributes fully. She tells me she's visiting from Ukraine, been here for about a week, currently staying with a friend in New Jersey. I ask her how long she will be here for, which I can't remember her response, but I'm guessing another week or two? Anyway, we talk a bit more, and eventually I go direct and tell her I approached her because I thought she was pretty. I later say if she comes back to Manhattan and wants to hang out, to shoot me a text, and we can grab coffee/drinks (something along those lines). At first, she asks if I have Instagram, which I don't, and she then agrees to take my number. I'm well aware that for many guys it's not optimal to not take her number and to give her mine, and I'm not afraid of taking her number, I'm just in the mood to give out my number as a way of qualification on their part, so basically, I don't have to worry about doing the work if she's not that interested, and she can text me, and it's a bit of qualification on her part; she would be indeed interested in hanging out then. So yeah, I give her my number, we talk a bit more and part ways.
This approach took a lot out of me as I'm not in daygame shape, and as an introvert myself, I don't have these types of conversations a lot unless I'm approaching women, and so I felt a little drained for about 10–15 minutes after. The more I approach, the more this won't bother me, but keep in mind it's been a very long time since I've been out doing this. As I walk around, I allow 2 girls to pass me by without me approaching because I still felt a little drained and wanted to chill for a bit until I gather a little more energy and focus.
Approach #3 (Chinese girl visiting from Boston)
Let me say this now, as it's very important to understand, I'm mostly attracted to Asian women. I find them to be the most attractive -- you'll realize this by the amount of Asian girls I approach in my reports over time. With that said, I see another Asian girl, once again, likely early 20s. And, once again, I know for certain if I wasn't so inspired by this forum I would have not approached her because I would have thought "too young", even though she was pretty tall for a girl (not like that matters). Anyway, so it's freakin' raining pretty hard at this moment, and she's carrying food and a bubble tea in one hand while holding an umbrella in the other as she walked, so her hands were full. I wait for a little space to approach her as she walks ahead of me alongside people. I spot an opening and approach, similarly to how I did with the other girls. Once again, this girl hooks really nicely. Conversation goes very good, and I'm enjoying myself, and she looks to also be enjoying herself as well. She has a somewhat thick accent as she's from China. I could tell by talking to her there was spark there, and I would dominate her easily on seduction, and she would have loved it (my feeling). I find out she's visiting only for a day from Boston since her sister lives here, and she came to see an Opera. I find out she comes here monthly for these reasons, and only because she takes the Amtrak train here, which is only like 30-something dollars (good deal). She is only here for the day, so I make sure to go direct and tell her I approached her because I thought she was pretty. I then proceed to invite her out for bubble tea/drinks some time, she agrees, and I proceed to give her my number but realize her hands are full and tell her I'll take her number and text her my name. I do so, and after a little more talking, we part ways. Very good interaction. I would love to see this girl again if she's in town.
So now I have two girls who are only visiting (Ukrainian girl and Chinese girl), and whom both say they are likely to be here again. I tell them to text me if they visit and want to hang out, so it will be interesting to see if they do, in which I would take that as high compliance since they would remember me and be interested by reaching out and contacting me.
Conclusion:
So yeah, it feels so good to be doing this again, and I feel very fortunate I was able to find this forum, as I gather huge inspiration being here. It's like I have "permission" again to do this; it's like I have people here who are rooting me on, and I feel excited to share my experience with you guys. It's a great motivation for me. I feel very fortunate.
Once again, I plan on going out every day for the days I can. So expect more reports very soon!
Goals:
1. Go out daily
2. I've always liked the 30+ approaches per week goal, or two-hour sessions per outing, with optimally 10 approaches per outing
3. Right now, I'm going off how I feel as far as how I want to do my pickup game. In other words, if I feel like giving out my number more than taking numbers, I'll do that, even though I know it's not most optimal. Or, if I take a girl home, and I'm not really that interested in sex, I'll just talk to her and enjoy myself instead. Those kind of things. From experience, I know the more I'm doing this the more I get narrower in how I prefer to do things in that I get very direct, I tend to filter for certain girls as not to waste time, and I go for the jugular, so to speak. Right now, I'm just waddling in the water and taking it all in and waiting for my emotions to guide me to what I authentically want from these interactions. Right now, It's just to go out as much as possible, approach as much as possible, and see where I want to go from there. Momentum is currently the name of the game.
I'll stay posted