Stef's Journal

[DigitalStef]

well that massive storm hit before i even had a chance to work on this and all the classes were canceled past 12, and i just finished my morning classes. So when i went out seeing if there where any girls, none really because everyone went to cozy up in their dorms or home. Guess this will just be my rest day and I'll try tomorrow when it is not massively snowy.

 

[DigitalStef]

Well i kind of took today as a recovery day after a very fun bday party at my dorm with a good number of my friends. Remember all of it even after quite a few shots and Mikes. Even somehow managed to solve one of [img=http://www.amazon.com/dp/B003OTE7EY]these to the last layer.[/img] So i took today as a reset day to get back in the mind set on saturday.

-Stef

 

[DigitalStef]

Woke up late, but i will now do that "are you single" bit today(x4 i believe). Have two diverse location options since i have a ride, but i will try to knock them out before i even leave. Additionally i will be improving some of my wardrobe too today since it's been awhile since I've had some time to shop in a clothing store. (dull, but useful)

-Stef

 

[Tyme2k]

Keep it up, cant wait to hear your results.

 

[DigitalStef]

Yah, being a very weird day. Got bogged down by friends a bunch in both my alloted slots of time. I would just walk around looking for girls and a new group would run into me. (Somehow friends from another college ran into by accident.) This on top of some youth group thing really dragged on my nerves(so much jail bait...) so i fail to do anything today. Which mean i owe myself more for tomorrow.

But eve though i i kept getting caught by friends i did learn something else: I need to know and talk to more people. Because i know a good amount, but i just need to focus on meeting new people in addition to this girl thing and actually talking to them to see what kind of value they have. I learned about some parties i didn't know about today from a friend that i may have to checkout now. Additionally I've read a decent amount of men's fashion articles(here is an awesome source) But i am still disappointed i failed to do anything to day between motivational problems (my fault) and plans getting messed up (my fault since i fail to confirm plans where still in effect).

Tomorrow i will just get up earlier and try harder and be more determined. Otherwise i have engineering homework to do(math, math, more math!).

->Tyme2k
I was actually looking at your journal and i may have to steal some of it's concept because i greatly admire it.

-Stef

 

[DigitalStef]

Ok going out in a bit to try this again, although before i am going to read one of chases blog's to get pumped for it this time. (Generally helps) Then i will not be allowed to come back to my dorm till i finish this.

-Stef

 

[DigitalStef]

Yah after the last two days, I've decided I've been going about this: "Are you single" one all wrong. I need to do some warm up first by just saying hi to one or two girls to get in the mood and build the social momentum. Then i should easily be able to do it.

Although about yesterday when i went out, i ended up with sensory overlord in a way since there was a shit ton of cute girls because the sororities where out for an event at the muc. Sadly, i was not dress for the part and just was at a loss for what to do with so many cute chicks. This along side my best effort not to think of gaming stuff. (We just started a new campaign so my mind just instantly got consumed by it on sunday, despite my best efforts.)

Either way though it is my fault for not sticking around and on task. I really needed to get up and just talk to the girls regardless of whether there are none or too many. Today though, i will do it.

-Stef

 

[DigitalStef]

Well i had some success today, I managed to introduce myself to four girls (sadly one wasn't really all the cute). Then i said hi to at least 7 girls. Otherwise i think i will go and read the article about asking girls if they are single to get in the mindset because i am just having problems with it for some reason.

 

[Tyme2k]

Sadly, i was not dress for the part

Limiting belief, as long as you didn't smell like shit or look like a straight bum(torn raggy clothes) even sweats would be ok, you still can talk to women.

I think you are getting way into your head bro. You need to just talk. My suggestion for you is to stop trying "Strategy" go up to a girl and just start talking, get her investing and telling you about herself, then BURN IT TO THE GROUND. Stay there longer than you're comfortable with, when you think you should leave stand there for another 30 seconds and plow.

You will find that it's not a big deal at all, you will push your comfort zone and start getting reference experience. Right now your consistent reference is stifling yourself and getting in your head. This will also help you feel "state" which you get from momentum, like you said warm ups are good, but why limit yourself to Hi.. Why not Hi hows your day going.. that's good.. I think youre cute and wanted to meet you.. Tell me something interesting.. what are you studying.. Say whatever comes to mind.. If it's nothing then say I'm jsut wandering around talking to hot girls getting out of my comfort zone.. Trying to break out of autopilot.. whatever man anything is taking action.

I look forward to seeing your progress, try pushing your level of comfort, this is where you will start to see real improvement.

 

[DigitalStef]

Yah, your definitely right man, most things where i have seen special success have been just go instances. Like to day when i introduced myself to three girls. Saw a friend with them and just took initiative as a great away to meet them. I'll put those worries and thought into a box to think about later in the day and just act.

new plan of action

see cute girl->are you single>->keep going!

three step process to success to keep it simple.

 

[DigitalStef]

Kind of skipped that are you single thing, because yesterday was a very strange day for no apparent reason. Soo i went straight to indirect approach and successfully did it today! talked to four and may talk to a few more today if i have a chance between studying for midterms. Additionally i got a date setup with one of the girls too. Makes me feel satisfied.

-Stef

 

[Tyme2k]

Great job man, I'm happy to hear that. Simple yes?

You should write a bit more detail if you have time, I'd love to read it.

 

[DigitalStef]

Great job man, I'm happy to hear that. Simple yes?

You should write a bit more detail if you have time, I'd love to read it.

Yah, i adopted the strategy of, screw-it, this got me out of that funk really and reminded myself of my awesomeness. (I have been told by a girl or two i am slightly egotistic at times. Which makes me happy)

Otherwise i had a pretty good morning so far, I was divvied up for meeting potential employers at a engineering conference at my school. (details of that are of minor importance though) Anyway i was sitting at a table in my usual lovely window seat, when i saw a cute girl with a friend (not cute). That was when i had the thought: I really enjoy a audience, because i love public speaking so having someone else there to see me in action would just sooth my ego. So i half after eating i decide i would go ahead and talk to her. Got up walked around her table and straight up asked her if she was single. She said "no" which of course is irrelevant in all cases none that less, but i couldn't stay and chat when there were other single girls out there waiting for me.(I did do the "i thought you were cute" bit of course). So then i moved on asked two more girls, both no's, which wasn't go to stop me.

After i sat down of a bit to let the female crowd refresh. (I didn't want to go to the other areas because it's cold...) Then got back up once more, I walked over to a loung and sat down for a short bit with a old classmate. As i sat though i saw a cute girl from south hallway in my dorm. I known for awhile that she like me, many smile, shy hi's and such. But i was being shy my whole first semester really.

Anyway she sat down and i just promptly got up and ask her if she was single, got a yes, then did the "cute bit" and proceeded to attempt to deep dive. Learned where she was from and some other thing, and found out she was studying for a midterm at the time. Knowing i had midterms i needed to study for too i closed the deal for the day by getting her to agree to a date after spring-break and had her punch her number into my phone and text herself. (I do this to everyone pretty much) I sent her one text already, no response. Not a big deal, it was still on a midterm day, so I'll just send another one when approaching the end of break.

Otherwise i focused on midterms then (Air guard)drill till sunday. Afterword i will try my luck in my home area, including bars now that I am 21.

-Stef

 

[Tyme2k]

Your progress is impressive, keep it up.

 

[DigitalStef]

Well i spent my spring break between relaxing at home and working on my wardrobe. (have an awesome leather jacket now) Then spent remainder drinking with friends. Now that people are back on campus i will work on this more once again. But i did take care of some business so i will break for a second to talk about how i setup my date.

I'll call her Lyn for simplicity. To start i got Lyns number during midterms week before break making it kind of awkward to set up a time for a date since we don't live in the same areas. I texted her once during that break, never got a reply, so i waited till today. Knowing Sunday is a good day to text girls since they may of had a unsuccessful weekend in terms of love. I texted her, but she didn't realize it was me. (my bad for not stating my name in the initial text). She asked for my fullname to enter in the phone. (This is after i state: "Let's grab some lunch this week" (or was spouse to be kind of messed it up slightly since hangover but it still succeeded!) Otherwise her texted seem enthusiastic and i got longer responses. Here's the kicker though: had a long text about how she is talking to someone and doesn't know what i am looking for, then also something about being friends.

I completely ignored it. Then got her to name a time and i specify all the other details.

Fun stuff


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Now back to Allgirl stuff. I will go into building early banter tomorrow and dominate this assignment, and i will persue getting dates with any of the girls I talk to with this because? Why the hell not, I'm already this deep! And i will beat the newbie assignment! (took longer then expected, but hey)

Afterword i want to take another look at Tyme2k journal, because it intrigues me deeply.


till tomorrow.
-Stef

 

[DigitalStef]

Ok spent lunch talking to one new girl already over lunch, but she wasn't too interested in me, nor was she my type despite being cute so I let that one side.

Now I will go find three more and finish this day with a date or two.

-Stef

 

[DigitalStef]

Been a very busy week of ups and downs, but I have two dates set up for next week and plan on getting another one today.

Although I did have one encounter that was interesting, think I caught this one girl totally off guard and she kept laughing at random stuff. I think she was just trying to use the laughter to diffuse the situation for her because she never expect some guy to come up to her and ask if she was single.

Well any way I have the next girl I want to talk to in sight and I want to do my approach before she finishes eating.

-Stef

 

[DigitalStef]

OK set up another date today so i have two confirmed dates for next week happily: Tuesday and wednesday. Have not got a text back from the second girl who i did a fast pass with, so I'll wait another day or so and text her again.

Otherwise this is good in working towards my goal of always having lunch with a cute girl during the weekdays. (Or at least 5/7 days of the week) Tomorrow i will try to get another day setup for the week on thursday or saturday.

happily
-Stef

 

[PrettyDecent]

Otherwise this is good in working towards my goal of always having lunch with a cute girl during the weekdays. (Or at least 5/7 days of the week) Tomorrow i will try to get another day setup for the week on thursday or saturday.

I hadn't thought of that as a goal before. but I'm really digging the idea.

Either way, awesome posts. Hope to see more.

Jake

 

[DigitalStef]

Had the cutest reject by a girl ever, her name was kelley and when i asked her if she wanted to grab coffee sometime(even though i don't really drink coffee). She kind of pulled in on herself and had a face of "please don't hate me", and said she'd "keep me posted."

I found it ridiculously cute.

Still thinking of what went wrong with this interaction, i think i put her on the spot in some ways. Which is true, i find it amusing to keep girls on their feet. But i don't want to make them feel threatened by me. (I'm 5'7" so I am not too over imposing, but i have awesome posture which makes me look more muscular then I am.)

But in retrospect i think i should of pushed for a more definite answer from her instead of taking her "maybe." Hard push i believe is the correct term.

Anyway still pushing to talk to more dates today, and i will keep you guys posted on my two dates over the next two days.

-Stef