The Guide to Getting Hot Girls (of Any Type)

[Anonymous]

Re: The blonde bombshell article shows just how real this site is, thanks Chase!

While I agree that dealing with certain groups of women calls for calibration, the way that you're approaching the mindset is still flawed.

My point in bringing up the example of my friends and Asian women is not to fixate on the type of women, but the reason for my friends' lack of success with a certain type of women. The problem lies with YOU, not them. Just as Chase said, go "level up". I see this type of behavior so frequently with my friends and other guys I've hung out with. They get obsessed with this one type of women, regardless of type, and they put the pussy on a pedestal and it makes them act weird around these women.

It wouldn't be fair to make an assessment of your skill with these kinds of women without seeing firsthand, but the way you talk about these women, it's likely that you're putting off weird vibes around them. Like you're probably not acting normal around them, and you're probably awkward and you're trying too hard. Even trying to "act" indifferent or disinterested in them will come off insincere.

Do not underestimate the intuition of a woman. They've been approached and hit on far more times than you know, and they have the awareness and ability to read social cues. They know what you're up to and they can smell your awkwardness and insecurity, even if you're faking a tough guy persona. It has to be genuine and you really have to be chill and unfazed by their childish behaviors. Like someone said before... would you get upset or offended at a little kid for misbehaving or being mischievous? No, you'd laugh and brush it off and dismiss their petty behavior.

So yes, when dealing with blondes like these, you'll have to tailor your approach. But it's not just the way you approach them, or what you're saying, or how you dress. It starts with your beliefs and how they subconsciously sabotage you. You might not admit it to yourself, but you see these women as above you, and because your approach sucks you're being spiteful and harboring resentment. Guess what. They can feel that too. Even if they can't describe it in concrete terms, or they don't call you on it, they can feel that you're "off" and gives them just one more reason to shut you out.

This is such an "American" phenomena. It's seriously sad how bad this "blonde" infatuation is in the U.S. Get over it. If you're actually pushing yourself and steeling yourself and holding your ground as a man when you approach women, blonde or not, their antics and shit tests won't even faze you and you'll just smile and laugh to yourself at how silly and cute these women are for thinking that their children's games will get you upset when you're a real man. Don't get upset because you don't know how to play their "game".

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Re: The blonde bombshell article shows just how real this site is, thanks Chase!

Raqimus:

Women that dye their hair blonde and try to fit the hot blonde image are more shallow and pickier than other kinds of girls. The thing about hair color is that a lot of the blonde bombshells we talk about aren't natural blondes, they're bottle blondes who invest a lot of money into their appearance. As Chase's article said (if you bothered reading it), it can cost hundreds of dollars for a woman to successfully get her hair dyed properly. I won't go into too much detail about it but I recommend that you read the article and refrain from giving any advice on this thread.

JJ:

Once again, nonsense post. I am just going to ask this from you, how many hot blondes have you personally slept with? If you haven't slept with any then I think you should also refrain from giving any advice because you do all of a great dis-service when you do give advice. Once again, you two are examples of the types of people I was talking about in my post who are not helpful at all yet regurgitate the same PUA nonsense of "they're all the same man".

 

[Anonymous]

Re: The blonde bombshell article shows just how real this site is, thanks Chase!

@FujiFollower

Well. When you are quick to assume, you make an ass... out of yourself. For the record, I have been intimate with a few of these girls you classify as "bottle blondes", if you will. I'm no "expert" on this matter, but to say that my posts are nonsense, well... you're entitled to your opinion.

Still, I sense a great bitterness and hostility about this topic coming from a number of men, within this forum and even in real life.

I've had my run-ins with these "blondes", but I honestly don't see the big fuss. Sure, some of them can be real mean, but I just don't see how productive it is to complain and whine about how "bitchy" and difficult they are to meet. Chase gave excellent advice in his blog post, and his post on this thread just reiterates and drives home the point about personal growth. But I guess the real question is, how many of you are actually being proactive about growth and development in your own life? How many are actually approaching these bottle blondes and holding fast against their bratty behavior and pushing past their bitch shields?

But I digress. Keep putting these blondes on a pedestal. Keep treating them like the "other" and see how far that goes. If you keep treating them like they're the holy grail, it gives you a convenient excuse for why you failed, so you can keep your ego intact.

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Re: The blonde bombshell article shows just how real this site is, thanks Chase!

does this mean you will stop posting on this thread now? Because you really have nothing useful to add with your typical pickup artist all girls are the same shit. Maybe your other posts are of good quality and that's great n all but on this thread, you don't really have any good advice to give.

To answer your question, yes, I have had countless bad experiences with hot blondes. That did not stop me from approaching them and attempting to make things happen, where once again I would have a bad experience with them. It was not until I PM'd a few users on here and put the advice to work months back that I started seeing some results. If I had obeyed your generic PUA advice, I would not have had any success, so from my own experience in the field I can say with confidence that the advice you give is nonsense. I specifically said in the OP that I admire Chase and this website for being honest about this shit rather than some generic PUA forum that would have said something along the lines of "u have em on a pedestal bro!". So please, stop giving bad advice on this topic because it is bad advice which I can confirm from my own experience.

Hot blondes are different, that is a fact, so you need to have a different approach to game them.

 

[Chase]

Merged these threads since the same dead horse is being beaten mercilessly in the newer one now, and everyone could use a reminder of the content from the first post of this thread:

viewtopic.php?f=3&t=5840#p27481

Chase

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Damn, I usually agree with everything you do Chase but I kinda disagree with this. A lot of the advice about blonde bombshells and hot blondes was spot on and has helped me do better with them in recent months. Just because a couple of members start whining about us generalizing women this shit gets merged, I don't like it but it is your forum nonetheless. I found a lot of the advice you posted to be legitimate and I do think that it is important to single out the hot blonde types as some members said because we run into so many of those. A separate thread for them could have been so beneficial but I guess all it takes is for a couple of members to start whining about the thread is gone.

:/

 

[Franco]

Fuji,

I think you're somewhat missing the point of this thread. The point of this thread is that the "hottest" girls of ANY type require tweaks and changes to your game in order to be successful.

It may be true that "blonde bombshells" require the most tweaking to your game, but that would only because your default personality/behavior/fashion differs from them so greatly. If you were the muscular guy who has tattoos and "talks like a bro" from the beginning, then you would be swimming in bottle blondes and coming to this website to ask yourself, "how do I get the intelligent, successful blondes who AREN'T like those bottle blondes that are always chasing me?"

The bottle blondes aren't "different" in the sense that they somehow supersede every other type of hot girl out there. It's just that the type of guys that PUA forums generally attract aren't anywhere NEAR the type of guy that bottle blondes are looking for. The guys that generally come here are so far removed from that sub-culture that they really struggle to succeed in this area. We have tons of intelligent guys who come to this forum, and most of them come from a more introverted, "let me think this through" type of background, which isn't the type of guys bottle blondes typically go for.

Fortunately, intelligence and introversion, in the long run, CAN cause you to become successful with these girls because you're capable of understanding that changes are necessary to achieving them. That's why the few guys who have had success with them on this forum are trying to help; they understand that it requires a huge persona shift from their typical processes in order to get them. Ironically, this is in large part the reason why so many guys here hate these girls: it requires them to completely change who they are to get them. So then you have to ask yourself, would you actually be happy only indulging in these types of girls? Well, would you be happy becoming a muscular bro who parties and drinks harder than they do and treats them rather dismissively? Maybe; maybe not. If you want to be that guy, I'm completely fine with it. I have friends who are just like that and they do well with bottle blondes. It's just a matter of what you feel comfortable with and gets you what you want.

I hope this provides some clarity.

- Franco

 

[lux7]

Re: The blonde bombshell article shows just how real this site is, thanks Chase!

Proactivity and others,




(...)

I recognized this as an approach invitation, but I was still heavily influenced by approach anxiety at the time, and bottle blondes (with a bitch face) were more intimidating back then. I continued to sip my beer for about a minute, waiting to think of the best way to open her and make my move. However, before I could do that, a large, douche-y looking guy walked up to the other side of her and opened her. She responded to him, but her response was ice cold.

(...)

- Franco

I got a notification from the "older" thread and was reading quickly through this one when this post got my attention.

I wondered, do you think this would apply to many interactions or was more like a fluke?
It seems like she went with him not much because he "passed any test", but more like because all the stars aligned right there: she was exasperated, ready to be pulled and, at this point, horny and no best option was in sight?

Edit: cut the previous post for ease of read

 

[Franco]

lux,

I wondered, do you think this would apply to many interactions or was more like a fluke?
It seems like she went with him not much because he "passed any test", but more like because all the stars aligned right there: she was exasperated, ready to be pulled and, at this point, horny and no best option was in sight?

This question is a bit of a Catch 22, lux! Was it a fluke?

Well, considering that we tell guys here to search for girls who exude the following qualities: horny, looking for a sexy man, bored with the current options that approached her, etc., then I guess you could say it really wasn't a fluke. It was a guy targeting a girl who was obviously looking to get laid. So in that sense, it really was not a fluke. The guy may not have been smart enough to know that this girl was exuding those qualities, and he may not have been smart enough to know that those qualities mean she's ready to take a guy home with her, but he saw a cute chick by herself and took the chance, and it just so happens that that chick was looking for something along the lines of what that guy was offering.

So it was probably a fluke that the guy just happened to approach a girl that posted up next to me (originally hoping I would engage her) and then ended up engaging her before I did, but it was not a fluke that a girl who was acting ice cold toward him was only doing it because she was horny, ready to be pulled, and had no better options! (NOTE: I was the only "better" option there, but she determined by my lack of action that I wasn't an option, so she went with the best one that she felt was available)

- Franco

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

I actually posted the thread as a thank you to Chase and acknowledging the greatness of this site, kinda sucks that it got lumped in with other threads. Once again, I would love it if Chase would have kept the thread separate from this one as my thread was originally meant to be a thank you to Chase and this great site. Unfortunately, all it takes is just a small number of guys to start complaining and it gets lumped in here.

Now I also believe that hot blondes do deserve their own thread just like Chase gave them their own blog post, unfortunately, the way things are, I would not be surprised if guys started bitching about that blog post and forced Chase to change that too. I just think that if most of the discussion has been about hot blondes, why not let a thread about them stand? Why should a couple of users complaining have so much of an impact on this decision?

Just wanted to say thanks because the advice given on this forum has helped me somewhat better my results with hot blondes.

Also, Radeng, I am Korean and a lot of the guys having issues with hot blondes are minorities for the most part. Problem is that hot blondes generally hate minorities (except for black people who they see as cool), us Asian guys in particular. I am going to assume that you're white, for you these women come naturally especially if you give off the frat persona but guys like me have to work somethings out, play the numbers game, and likely change our location. I can tell you now that even the new me would not be able to get hot blondes in a state like Louisiana.

 

[Kaelos]

Re: The blonde bombshell article shows just how real this site is, thanks Chase!

I do have a pretty good looking face, but I got a dad bod, I'm a bit goofy, and I have had a lot of success with bleach blondes. I probably fit the personality type of a fratty guy and I get along amazingly with groups.

What's your clothing style like (shirt/pants/shoes) when you approach bottle blondes? Any accessories?

 

[Raqimus]

Re: The blonde bombshell article shows just how real this site is, thanks Chase!

Raqimus:

Women that dye their hair blonde and try to fit the hot blonde image are more shallow and pickier than other kinds of girls. The thing about hair color is that a lot of the blonde bombshells we talk about aren't natural blondes, they're bottle blondes who invest a lot of money into their appearance. As Chase's article said (if you bothered reading it), it can cost hundreds of dollars for a woman to successfully get her hair dyed properly. I won't go into too much detail about it but I recommend that you read the article and refrain from giving any advice on this thread.

I did read it. I did fuck a bottle blonde. No difference

 

[Chase]

Fuji-

I understand. I was happy to let the thread stand separately so long as it didn’t devolve into the same “blondes victimize me” stuff these threads always devolve into.

Unfortunately, it did, and at that point I either had to ban the topic, or quarantine it. I’ve chosen quarantine for now, so if guys still want to talk about it, they can come on this thread and discuss it. I don’t want it spilling out and affecting the rest of the boards though, anymore than I want to see a bunch of posts about how girls won’t date you if you’re short or girls won’t date you if you don’t have a million in the bank or girls won’t date you if you’re not George Clooney or whatever.

Whenever you see the “I have this problem and it’s special and unique so we need to give it a lot of time and attention” mentality, like what I keep seeing from the Bottle Blonde Four (Altair, Oh Pry, Proactivity, and you... though some guys are worse than others), the issue always comes down to one of two things:

• The guy isn’t getting enough field experience

• The guy is missing some core social nuance most people have naturally

The first one I have no sympathy for, because if you’re not willing to work hard for what you get, well, that’s like refusing to plant the corn because it’s too hot and you don’t think you should have to do that work, and then bitching and moaning when it’s harvest time and there’s no corn in your field. The heck you want anyone else to do about that? Pull out our time machines, go back in time, and force you to work?

The second one I feel for, but unfortunately there’s not an easy solution. The only thing I’ve seen that’s effective in this case is in-field coaching, or getting in-person mentoring over a period of time. A compounding factor is these guys are usually obstinate, and this is why they haven’t picked up on the lacking nuance (they either don’t want to do it, or have decided it’s unimportant). This could be anything from the guy talking too fast to the guy walking up and staring at girls like a robot… stuff that never gets conveyed over Internet forums and no one else would know you’re doing in a million years without seeing it (and you won’t think to talk about it because if you thought it was important you’d already have fixed it).

In either case, no amount of reiterating again and again how hard you have it and how XYZ special type of woman is tough for you will fix this.

On another note, no, blonde bombshells are not the “hardest to get” girls out there. Please don’t use justification like “Chase explained blondes spend a lot of money on hair, therefore they’re the hardest.” We’re not playing Who’s the Bigger Victim here, because I don’t want that race to the bottom anywhere near anything I’m associated with. Different guys do differently with different types of girls. My Korean buddy in SoCal hooked up with hot bottle blondes all the time, and used to complain about how he’d really like a hot Asian girlfriend who would cook him Korean food but he just couldn’t get anywhere with Asian girls. I’ve heard similar sentiments from other Asian guys operating in the States a long time... after a while, blondes get predictable and easy, but Asian girls stop wanting you. Heck, I saw it myself; when I finally figured out how to make bottle blondes want me in SoCal, I noticed at the same time that Asian girls cooled off towards me dramatically.

That’s one of the nuances with game; as you tailor yourself increasingly to appeal to certain kinds of women, you also tip yourself away from other ones. Most guys just aren’t that conscious of who they’re tailoring themselves to, and don’t exert much conscious control over it.

Chase

 

[Indian Race Troll (IRT)]

Chase, I am not buying that, what you will find is a colonialism mindset in a lot of ethnic girls once you start doing well with white girls, if you are a minority that is. The one thing I notice about Asian American men that do well with Asian American women (even the ones known for preferring white guys) is that they also do well with white women. I have found it to be the case for myself to where once I started doing well with white girls, girls of minority groups started to Chase (pun not intended) me even harder. Wanna know how it works?

Asian girls (and any ethnic girls in the USA for that matter) tend to look up to white girls, it is not politically correct for me to say this but ethnic girls tend to pedestalize white women. Now that is one of the main reasons you see so many Asian women in America acting so white, because they want to be accepted into mainstream culture. Most of these women will refuse to date men of their background but the second they see a white girl by his arms, all of that bias goes away, now they want him! I am a Korean American guy and I can confirm this to be true, the second you start being one of those Asian guys who can get white girls, all other girls want you.

That is what most other girls are doing, they're watching what white girls are doing. I know this is politically incorrect but it is the truth, most girls of minority groups know deep down that white girls are above them on the desirability ladder and among the white girls who are at the top? The blonde bombshells! Your friends might just not be dealing with shit tests but I am not buying your story, as an Asian guy I can say that if you can get white girls, you can definitely get Asian girls.

As for the thread itself, look Chase, hear me out on this. Blonde bombshells have been a headache for a lot of guys out there but as one member mentioned, you are always going to run into them. If you go to bars, clubs, and a lot of the wealthier areas, they're going to be everywhere. You ran into a similar issue in Southern California that you shared with us a few times, you just cannot avoid blonde bombshells. Now couple that in with the fact that they are at the top of the US sexual hierarchy and you will get frustrated guys who vent a bit about not being able to get them. It is a given obviously but overall, I think we can all benefit greatly if a blonde bombshell thread stood on its own because you are bound to run into them in high numbers in places were you practice game and places with lots of hot girls in them.

Raqimus:

Women that dye their hair blonde and try to fit the hot blonde image are more shallow and pickier than other kinds of girls. The thing about hair color is that a lot of the blonde bombshells we talk about aren't natural blondes, they're bottle blondes who invest a lot of money into their appearance. As Chase's article said (if you bothered reading it), it can cost hundreds of dollars for a woman to successfully get her hair dyed properly. I won't go into too much detail about it but I recommend that you read the article and refrain from giving any advice on this thread.

I did read it. I did fuck a bottle blonde. No difference

Unless you've fucked a lot of them, your post has no value to this thread at all, please go elsewhere.

 

[lux7]

Heck, I saw it myself; when I finally figured out how to make bottle blondes want me in SoCal, I noticed at the same time that Asian girls cooled off towards me dramatically.
(...)
That’s one of the nuances with game; as you tailor yourself increasingly to appeal to certain kinds of women, you also tip yourself away from other ones. Most guys just aren’t that conscious of who they’re tailoring themselves to, and don’t exert much conscious control over it.

Chase

Hmmm, interesting, I know it's a bit of a silly question with no set final answer, yet it just make you wonder: so not even the "all round sexy guy" stage will unlock success across the board?

 

[lux7]

Re: The blonde bombshell article shows just how real this site is, thanks Chase!

I really don't fit ANY of the things that chase laid out. I do have a pretty good looking face, but I got a dad bod, I'm a bit goofy, and I have had a lot of success with bleach blondes.

I probably fit the personality type of a fratty guy and I get along amazingly with groups. Idk maybe it's because I approach mostly groups? Idk. They have just never been a problem at all for me. I have fucked and dated some really really stuck up hot ones.

(...)

Radeng

Extremely interesting point that has been touched here.

As an introvert who thinks of himself as "intelligent", whatever that means, I always saw group game and social circle as "not my thing", sometimes even with a snobbish attitude of "lower" value than cold approach when it comes to mating.

"The lone wolf" is my thing, roaming the streets by myself, the hardest way.. And the coolest way, goes the flawed mindset
And there you have, a huge dark spot on anyone with my similar attitude when it comes to group and social situations .


EDIT:
As I think about a bit more, I realize that's also one of the main reasons I do so badly in winters and so much better in summers: summers are better for a number of reasons, including happier people, holidays, sun, heat.. Yet another big reason is simply because I spend more time doing what I am (comparatively) better at doing: go by myself in the streets! While winter is more about bars and clubs, where I either avoid spending time or just plainly suck in these more social settings.
Thanks for making me rationalize on that .

 

[Anonymous]

Some parting thoughts before I voluntarily leave this thread for good:

To say that growing up in the States and navigating the social waters as an Asian American man is not different would be a lie. Of course, there are various sociological reasons for why people of different groups would have vastly different experiences, especially in the dating realm.

Yeah, Asians are a minority. But every minority has their stereotypes, racist generalizations, negative characterizations, etc. There are always going to be excuses... it's easy to latch on to the "race" card. I did it for years as a teenager growing up, but I've since discarded that lame excuse and sob story.

Have I been rejected and ridiculed for being Asian. Hell yeah. But it actually came as a pathetic attempt by lesser men, not the women, and especially not the white, bottle blondes.

I don't like to toot my own horn, but wherever I go, I get attention from women, and that includes white girls of the bottle blonde variety. I've had intimate conversations with many women, of all "races", and the one thing that never seems to be an issue is "race". In fact, many times, especially the white girls, they're afraid that guys like me, who are Asian, are not interested in them. They generally don't have many reference experiences with dating Asian men, so the lack of familiarity plays more of a role (we tend to date and socialize with what we know, what is comfortable to us, hence white blondes = dating white dudes... kind of normal, it happens across the board with all groups).

Asian men tend to be seen as less dominant, and having spent time with many a Korean, Chinese, Japanese, Filipino American men, I do see a kind of "trope". They have defeatist attitudes about themselves and their chances with white girls, let alone bottle blondes. They think they can't get white girls because of the societal programming and lack of risk taking.

So yeah, you're right Fuji. Asian men can be seen as less desirable. I'm sure we're not their first choice. I'm sure that when they fantasize about men, it's not an image of an Asian man (unless they happen to one of those Asian-Kpop otaku niche girls...)

But I don't blame them. It's not really their fault if they've grown up in America, where the dominant images in media are portrayals of dominant white men in movies, TV, literature, you name it. They're likely not to have been exposed to other cultures through school curricula, and even if they have friends who are of Asian descent, it doesn't mean they will automatically develop an appreciation and understanding of Asian men and their merits.

You also have to understand that Asian people in the U.S. are a tiny representation of Asia overall. For example, in Southern California, the number of Koreans is only about 1-3%. That's a small number. It's highly likely she never even had Asian friends, or very few, and having no precedent of dating Asian men doesn't really help.

What gives a white, bottle blonde any incentive to go out of her way to date a man she probably isn't familiar with, doesn't fit into her "typing", and lacks understanding of her own psyche and social norms? There is no incentive for her. If she truly is a "bottle blonde", you're the one that has to show her what your value is.

Unless she has a thing for Asians and Asian culture, you have to conform to her type. If you're too different, you show that you can't relate to her collective identity and experiences and she'll push you away. Different can be good, I know from personal experience. Some of the more curious white girls (not just blondes) have shown interest in my cultural background, but if you're TOO "exotic" it backfires. The only reason my "race" doesn't work against me is because I can relate to her as an Americanized Korean guy, and I dress in a way that appeals to their type, and I can talk to them about topics that they appreciate. But then again, I tend to meet the more sophisticated, intellectually sound and socially calibrated white, bottle blondes. (shrug)

Whatever happened to you Fuji, I can't assume that I know or understand exactly, despite being a Korean American myself. All I can say is that I've been subject to racism and mistreatment, but it doesn't make me special or a victim. Either you'll figure it out eventually or you'll give up and stay gnashing your teeth for the rest of your life.

Here's hoping that you'll figure it out, move on from the negative experiences and ultimately have success with women. No one here is rooting against you.

 

[Smurf]

Alrighty then. Next week I'm gonna start a new journal to hyper boost my progress. I'm gonna approach everyone, and when I approach them I'll detail as much as I can into what I'm doing. I'm black, so I am ethnic, so we'll see how blondes react. You guys can join me, take notes, whatever, but it's time to stop speculating and take action.

Jake.

 

[Franco]

Fuji,

Not going to comment on much more here, but I can diffuse this:

Chase, I am not buying that, what you will find is a colonialism mindset in a lot of ethnic girls once you start doing well with white girls, if you are a minority that is. The one thing I notice about Asian American men that do well with Asian American women (even the ones known for preferring white guys) is that they also do well with white women.

I'm in this bracket (in that I do well with both white and Asian women), and I can explain exactly why. It has a LOT more to do with the way I ACT around Asian women than I do around bottle blondes. I'm at that level of seduction right now where the difference in my success from other guys is my ability to calibrate my social tactics towards specific girls.

And I can tell you right now that whenever I am around Asian girls, I act way differently than I do around bottle blondes. I act much more nerdy, I'm less of an asshole, and I give much more "cute" compliments than I do "direct 'you look really sexy' type of comments". I recognize this difference in culture between the two, and I can quickly flip back and forth in my personality to adjust my vibe to those types of girls.

So when you see a white guy doing really well with both bottle blondes and Asian women, it's for one of two reasons. The first reason is the one I mentioned above: his game is substantially better than most guys, and he's able to socially calibrate himself to each individual girl and find out what it is she likes very quickly, and then become it. The second reason is that the Asian girls that you might be referring to are the type who hang out with lots of white girls, so they are essentially Asian girls with bottle blonde personalities. If I discover this is the case, then I immediately start busting their chops, teasing them very hard, and giving them more assertive compliments. Essentially, I act way more blunt and asshole-ish around them -- exactly the same way I would around a bottle blonde.

There are still plenty of Asian-American women in the U.S. who are much more traditional, and if you were your typical "bro" white guy who's incapable of changing his demeanor around more reserved, conservative Asian women, then you will fail drastically at pulling them. They will either (a) be put off by you or (b) be unable to relate to you. These are the types of Asian women that Chase was referring to when he mentioned Asian women suddenly "cooled off" on him when he started spitting "bottle blonde" game at traditional Asian girls.

This is something worth noting and thinking about. The reason why ties in with what I mentioned in my previous post to you: it seems much harder to become good with bottle blondes because the personality you have to project is very different from what you need to project from other types of women. Social grace and intelligence is required for a lot of high quality women, but for high quality "bottle blondes," it's something else entirely. Now, that's not to say that guys with social grace and intelligence can't pull bottle blondes, but they need to recognize when it's time to project a very different vibe because of the type of women they are dealing with.

This is obviously very advanced stuff. You're essentially asking, "how can I connect and have sex with women who, by default, don't connect with my default personality and don't generally want to have sex with my default look/fashion/personality?"

Well, the answer is simple: you modify the way you connect with them and you modify your look/fashion/personality. And while the answer is simple, the implementation is much, much more difficult. And until a guy learns how to do that, he's going to forever struggle with the girls that are too far removed from his default personality and game.

- Franco

 

[Chase]

Fuji-

I suggest reading research on actual dating preferences to get outside of your own head and own experiences:

http://www.businessinsider.com.au/race- ... pid-2011-3

http://newsone.com/1091495/study-shows- ... ttractive/

(there was another study I saw that found both white American and Asian American men overwhelmingly find half-white half-Asian women the most desirable type, though I can't find the source at the moment)

I realize it's sometimes difficult to see the world through the eyes of others, and sometimes difficult to accept that your experiences and those of others are not identical and are instead colored by your own personality and location and background and preferences.

However, blonde bombshells are NOT the epitome of desirability to all men (though they are to some), nor are they "watched and followed" by all (or even all that many) other women, particularly seeing as they are watchers and followers themselves. Black women frequently define themselves in opposition to white women, brunette women consider themselves superior to bombshells just as bombshells consider themselves superior to brunettes, and the few beautiful Indian and Middle Eastern women you will meet in the United States are usually considerably more difficult to bed than equivalently attractive blonde bombshells (and I've not heard differently from anyone - although I'm sure there's some guy out there who's got Indian/Middle Eastern women cracked and struggles with bottle blondes). I will agree with you that American-born Asian girls often emulate white girls to large degree, though you're incorrect that all things that appeal to one type of girl will appeal to all others.

If you ask me, most of the blonde bombshells I meet are a poor man's natural blonde... faint imitations. I do meet the occasional intelligent, ambitious bombshell, but a great many of the women who feel like they need to dye their hair blonde are doing it to compensate for shortcomings in other areas, like facial attractiveness, intellect, or personality. Not all, of course, but it is a definite trend you will pick up. Some guys like them because they're easy; some guys fall for them because they get sucked in by the hair and makeup. And some minorities and outsiders go for them because they view them as their ticket to finally becoming "accepted", trying to access this woman who's struggling to conform and use her as their own ticket to conformity. That can make these women ideal to these different groups of men, for different reasons, but hardly makes them the women atop the pedestal for all.

Chase