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About 10 approaches today. Got two numbers and one of them responded well. Will try to set something up for this week.
With the other girl I had a date for tomorrow, she flaked, and I think I screwed up the texting response. From now on, before I send a text, I should check to see if I am chasing the girl, or whether I want to meet her more than she wants to meet me. My texts should not be conveying that, and that should improve my texting a lot.
Vibe is off ever since I fucked up my date on Tuesday. Sexually frustrated and sad that the girl doesn’t seem to want to meet again. I guess I’m taking it personally as an insult instead of more as a learning experience. But the pain should fade as I go on more dates.
With the other girl I had a date for tomorrow, she flaked, and I think I screwed up the texting response. From now on, before I send a text, I should check to see if I am chasing the girl, or whether I want to meet her more than she wants to meet me. My texts should not be conveying that, and that should improve my texting a lot.
Vibe is off ever since I fucked up my date on Tuesday. Sexually frustrated and sad that the girl doesn’t seem to want to meet again. I guess I’m taking it personally as an insult instead of more as a learning experience. But the pain should fade as I go on more dates.
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Did 6 approaches today, but couldn’t find that many attractive girls.
Unfortunately a lot of my leads have been flaking one me, but I’m getting more numbers so hopefully they’ll even out. Also my texting needs to become a lot less needy.
Unfortunately a lot of my leads have been flaking one me, but I’m getting more numbers so hopefully they’ll even out. Also my texting needs to become a lot less needy.
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Did 2 nightgame approaches, and got one number. The girl responded to my save my number text, so we’ll see if she bites today.
The other useful tip I got is if a girl ever gives me a compliment during escalation and it’s not good for the mood, I should just smirk and say “sometimes I am”
The other useful tip I got is if a girl ever gives me a compliment during escalation and it’s not good for the mood, I should just smirk and say “sometimes I am”
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About 10 approaches today. I think my vibe has been too needy. My coach suggested the following mentality while approaching:
“I’m doing her a favor by approaching her”
And if she responds,
“Is she good enough for me”
I changed my mentality to this (as much as once can consciously alter their mentality) and I do one last approach. Cute mainline Chinese girl on her way to a dance shoot. Talk with her a bit and tease mildly. Grab her number and she says she’s down to grab drinks.
Girl from last night didn’t text back :/
“I’m doing her a favor by approaching her”
And if she responds,
“Is she good enough for me”
I changed my mentality to this (as much as once can consciously alter their mentality) and I do one last approach. Cute mainline Chinese girl on her way to a dance shoot. Talk with her a bit and tease mildly. Grab her number and she says she’s down to grab drinks.
Girl from last night didn’t text back :/
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About 6 approaches today. 2 were from coffee shops. The first one I approached her after she walked out. I ran after her and opened her. She was a Swedish woman who was warm to me, but she was flying out tonight, so no logistics. Then there was this beautiful girl from Kazakhstan who sat next to me. Opened her indirect, and then eventually asked her out, but she said she had a boyfriend. After that, the approaches were pretty bad, due to vibe and overall feeling shitty. Last approach of the day started out well, and I did some teasing, but the ending was really bad, so I don't expect her to respond. Feeling really fucking shitty at the moment.
Going to write out a decision tree for how I should approach:
1. Direct Open
2. Instead of asking a question like where she's going, or what she's up to, make an observation about her, and use that observation to make a guess. Based on that I can continue the conversation by telling her why I thought that.
3. After making a playful statement, learn where she's from. If she has an accent, and I don't recognize it, say this: "I can hear an accent, but I can't place it". If I think I know, then say "You seem <nationality>" without making it a question. She'll answer and we'll talk a little of that. If she's American, then say "You seem like you're a <state> type of girl", and then come up with a reason why.
4. Tell her she seems really cool, but that I have to rush somewhere, but that I'd love to grab drinks with her this week.
5. Tell her to scoot to the side of the street so that we won't get run over by traffic.
6. At this point, if I don't know what she's doing right now, I can ask her what she's up to, or where she's going. This will be the first question I should ask. Ideally I should be able to tease her slightly. If she's just going home to rest, then I can hopefully tease her that I thought she'd be up to something more interesting, since she looks like a <personality trait> type. This could lead into a statement on what her interests might be. This would be a good opportunity to qualify her.
7. If she's free suggest an instant date, otherwise tell her it was cool to meet her, and we'll figure out plans for drinks later.
The above is open to change in the future. For now, I'll try implementing it piece by piece.
Going to write out a decision tree for how I should approach:
1. Direct Open
2. Instead of asking a question like where she's going, or what she's up to, make an observation about her, and use that observation to make a guess. Based on that I can continue the conversation by telling her why I thought that.
3. After making a playful statement, learn where she's from. If she has an accent, and I don't recognize it, say this: "I can hear an accent, but I can't place it". If I think I know, then say "You seem <nationality>" without making it a question. She'll answer and we'll talk a little of that. If she's American, then say "You seem like you're a <state> type of girl", and then come up with a reason why.
4. Tell her she seems really cool, but that I have to rush somewhere, but that I'd love to grab drinks with her this week.
5. Tell her to scoot to the side of the street so that we won't get run over by traffic.
6. At this point, if I don't know what she's doing right now, I can ask her what she's up to, or where she's going. This will be the first question I should ask. Ideally I should be able to tease her slightly. If she's just going home to rest, then I can hopefully tease her that I thought she'd be up to something more interesting, since she looks like a <personality trait> type. This could lead into a statement on what her interests might be. This would be a good opportunity to qualify her.
7. If she's free suggest an instant date, otherwise tell her it was cool to meet her, and we'll figure out plans for drinks later.
The above is open to change in the future. For now, I'll try implementing it piece by piece.
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Tried out the new system today, and had really promising results. Got three numbers and all three responded. Set up one date for Friday, one tentatively for next Friday, and one more I’ll text tomorrow.
All three girls I ran back and approaches, with two approaches from the side, and one all the way to the front. The main difference was that I started making cold reads and asked girls to move when getting there number as a compliance move.
The Asian girl I also had lean in to me and talked, but according to my coaches, the texting was too verbose/friendly. I’ll have to work on that.
All three girls I ran back and approaches, with two approaches from the side, and one all the way to the front. The main difference was that I started making cold reads and asked girls to move when getting there number as a compliance move.
The Asian girl I also had lean in to me and talked, but according to my coaches, the texting was too verbose/friendly. I’ll have to work on that.
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About 11-12 approaches today, got blew out on all of them. I think the issue was my vibe. It was too needy, and I had forgotten the mentality of “I am doing a girl a favor by approaching her”. I’ll focus on doing that tomorrow and in the coming days.
My brain was also just not interested in participating, and there was some residual AA. I have a feeling that was a temporary thing.
My brain was also just not interested in participating, and there was some residual AA. I have a feeling that was a temporary thing.
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Decent number of approaches before my date today (FR here: viewtopic.php?f=5&t=21515). I am having issues with my voice, and my approach timidity. I need to focus on those two, and making sure I feel like I'm doing the girl a favor by approaching. Doing those three should improve my hook rate.
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3 approaches yesterday and 2 today. Second one today was decent. Opened her direct and she had been going home from a party the night before. Grabbed the number but no reply back.
Will try to have a second date on Tuesday and a first date with an Asian girl from last week on Friday. My date that was today flaked so hopefully I can set that up for later in the week.
Traveling to Seattle next week so set up a hinge account. Will try to get a few leads from there.
Will try to have a second date on Tuesday and a first date with an Asian girl from last week on Friday. My date that was today flaked so hopefully I can set that up for later in the week.
Traveling to Seattle next week so set up a hinge account. Will try to get a few leads from there.
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Did one approach before my date yesterday-it was shitty.
Had sex though.
viewtopic.php?f=5&t=21538
Main things I focused on were making sexual jokes, talking slower and sexier, and being more mysterious and focusing the conversation more on the girl.
Had sex though.
viewtopic.php?f=5&t=21538
Main things I focused on were making sexual jokes, talking slower and sexier, and being more mysterious and focusing the conversation more on the girl.
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2 approaches today. Got a number off the second one, it was a solid approach from around the side. We talked and she touched my arm. I got some compliance by having her walk with me to where she was going. Did some light teasing by telling her I was quite distracting. She’s only here until Thursday but she agreed to meet tomorrow for drinks. She hasn’t responded yet but we’ll see.
Have a date set up for Wednesday and hoping to set up another date soon.
Have a date set up for Wednesday and hoping to set up another date soon.
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Did 5 approaches today, but none stuck. Today, I think it was mainly rust.
Had a date after, but it didn't go very well.
viewtopic.php?f=5&t=21597
Had a date after, but it didn't go very well.
viewtopic.php?f=5&t=21597
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7 approaches today. First 6 were absolute trash due to being in a bad vibe. Stopped after that and went to the gym. On my way back I did one more approach. It went decently and I got the number, but there's nothing really to note about it.
In general on the approach, I need to focus on my process more and my fundamentals. My voice was off, and I was being more timid than I should be.
In general on the approach, I need to focus on my process more and my fundamentals. My voice was off, and I was being more timid than I should be.
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A very mixed bag over the last few days. Been feeling really low energy with the weather change, but my macro momentum is really good. I’m usually getting at least one number every time I go out. Had an insta date a few days ago but the vibe was really bad due to us not sitting next to each other which made it hard to touch each other.
Met a Spanish girl yesterday from the Canary Islands and got her number. Really should have done an insta date with her but I didn’t. Will text her today and try to get her on a date.
Met a Spanish girl yesterday from the Canary Islands and got her number. Really should have done an insta date with her but I didn’t. Will text her today and try to get her on a date.
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One really shitty approach today. Ended up having my second date of the week.
viewtopic.php?f=5&t=21644
Main things I have to focus on are visualizing me and the girl getting sexual, and focusing on the pace of my voice to make it slower and more hypnotic.
viewtopic.php?f=5&t=21644
Main things I have to focus on are visualizing me and the girl getting sexual, and focusing on the pace of my voice to make it slower and more hypnotic.
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Five approaches today. First one was in the subway, noticed a girl stand next to me and give up trying to get on, so I just opened her like that. She didn’t give a strong reply so I left it, but then she reopened me and I continued the conversation. Bantered for a bit before grabbing her number. One moment I could have done better was we were in the subway and she mentioned how because it was crowded we would get all hot and sweaty. I just said that sounded fun. I should have turned it back on her by asking her, “I thought people loved to go to work all hot and sweaty”.
After work did some approaches, but most didn’t go anywhere.
Finally did one last approach. Girl was slightly aloof, so I stayed aloof too. She didn’t really reciprocate any of my questions but stick around, so I grabbed her number after asking her out for drinks. Should have tried for an insta-date.
Girl from the morning responded really warmly, so definitely think that will pan out.
After work did some approaches, but most didn’t go anywhere.
Finally did one last approach. Girl was slightly aloof, so I stayed aloof too. She didn’t really reciprocate any of my questions but stick around, so I grabbed her number after asking her out for drinks. Should have tried for an insta-date.
Girl from the morning responded really warmly, so definitely think that will pan out.