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I don’t know. Are you aware of this? Have you noticed this change in yourself?
It’s like you’re a different guy now, Zac.
I am.
I don’t know. Are you aware of this? Have you noticed this change in yourself?
It’s like you’re a different guy now, Zac.
"You know, you're a long-time member on here, of a fairly high rank. That carries a certain responsibility with it."
"It's a kick"
This
What would that be?@Chase recently noted that I'm a guy who probably doesn't see the value of pickup as it is.
What would that be?
When the amount of media coverage is dramatically out of proportion to the actual threat level, then yes, it is a killer bees story.
I'm going to cut your nose hair, Chase!
The smart phone plugged all these women into the global dating market. It's almost a level playing field now globally, especially if you use apps or try to simp in any way (impressing with money etc.)
It just worked.
That was, until about 3 years ago. What changed? Maybe it was just me. Maybe I just got older. Maybe it was any number of other things. But at the end of the day, I now come back to drawing board, seemingly back to square zero, asking the same question I asked a decade ago, when my lay count was less than three:
"How do I get a freaking date with a cute girl, get her to like me, have sex with me, and date me?"
And now, nothing seems to work
It doesn't help that I look around and suddenly half the women I see are married or single mothers. I'm constantly asking myself, "Did I miss the boat?" And I'm feeling more and more pressure to just bite the bullet and lock down something lest I wind up alone for the next 30 years.
.I feel like I need another paradigm shift. Another eye-opening revelation like the one this site first offered. Maybe I'm in the failing minority, and my position isn't relevant to the bigger picture. But I doubt it.
Zac,
Yeah, 95% of the time it's one of those cases (open wound, sketchy folks, homosexuals... and homosexuals tend to very often both do sketchy things and have open wounds in their anal/genital areas).
You can eliminate most of your risk factor by a.) sticking to girls you meet via day game / no online, no nightlife, b.) screening women for wild/loose behavior.
And yeah, of course, if you have an open wound, don't shag till it's healed.
Got to screen social circle girls too. Guys tend to trust them more because "she's in my social circle, I'm sure she's safe" or "I've known her forever, she must be clean" which is not how that works. Every girl is in some guy's social circle and has some guy she's known ages... including girls with every disease imaginable. I know two guys who shagged tons of girls from cold approach without problems but caught chlamydia by shagging girls from their social circles or whom they'd known a long time. In both cases, they assumed the girl was safe, raw dogged her, and caught clap.
People will tell themselves whatever disease they have is "not that big a deal" or "s/he won't catch it from me" and will downplay, minimize, or hide it. So you can't really rely on this person telling you.
Just have to look for risk factors.
And you never get to 100% safety. There's always that random sweet girl with two lifetime partners who's never had a one-night stand but whose unfaithful boyfriend gave her herpes. That's always sad for that girl.
But most of the time the folks with this stuff have obvious risk factors you can avoid... if you're careful.
Then again, when it's 3 AM and you're drunk and this hot girl is all over you, it can be pretty darn tempting to go raw on her in the back alley behind the dumpster.
So there's that...