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Sounds like you’re at the point of frustration. You don’t want to get to this point.
ideally you forget about her. You text her, and if she never texts back you didn’t even notice because you’re onto other things and other girls. Even better because she might text you months later since she realizes you moved on (which is what attractive men with options do)
So that point to move on looks something like this, you’ve invited her out a few times and she keeps dodging or flaking. I’d say 2-3 times.
ideally you forget about her. You text her, and if she never texts back you didn’t even notice because you’re onto other things and other girls. Even better because she might text you months later since she realizes you moved on (which is what attractive men with options do)
So that point to move on looks something like this, you’ve invited her out a few times and she keeps dodging or flaking. I’d say 2-3 times.
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Yap.I easily hit the delete button for me.I'm all for persistence but after a certain point I feel much like I'm going against my value attribute.I want to always feel in control.I mean is it worth to keep plowing texts and texts to a lead that ain't responding?All in name of " persisting"
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Well, either this girl is texting incessantly and it's going nowhere... or you yourself are texting incessantly and it's going nowhere.
If #1, simple solution: every time she messages you, ask her out. She'll either stop messaging you, or come out.
If #2, don't block -- just delete, if you really need it for psychological purposes. Then you won't see her name in your phone / contacts list anymore, at all.
But why would you do that when you can just ball-in-her-court text her, forget all about her, and go meet other girls... and if she texts you back 3 weeks, 4 weeks, or two months from now saying she's now ready to meet, hey -- icing on the cake?
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Haha...makes sense.But what if she's not replying.I mean she ghosts you,you ball-in-her-court her ,you then meet or are meeting other women meanwhile and thus happening to forget all about her.Then one day you meet her and play it cool as if nothing happened ,then it just happens that either of you is busy or you both are meaning you can't go for an instant date so u schedule it for later in person.
Comes the meetup or date day and she ignores you.Video messages,voice messages and text messages don't pan out.Doesn't that simply mean it's a go-nowhere interaction.And maybe you hold on a little longer and maybe you hit her a resurrection text...still she doesn't reply.
What do u do after all this? Isn't it just better to delete the no and focus on better leads.Really think it's good for peace of mind.Nothing's really great than gaming a lady showing u interest or lack of.Cause at least you can calibrate .But a lead where u are unaware she's interested or not cause she ain't replying makes one come across socially akward if u keep sending and sending her texts.I'm better off losing it all and starting it all over again with new prospects.What do you think? maybe I'm missing out on something.
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No, actually the way Chase writes his ball in your court line is much better for peace of mind. Because when you write it, there is zero ambiguity about why you have left, the girl cannot say you "didnt try hard enough/ didnt value her enough". Happens more than you would believe even if when they are the parties who are resisting, although I know that deep inside they know they are bullshitting haha. But you also come across as less butthurt , it is actually pretty smooth line which can feel practiced (because it is) and can function like a takeaway. She has been throwing curve balls towards you right? With this line you are the one who is throwing a curve ball towards her, because now she needs to act or she has to lose you (upping your scarcity). A lot of girls actually like the amibigiuty of courtships because it gives them a lot of time to play the field when you are not careful.. Or sometimes they have boyfriends you are not aware of.
So great line, has helped me a lot with ending courtships without wondering if the girl really got the message about why I am actually leaving.
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I am not against the ball-in-her-court texts.I just want feedback.With feedback I know how to calibrate my interest level relative to hers.That's why I'm willing to persist a second or third time cause she may play coy or throwing mixed signals my way.
Without the feedback from her,I mean a reply herein...the ball-in-her-court text may come across less butthurt as u say but a girl who is experienced enough sees through it.And she may look at your monologue-y texts thread later on and say she has no need to seek you after cause she never invested into the text convo.
I'm all for deleting the no and forget all about it.Hell,I can pass her if I meet her.With a ball-in-her-court text you still have her in mind and u may seek her out months later.Who's chasing?Most girls are texting most dudes to cherry pick one who ball-in-her-court-ed her.Lol.
Abundance is do u want me Now.Yes or No?No....delete.Not that you are bitter.Far from that.It's wanting to move forward and fast.Most of I'm busy texts or calls are string-alongs .I'm all for doing what works for me and that is seeking out better fields.
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A bitch who wants you doesn't have to make you wait.
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There is limited info. So you are getting all type of responses, what happens when you dont block and just move on, most women ping cause guys get needy she feels it, the dudes move on, at this point she feels withdrawal and pings... this happened to me more times i can count...
We dated and now we just talk daily but I’m getting frustrated with her and get pretty nasty with her if I drink too much and it’s a recurring cycle …so at what point do we stop talking even though we both still care about eachother even when shit is kinda a mess
We dated and have been separated for a couple months but text every day and it’s like a relationship without the sex …she’s not out banging other dudes or anything like that but she doesn’t want to meet up (when she’s sober) she calls late nights when she’s drunk but we never got to meet up to release all the tension and things are more and more volatile so at what point do u block her and move on as things are going downhill or how to you turn things around when I hinges are messyWell, either this girl is texting incessantly and it's going nowhere... or you yourself are texting incessantly and it's going nowhere.
If #1, simple solution: every time she messages you, ask her out. She'll either stop messaging you, or come out.
If #2, don't block -- just delete, if you really need it for psychological purposes. Then you won't see her name in your phone / contacts list anymore, at all.
But why would you do that when you can just ball-in-her-court text her, forget all about her, and go meet other girls... and if she texts you back 3 weeks, 4 weeks, or two months from now saying she's now ready to meet, hey -- icing on the cake?
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What does we dated means? I suspected neediness, i was right...
- dated she does not want to meet
- get drunk and get nasty etccc
All of this is neediness due to lack of control on the girl... she can feel this pushes her away...
What does we dated means?
Why you stop dating?
Dating for us is dick in pussy multiple times, did this happen?
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Dude, I get it, it sucks, but this is all you.
Block her number or no, look at the state you're in brother. A woman is running all over you and fuckrd your shit up a bit.
I've been there. I end up there when I do shit wrong.
Rather than block or keep her number, you should be most worried about the emotional reality in which you currebtly exist.
It's such a simple, common problem with the same answer every time.
A) Get free of where you are and B) do better next time.
Part A) requires new emotional realities, growing away from where you are, new experiences, and maybe most importantly new women.
You need to find a way to make this girl feel like she happened a million girls, and I suggest you do this as fast as possible.
Block her number or no, look at the state you're in brother. A woman is running all over you and fuckrd your shit up a bit.
I've been there. I end up there when I do shit wrong.
Rather than block or keep her number, you should be most worried about the emotional reality in which you currebtly exist.
It's such a simple, common problem with the same answer every time.
A) Get free of where you are and B) do better next time.
Part A) requires new emotional realities, growing away from where you are, new experiences, and maybe most importantly new women.
You need to find a way to make this girl feel like she happened a million girls, and I suggest you do this as fast as possible.
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No matter how busy a woman is, she will find time for you. It seems there is an uncover reason she broke up, she is helping u save face with some silly excuse... best book on neediness is models mark manson...i would also review my break up post... You are in the post break up, friendzone stage...
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Need to block is usually due to one itis no other options .... Or perhaps the need for a reaction? Basically it screams autorejection...
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yeah when you mean autorejection for clarification he autorejecting out of frustration lack of control, yes is neediness onitis all over the post...
sorry when I said block I should reiterate it means delete this person out of life starting with no interaction I guess with a block….not trying to get a reaction but get rid of someone
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Yes we call that hard next(cut all contact)... correct, good move..... Sometimes women do stuff for the guy to break up or end it from their part, they set it up so they don't have to deal with the guilt of cutting the relationship.... I suspect also this may be happening, that way she avoids direct fault...(i actually mention this in the post or video forgot)
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