Okay so I've got my first slay which has been written up in FRs section, and I have gotten some gratifying feedback from the studs
With this under my belt I was pretty fucking pumped to go to a trance festival the following day (actually had been planning to leave Thursday night but was too busy haha)... I don't really know what the trance scene is like in the USA but I know it's huge in Europe (I met people from Sweden, Germany, France, ... have been to festivals in Netherlands and other places)... if you know Burning Man festival then I guess this was kinda similar except shorter, just 4 nights (with the stages operational Fri/Sat).
So I decided to get in state by approaching women everywhere along the way, chatted up some cute festival goers in different country towns and had long chats with deli operators, fruit shop chicks, etc while getting shit sorted for the festival... got there and found a number of relatives and friends were there, and had saved a big space to make a mega camp well it was sick, but I was a little bit in two minds cos I was thinking of just setting up a really little anonymous camp somewhere to pull women to.
Anyway well I set up my camp etc, and got down to the doof in the early afternoon (local terminology... trance parties are doofs and this word can also refer to the dance floor)... had chatted to a German chick directing traffic and so forth... but when I got there I totally froze up, fuck it... couldn't approach. Well I felt a bit miserable but eventually locked eyes with some chick who held the eye contact, I was kinda heading her way already, so I lasered her while making my way over and introduced myself "Hi there... I'm Raymond and you?" well she's shaken my hand and then just smiled broadly and turned away and kept dancing, not ideal but I had my start! Fuck yeah!
From this point it got a little easier, I introduced myself to some other cute women, but TBH was not really feeling it, there was a tension between my eyes and I needed to loosen up a bit. So contrary to my normal philosophy I decided to get some alcohol on board, well I downed a massive Scotch and dry with my cousin (loaded with ice, it was like 40 degree heat out there)... as the alcoholic rush kicked in I just totally hit my stride, introduced myself to a shit ton of women, great reactions, lots of grinds etc.
I continued approaching and getting grinds until the evening hit, the fabulous thing about this first afternoon was the pre-selection, all the women I'd previously approached could plainly see me opening other women even hotter than them (I used exclusively direct tailored compliment), and getting great reactions. Pretty soon I'd approached like 90% of the people in my immediate vicinity (guys too), also started just grabbing women as they walked past and grinding with them as well, it was all good fun
The problem with all this though, is that reactions != results... like I was having a really good time, but I was just doing my normal shotgun opening style that works well in clubs, so I wasn't really establishing deep connections with women... later I went to check out the market area, and this seemed to offer much better possibility for daygame style approaching, however, I did not really want to do this (or at least not too much), because I regard dancefloor approaches as more challenging, and I just fucking love the doof, I mean if you are going to a dance party and then just hanging out in the market to pick up girls in hot raver gear then why not just stay home...??
The other thing to consider is that I am a really good dancer, I mean I'm not trained or anything, but in freestyle I go fucking hard, because I really love it, I wear sick raver clothes that I've made myself and get a lot of compliments, so this works very well as a pre-opener, because when you are dancing you can pretty much go wherever you want on the DF and position yourself somewhere that a hot girl can see you, without appearing to have noticed her... and then when you approach her, you are golden.
Anyway so I eventually went to have a sleep (had got about 3hrs sleep after posting my LR and then getting up early to meet my trainer at the gym), headed back down in the evening and started to focus a bit more, I was still approaching women but I had to tell myself to (1) slow down and enjoy the party (2) look for IOIs, these were pretty abundant however (3) try to establish more of a connection with each woman. Anyway somebody I'll call Klara approached me, she called me by my brother's name initially but we quickly sorted it out, she is kinda oldish and not super cute, but has a hot, hard body and was down to grind, no coquettishness or fucking around, she seemed very into me. A voice in my head was saying "pull" but another voice was saying "bide your time... you're having fun... see what else the night will bring". In retrospect I hate this second voice, should have just taken her and fucked her then and there. This was to be a recurring theme and it's a massive sticking point for me.
Later Klara's fucked off for half an hour or so and I've begun grinding with an Indian fatty, lots of sexual tension, she seemed down to kiss me on the DF but I didn't go for it, should have. Where I've fucked up is when Klara's come back unexpectedly and seen me with the other chick, I felt a bit sorry for her and reached out to pat her on the arse, this has kinda set the cat among the pigeons and I've ended up with jack, IndianFatty: "Is that your girlfriend?" Me: "No!" blah blah, shouldn't have been defensive. Another problem was that IndianFatty was there with a male orbiter who then latched onto me for the rest of the weekend, he wants to go out with me this week. Hmmm. Why this was a problem, was that IndianFatty's behaviour was kinda subdued in his presence (reputation or whatnot), anyway window closed I think, didn't matter though.
So anyway I found this to be a bit of a downer, luckily my friends arrived soon after and we had a bit family circle going, so all good really, we went over to check out the main stage too (the music was slower and more hiphoppy on the main stage which is why all the serious hard core party freaks were hanging out at the stage closer to my camp). I did more approaches there, but I was getting tired again and becoming uncalibrated. I got one rude blowout when I tried the totally cute opener, but I have decided the totally cute opener is not appropriate to dance parties... it looks too aggressive/like hunting and the vibe of dance parties is meant to be very open/cooperative and comfortable... I also discovered my cousin is into PU, he was trying to teach me some moves etc, though TBH I felt I was probably working on my skillset a lot more consistently than him, anyway my cousin wants to go out with me to do PU later. I'm not sure if he's into daygame, he didn't mention it, maybe doesn't know about it?
I went to sleep for the rest of the night. Kinda wish I hadn't missed all the good music but I'm keeping in mind the advice on the main site (maybe from an article of Colt's) about when you go out, get plenty of rest and be on a solid foundation cos girls pick up on this stuff. Unfortunately I have sleep apnea and didn't have my sleep machine, so I really needed to get as much sleep as possible at doofs. I'm planning to buy an expensive attachment so I can run the sleep machine from battery (when I have time).
So more goodness the next day, once again I violated my rule and got completely shitfaced on alcohol, but this was not really a huge problem because I was practising a kind of Tucker Max style, basically just working on my IDGAF vibe and being self-amused... for example I've approached a hot chick down near the showers and said:
Me: Hi there, I love your cute outfit... you look fabulous
ChopsticksGirl: Ohh thank you (big smile... her hair is in a bun with chopsticks in it)
Me: You've even provided chopsticks, so I can eat you up (I smile warmly and quickly eject, but I speak to her again a few minutes later, just to prove that I can)
Me: Looks like a bit of a wait huh...
ChopsticksGirl: Yeah
A lot of this kind of shit went down, I cannot really remember it all now. The afternoon is a bit of a blur, I seem to remember trying to get grinds with women and getting a little frustrated when none of them were up for it, I think possibly they're more defensive on the second day because they've met all their friends and gotten into groups so there's reputation damage issues? I dunno really. Maybe I was just too drunk, but they were reacting to me fine in other respects apart from when I'd pull them in to me.
In the evening one of the headline acts was on (Shpongle) and although I thought the set was pretty crap (not hard enough except in the last half hour) everyone else was raving about it... anyway we attended in a huge family group and I spent the whole time with Klara, just feeling up her hot body, she had apparently forgiven me for the previous night's antics. I think my family was laughing at me a bit, maybe they do not really like her, but I think she's cool (and I never pay attention to other people's bullshit). Another woman I'd cold approached, whom I'll call Megan, was dancing beside us for most of the time, I was getting some preselection, even if Klara is older etc. Klara made friends with quite a few other groups of hot women as well throughout Shpongle's set, and this was a good sign, I didn't bother to introduce myself however.
The night however I turned into an approach machine, I was really getting in fine state and once again had approached about 90% of the women in my immediate vicinity (I started this project as it was getting dark, it was more difficult after it got fully dark but this is where things got interesting)... quite a few of them knew me already of course. So this shy little chick has approached me (I've seen her at doofs before and had given her some EC and smiles in the afternoon I think)... given me a hug and a big kiss and naturally I've pulled her in for a grind, this seemed to be going well until her friends pulled her away, I think they were concerned it could get heavy, hahaha but this didn't stop them all wanting a grind themselves, I was happy to oblige... pretty soon various other random women were included too. And then I was hit by a fucking whirlwind: Megan... she's come bouncing up to me, just grabbing me and hugging me and whispering huskily in my ear "I can't get enough of your
energy..." she's then proceeded to kiss me with tongue for about 20 seconds before pulling away, I felt really pissed off that I didn't pull away first, taken by surprise I guess? Anyway so we've had a massive dance together, both of us were doing moves we'd never dreamed of... it was really exciting, in the state I was in there's no way I'd have considered pulling her off the DF (although I clearly should have) because I was just having too good a time, not because of Megan, but getting all the other validation too.
Later when things calmed down a bit and I moved to another part of the stage I opened someone I found really hot, a cute Japanese woman, everything about her was awesome, the way she was dressed, her sparkling eye makeup and so on... I think I first asked her for some of her drink and she's like really? are you sure?... It was fucking strong, something like Malibu and Coke... so after a brief conversation in Japanese I've tried to pull her off the DF "Let's go sit down somewhere so we can talk", grab her hand and try to pull her away (first attempted pull of the night and very belated) but did not succeed. I was probably not dominant enough. Fuck. I've gone off to get a beer by myself anyway, but re approached her later with a strong drink of my own... said to her "Tsuyoi aruko-ru de yowanakatta no?" ... "How is it you're not smashed from the strong alcohol??" and gotten a laugh as we've shared the Scotch and Dry, anyway I've continued to hit and run for a few hours just saying a bit of funny flirtatious shit here and there... Her: "Tomodachi o nakushita" "I've lost my friend..." Me: "Hitori de samishii ne" "Being by yourself is lonely isn't it..."... if I'd had better reactions I might have gone for the pull a second time, but basically it had become a bit chasey, she wasn't down for a grind and I was wasting my time with her. Shit. It was also a total shame because my Japanese friend who is very shy was hitting on the second chick and seemed to be burning it down, I was really happy for him, but then I gave him some sips of my drink, he doesn't handle alcohol very well, and he started getting totally smashed and uncalibrated, I felt extremely guilty and responsible.
Hmm so eventually I've gone off to the other stage, done some approaches along the way, met some interesting people at the other stage (another Japanese woman who was probably tripping on acid, at least not making a lot of sense, but happy for an introduction etc)... a really nice couple who were very kind and provided good feelings for me for the rest of the party, etc... I tried to pull a woman from the side of the doof to go for beer, but she wasn't down. (I think it was a re-approach but I cannot really remember, only that I was making an effort to move women at this stage). Once again I was getting tired and uncalibrated so I decided to call it a night, and went to sleep.
Couple of other notes, cannot really remember where they fitted in but I approached BlackAndWhiteGirl from a neighbouring campsite, she and I had a bit of a flirtatious thing going (I told her I liked her black and white style, she had like a black miniskirt and white see through top with a black bra underneath for a lot of the time)... she said she's here with her boyfriend so I used Mr.Rob's response "Oh yeah I've got a puppy at home too...(change the subject)"... she seemed to enjoy this dominance. I also pulled up my chair to a different neighbouring campsite and spoke to another cute woman, it seemed like it might be going somewhere but I never saw her after that. And while looking for my Japanese friend's campsite I approached a couple of women sitting down in their site, and invited myself to join their conversation for an hour or so.
The last day the vibe is always way more chilled and relaxed, everyone's tired but happy and defenses are down, however I have to be careful not to ruin the vibe by being too aggressive. People are starting to say to me stuff like "I saw you out there
shooting the women last night..."... or another dude from our camp "How are the
women going Ray?" and I'm like "Oh you'll have to ask them..."... I've also tried to hit on a couple of women we are camping with, the first time everyone's really assembled at the site and sitting down some introductions are made, so I immediately say to the hottest one "Hey Janie I love your cute outfit, you look great" (she does) in front of everyone and people are a bit like OMG Ray is totally shameless... hahaha well she had a boyfriend, and so I've switched my focus to another one, a cute (but plump) little thing, but after a while I discovered I did not really like her, the conversation was bullshit and she's sucking on this electronic joint the whole time. She also seems to have an orbiter, this guy is like one of the biggest dicks I've ever met, so fucking submissive and retarded, he kept trying to suck up to me all night with all this name dropping and approval seeking... older guy who obviously cannot get laid. He even rocked out a dress for the second half of the party, all gut and Y-fronts under it.
Anyway back to the last day, well I'm taking it a bit more chilled and spending a bit of time drinking and bonding at the campsite, but I go out and do more approaches on the main stage of course, a shit ton of approaches, get some good grinds, but I may be shooting above my pay grade, I open a lot of really hot women but I'm a bit intimidated to take it too much further. One woman is particularly funny, she asks where I'm from and I make her guess etc, then eventually I say I'm just Aussie and she's surprised, so I show her my hearing aids and explain that I'm deaf and deaf people speak with an accent (this is how I used to handle it before I got any game, here I just CBF gaming really)... she's mortified although I try to explain that it's cool, I don't mind discussing it... she then says "I'm training to be a speech pathologist so I should have known that etc"... she clearly feels very bad so I tell her it will cost her a kiss. She gives me a big kiss on the cheek in front of some other women I've opened. Haha. She's good for a grind, so I hit and run for the next hour or so, in between other approaches, I'm not really sure what happened to her after that, but she was pretty cool.
I also have a dance in a family group in the afternoon, I give CuteButPlumpElectronicJointGirl a grind and get told off by other site mates for apparently making her uncomfortable, WTF? If she's not up for it she's capable of saying so... Anyway we have a sick, sweet time, eventually I peel off to get into some more IDGAF antics... for instance I'm talking to ShortFreshIroningGirl who had rocked out an ironing board the previous day and pretended to iron everyone's clothes while dancing... she has amazing skin and eyes and looks like she's just got up, though she's apparently gone hard all night... she's having trouble with her spray bottle so I'm trying to help when IrishHotPantsGirl walks past so I reach out and spank her on the bottom... ShortFreshIroningGirl is shocked and immediately goes over to tell tales on me, I just gaze into the distance with a bored look and keep dancing... eventually she comes back and I tell her if she's really luck she can get one as well... (and later on, she does haha). Some GlitterChick who I've been playing around with a bit (not sure if we ever introduced each other by name), I grab her water bottle and tip it on her, but there's not much left... so I go to my backpack and rock out a 4 litre canister that I carry with me, and come up beside her, grab her hat and dump this on her as well, she loves it. I also approach Megan later on and ask for some of her water, whereupon I empty that on her head as well, she's also down (but from my viewpoint it's getting a bit stale).
Interestingly I am gaining a bit of a reputation with my IDGAF antics and the fact that I apparently know all these hot women around us, the kinds of guys who have options are basically just looking at me and chuckling a bit, saying things like "you sly dog you..." or implying it... the kinds of guys who don't have options are clearly believing that I must have the biggest social circle known to man (it's far out of their comprehension that I had just met all these women in the preceding hours/days) and are trying to get close to me to be part of it. I respond by doing stuff like convincing them to go shirtless, confiscate their shirts etc... I'm also shirtless for the first time, I wouldn't really say I look pumped, but I have nothing to be embarrassed about this days... I'm covered in glitter because GlitterChick has gone around putting great handfuls of it everywhere.
Umm so I'm having lots of fun and getting grinds but I'm still conscious that time is getting short and that reactions != results... music finishes that evening so I try a bit of market game, long story short well I get some interesting conversations with different Japanese women, but I'm too much of a nice guy (don't want to cut some Mexican dude's lunch) and I'm too submissive... fail to move them, miss windows, things go stale and they suddenly fuck off and so forth... really frustrated with myself. Oh well. One missed window, this cute Japanese chick says she wants some more music... I don't have any fucking clue where to get more music (I want more myself) but I know people are listening to music back at the camp, I don't really want to take her there so I say something really negative about it and shoot myself down, it appears I have no idea what I want from her. Should have said, let's go listen to some trance in my car. In retrospect, plausible deniability is still really important, even at trance parties.
The worst thing about above missed window is I decide to go off by myself to look for some trance and
I fucking find some, there's an unofficial sound system not too far from my camp... I approach and say "hey nice doof you've got going here" and StringDressGirl says "hey! welcome aboard!!" and starts hugging me and kissing me and grinding me etc... She gives me some spinning lights on a string to play with and we keep this going for ages, I probably spend about 3 hours at this doof and meet various other members of their camp, pretty soon there's like 50 ppl there, mostly just sitting and chilling but there's some amazing hoop action from HoopGirl (she tells me the next day that her hoop cost $400 from the United States, it looks absolutely fucking incredible, all spinning lights and flashing different colours as she spins it)... I get on fucking fabulously with StringDressGirl (she looks absolutely stunning, blonde hair, some bindi's and stuff on her face and various glitter and other makeup, she's wearing only a pair of black lace panties under string dress, I joke that she has air conditioning and get some laughs)... my hands are all over her body. I get a bit of leadership in when I pull her out of her social circle and make her come and dance with me, however, I then proceed to miss windows and fuck myself up, same story as always: I'm having fun, I don't want it to end, I know intellectually that the clock is ticking, but I don't feel it, and then when she fucks off with some guy from her site I'm left with my dick in my hand feeling disappointed. I have the best conversations I've had the whole party with her, we really connect (but maybe I wasn't mysterious enough).
I'm feeling a bit tired, and depressed about StringDressGirl disaster, I'm over invested so I know that if I do see her again I'm likely to do something uncalibrated and fuck it up. For that reason I go off and have a sleep, I'm planning to set an alarm for in an hour and then go out to do some more approaching, but my phone battery is flat. So I just go to sleep until dawn. Fuck it. Whatevs. When I get up again, I have a shower, and I rock out another good outfit and go to check things out, and I see HoopGirl and some of the others but I'm not really in the mood to converse. So I just grab my backpack and water and continue on. There's not much happening at this time, I do a few half-hearted approaches on the road to the market but nobody hot. I get a little solid flirting in with the girl who makes the breakfast wraps. She's also a raver and she remembered me from the doof and the outfit I was wearing (IOI!!). I had opened by saying I remembered her from the previous party and I'd admired how she handled the breakfast rush, juggling a hundred balls in the air it looked like. (Previous night I'd also gotten some solid flirting and a kiss with the girl who takes the money for icecream).
Yeah so my party is winding down a bit, I don't see any strong possibility of pulling women back to my tent at this point so I pack it up and clean up the site (everyone else is sleeping). I see StringDressGirl while I'm shooting the fat with an Austrian neighbour (we are gonna meet up this week for drinks with my cousins etc)... so I tell Austrian dude I'm gonna go number close that girl, and from the top of the hill I can actually see her waiting outside the toilets for her friend, perfect for a discreet number close (though I believe she probably hates me now for missing windows, it's still worth a shot)... but alas, when I get down the hill she's nowhere to be seen. So I take a dump. I approach some other women (oldish or whatever) on the way back to the market, have a long conversation with HoopGirl, have a coffee etc and then I pack it in. Bye bye!
My sticking points this outing were
- Being too in the moment, having fun and forgetting to game the women
- Seeking reactions instead of results
- Not establishing enough of a connection with women before going for the pull
- Too hesitant on pulling women from the DF (if I don't really want to go away, why would they?)
- Missing windows, not using plausible deniability
- Getting shitfaced on alcohol (I forgot to mention that 1-2hrs before meeting StringDressGirl, I was really feeling it, and had to go to the coffee shop to sober up, nearly fell asleep there, although I eventually had some good conversations and succeeded in getting some investment... anyway I think my game was off due to the alcohol).
I would highly recommend dance parties as a place to hone your game. Very forgiving environment. All the advantages of club and social circle, and no disadvantages. I'm defo gonna get a ticket for the next big festival (as long as it falls on a not-kids weekend). And this time I'm gonna get myself a lay. I'll hone my game in the meantime.
Edit: My whole body hurts. Haha.
