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Attraction - Can it be Generated? - An Introduction to Compliance-Based Game

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Also @greenleaf talking also from my personal experience , I never really encountered a girl talking or looking at me without having at least some attraction ... so maybe there are some ticks and twerks that you can can do to improve your results :)
 

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Also @greenleaf talking also from my personal experience , I never really encountered a girl talking or looking at me without having at least some attraction ... so maybe there are some ticks and twerks that you can can do to improve your results :)
interesting. In my experience, some girls are just polite and social and willing to talk to you by their nature, even though they are in the hard 'red' category (where nothing you say will result in them wanting to sleep with you)
 
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interesting. In my experience, some girls are just polite and social and willing to talk to you by their nature, even though they are in the hard 'red' category (where nothing you say will result in them wanting to sleep with you)

But that is the thing , if she is attracted to you it does not mean that she also will sleep with you now or in the nearest future , but mainly this has nothing to do with you , and the best approach to this kind of women is to ping her from time to time ( sooner or later things will happen ) . Timing is super important , but people rarely talk about this. Being attracted is not the same thing as being "down to fuck"

Let me give you an example of something that just pumped into my head

I was talking with a girl but had to travel for 2 weeks so nothing happened fast enough. When I came back , she was still warm but never managed to meet her . After a couple of months I started seeing pictures with her boyfriend and stuff like that over fb ( they eventually married ) , but nerveless we still kept in touch ( liking pictures of eachother , occasionally how things are going discussions , stuff like that ) .

After some time out of thin air she tells me that she had a huge fight with her bf and that we should grab a drink , but in the same time she is also worried that if we meet things will happen and she is unsure if things ended with her bf or not and she will feel bad if her and her bf will get back togheter . I told her that if she is unsure about things let's catch up in a couple of weeks and see where things will go then ( I could have pushed for a meeting , but I was lazy as I was talking with more interesting girls ) .

But I was curious and asked her if he is the reason that we never really met and she told me that he is a guy that was pursuing her for some time and he looked like a serious guy that she can have a relationship with , while she perceived me as a guy more interesting but in the same time unsure if I would be interested in a real relationship with her or not , like the other guy was .

So basically because I did not move fast enough , I "lost" the battle with her current husband even though he did not play a good game , because of timing & me not moving fast enough , but nerveless the attraction was there and she knew exactly what will happen if we meet ( and guys here still say that women are not rational haha )
 
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So then I must curiously ask, why stop here - why not be open to explore further and get success with yet another type of women, and activate those triggers with an even bigger pool?

This is kind of what I opt for.

I am not saying your calls are wrong, just curious about your reasoning here. At this point we are discussing personal preferences.

That's a chode thing to do with some weird complexes. No top tier seducers (that I know off) do that.

I wouldn't even say it is a "guy's instinct" to do such a thing. It is a certain type of guy who does that.

Best,

Because I guess I got an ego. Like I have had awful experiences with Arab and Indian girls so unless it is a layup, I do not go for them, and I only go for them if it is a layup.

I think it is human nature but very much a thing for men to go after women they cannot have. When all is said and done, I will still treat women who are easier for me, receptive, and cool on the start way better than I would a woman I had to work hard to get. My theory is that you'll always be playing defense and defending yourself to her and her initial perceptions down the road. There is a reason she was a bitch from the get go, it was likely deep rooted to be like that towards men who are like you. Always guys that same woman would have been super submissive and chill towards.
 

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Grand pooba i think if you think hard I guarantee you, you had a red that when to yellow and then to green...

Yes I have definitely had girls like this myself, and I've gone for them that same night.

There have also been situations where I've faced reds, and I've not gone for them, and then ended up with a green that same night.

So yes it happens both ways.

Some Reds= no investment, no complaint, not attracted, indifferent


the yellows= give you a chance at least you are in the radar they are just less invested in you than you are in them, but at least they give you a chance,, "can take him or leave him"

the greens= they are a bit invested, a bit of a fan, cheering for you not to fuck it up...

I think this entire thread, everyone has different definitions of what these colors mean to them, and that is why there is so much disagreement.

And, there seems to also be a "fourth" color that some people define as Red.

cause i believe that when the guys are thinking red they are thinking of those girls that walk away, and tell you to fuck off, or push you away....

But if you are calibrated, and attractive you will not get those harsh reactions even from reds they will just be indifferent to you like you are just there...
Teevs said the same thing 'i'm not saying you can get all reds'.
So maybe the ones that can't be converted are the ACTUAL 'reds'. (thus reds can't be converted)

It seems like there is a fourth color - some people define this as their Red, whereas others don't even have a color for this.

At the same time, it's usually the guy's fault when a girl walks away, or tells you to fuck off, or pushes you away.

To me, "indifference" was always a type of Yellow. But "indifference" is Red to a lot of people here.

To your point on calibration, harsh reactions vs indifference - this is a good barometer too for your skill as a man, too. Indifference (or rather, just getting used to treating the behavior as indifference) to how she feels about you and gaming her smoothly anyway.

You do as you please. If you do not want to go through the hassle, it is totally understandable.

But keep in mind:
- SUPER HOT BABES do not grow on trees. Secondly those who exist will not always be receptive to you. So in many cases, a bit "more" will be required to get them.
- Not every night out is packed with hot girls who are into you. Some nights, there may even be very few girls in clubs (if that's never the case in your city, then you are just lucky). Some nights the general quality of the girls outside is pretty low, with only a few hot girls. If you want the few hot girls, you may have to "work".
- Some of us, love pussy only, others love pussy and the game itself. I am one of the latter. Some have this as a hobby. May be hard for some to understand but it is true. For you it may just be a mean to an end (get pussy) - which is ok. For others, it is more.

You guys may keep pushing your narrative that "it is not worth it to give attention to those who are not initially into you". But it will not convince those of us (me included), who have had amazing relationships and amazing sexual intercourses with amazing women who were not initially into us.

Skills had a girlfriend for 10 years that was one of those. You guys may keep saying it is not worth it, but I doubt he will be convinced.

One of my mains, is one of those girls, and she is my prefered one. You may keep saying it ain't worth it. Fair enough, but it simply won't convince me.

Give people a shot, before categorically claiming they are not worth it.

I like this post a lot, and I think it summarizes this entire thread effectively. You nailed it - some guys love pussy (or they're just learning), and others love pussy and game; and yet others are striving for a particular goal and there just aren't that many options available, so you've got to work for it.

And yes, truly those can become very memorable experiences - part of it is the difficulty and part of it is your own mental investment in the success, and seeing through the outcome. I also think often times such experiences are truly game changers and "level up" experiences. You grow immensely as a man.

This is one of those differences between "average guy" and "pro guy" mindset - and it's applicable outside of women and game too (think gaming, trading, sports, etc.)
 

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I have always been ego-driven and it worked for me when gaming my type, though it was probably due to circumstances but the way my mind worked was that if there are so many women from groups out there who want a man like me, why focus on those that don't? More importantly, why give my energy and time to women who already see me as a lower status or at best neutral when so many girls see me as cool and worth knowing?

At times though, it did turn into emptiness or less than fulfillment for me. I am not naturally drawn to blonde women and pale girls, preferring the Kim Kardashian look instead, but I noticed the high school me settled for blondes because they were nicer to me and it "just happened". In some ways I was, and still am, a victim to the social trends and the times.

It's tough to change because for me it becomes a matter of pride and guilt too. If a group of women has always been a source of fun times and easy pussy, even hot ones, then I do not want to give that up. I rather give them my best game, time, and effort while the ones who have been dismissive of me (Arab girls and Mediterranean girls) can either join in or get lost. I also at times get a bit uneasy gaming certain girls perceived as tough by me because of countless bad experiences from the past.
 

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It's tough to change because for me it becomes a matter of pride and guilt too. If a group of women has always been a source of fun times and easy pussy, even hot ones, then I do not want to give that up. I rather give them my best game, time, and effort while the ones who have been dismissive of me (Arab girls and Mediterranean girls) can either join in or get lost. I also at times get a bit uneasy gaming certain girls perceived as tough by me because of countless bad experiences from the past.

The first step in fixing yourself is to realize first that there is something to fix , and not try to act like there is nothing wrong :)

I really hope that you will be able to move on at some point , and be less negatively emotionally involved. Most of the "problems" are only in our heads mainly :)
 

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Teevs said the same thing 'i'm not saying you can get all reds'.
So maybe the ones that can't be converted are the ACTUAL 'reds'. (thus reds can't be converted)


I do not see where you want to go with this.

Because following that logic, any girl who you haven't fucked could be labelled red.

But clearly, many of those who you have not had sex with could have been girls you could have fucked.

Ask yourself:

* How can you tell actual " reds apart from girls your simply did not manage to have sex with?
* Why would want to spend time telling them apart? Firstly I do not see how this can be done successfully from an epistemological perspective (i.e. can you actually acquire enough knowledge to tell them apart? - I think not),
* Secondly, I do not see why you would like to have such a model - I mean from a practical point of view, why would you need a model to "catch" outliers - i.e. the little percentage of women who cannot be converted, because she hates you pre-opening. Again, those women who genuinely hate men, or hate you for no reason are generally RARE - as in SUPER RARE.

I said that you cannot get all reds , because you simply cannot get every girl out there. Just like you can't even get all the greens either.

Other factors plays in as well. We need to stop having this oversimplified one dimensional view which is based on attraction being the only, or the most important aspect in defining whether or not a women would like to have sex with you. Logistics, her values and beliefs, and her mood plays a major factor as well.

So for these reasons, you also cannot get every green out there. This does not make some greens any more or less green than the other - they all were attracted to you equally much, but they had different logistics, different moods and different beliefs around sex.

Mood, personality and logical factors will depend, but they make some greens more green than others - it does not help you define who is an actual green - that is, again if you look at the trafic light system as as a system based on attraction purely (which is what we are doing here). If the reasons for why you could not pull that green is because she just had a surgery in her pussy (extreme logistical hoop), does not make her any less green - from an attraction point of view. She will probably be harder to pull than most yellows and even reds.

The bottom line is, there is no way to tell which reds you will be able to pull, and which you will not . Same goes for greens. You simply do not know.

This is because more is at play than just mere attraction.

A red with amazing logistics, sexual liberated views and all that will be easier to pull than a green who loves you with all her heart, who lives in a different country, has a flight in 3 hours, and happen to be super stuck up with her sexual beliefs, and happen surrounded by 5 males and 4 females, where even some of them happen to be annoying people.-

The red one will be easier to pull.

There is a common bias associated with men's assessment of how difficult a girl is. The mistake they do is that they base their assessment primarily, if not purely on her level of initial attraction. But then they forget that her personality, her beliefs and the context also plays a major role. Her level of initial attraction is just an initial pointer - that's it - just one of many pointers.

The other factors that determines how difficult she is to pull, can only be assessed as you are getting further into the interaction.

The point I presented should not be taken out of context and I suggest people rereading my OP (people still forget the points I mentioned in the OP). I basically mentioned that attraction is just one of many factors that can lead to your success. Now sure, if a girl is simply not attracted to you, and have shitty logistics and have stuck up views, things will be VERY hard - but technically doable (have good logistics yourself, and hijack her view around sexuality). But if the logistics are so bad (you can deliver good game) that you cannot do that, and your game happen to not be on fire (you are not able to deliver good game), you will not get her.

In other words your success is also not only depending on her - on whether she is green or red, but ALSO on you and the context. And if it is all only depending on her, you have no way of telling for sure whether it is because she simply does not like you, or just happen to be in a bad mood.

Again, if a girl does not like you, it is not the end of the world. It means she is indifferent. Now the small % of girls who happen to hate you for no reason is rare. And I fail to see why guy like you so badly wants to have a model to define the VERY few girls who you can just never get, instead of focusing on the majority which you could get, all things being equal.


I also think , even if girls are willing to hear you out etc, she could still be a red with zero attraction towards you, and despite running game with negs and teases and cold reads and sex talk etc etc, she'll never allow you to escalate due to lack of attraction. Certainly happened to me many times lol

Why would she not?

Again, attraction is just one of many factors. One of the things I tried to convey in my OP, which sadly many have disregarded (maybe because I was not emphasizing it enough, or maybe I was just unclear), is that attraction is just aspect - an in my book not one that is arbitrary.

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Because I guess I got an ego. Like I have had awful experiences with Arab and Indian girls so unless it is a layup, I do not go for them, and I only go for them if it is a layup.

I think it is human nature but very much a thing for men to go after women they cannot have. When all is said and done, I will still treat women who are easier for me, receptive, and cool on the start way better than I would a woman I had to work hard to get. My theory is that you'll always be playing defense and defending yourself to her and her initial perceptions down the road. There is a reason she was a bitch from the get go, it was likely deep rooted to be like that towards men who are like you. Always guys that same woman would have been super submissive and chill towards.

You do not know that. Could be just a mood thing, or just a test.

Again, I will repeat myself: I do not care what she wants or what she thinks, I car only about how she responds - and then act accordingly.

Sure thing on the ego thing - what ever floats your boat. I prefer not letting my ego limit myself. Not saying I have no ego, but I try to transcend as much as I can - that's what game is partly about.

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Because following that logic, any girl who you haven't fucked could be labelled red.

But clearly, many of those who you have not had sex with could have been girls you could have fucked
The girls who he didnt fuck, that gave him 0 initial compliance (not willing to hear him out) were reds.

The girls who he didnt fuck, that gave him compliance (willing to hear him out) were yellows/greens (he fucked it up).
A red with amazing logistics, sexual liberated views and all that will be easier to pull than a green who loves you with all her heart, who lives in a different country, has a flight in 3 hours, and happen to be super stuck up with her sexual beliefs, and happen surrounded by 5 males and 4 females, where even some of them happen to be annoying people.-

The red one will be easier to pull
In this scenario, the 'red' will be easier to pull for someone she's attracted to (who she's a 'green' for).

The 'green' in this scenario, if she really loves you with all her heart, will tell her friends to leave her alone. Go with you back to your place (after you've dealt with her asd limiting beliefs) and may even miss her flight for you. Because your worth it. Game.
 

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I do not see why you would like to have such a model - I mean from a practical point of view, why would you need a model to "catch" outliers - i.e. the little percentage of women who cannot be converted, because she hates you pre-opening. Again, those women who genuinely hate men, or hate you for no reason are generally RARE - as in SUPER RARE.
Because if your a 4.5/10, and you want to only bang 9s and 10s, that percentage of greens to reds will be quite low (for every green 10, there will be five red 10s)

If your a 9/10, then for every red 10, there will be five green 10s. HE'D have no reason to need a model to catch outliers.
 

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The girls who he didnt fuck, that gave him 0 initial compliance (not willing to hear him out) were reds.
The girls who he didnt fuck, that gave him compliance (willing to hear him out) were yellows/greens (he fucked it up).

Well this is not what @greenleaf said ...

He said this

ha:)
The 'neg' was just an example (since everyone has a different definition of game anyway)
I've tried it all though, and I have my own view on what's possible and what's not, just like everyone else

And this

ha:)
The 'neg' was just an example (since everyone has a different definition of game anyway)
I've tried it all though, and I have my own view on what's possible and what's not, just like everyone else


Basically he categorized as reds the girls that he did not manage to turn green . I mean from my understanding the girls gave him a shot , he missed the shot , and he categorized them as reds.
 

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Only Greenleaf knows if they gave him a shot or not

What are you talking about amigo ... he said that some reds are polite & talkative with him even though he knows they are not attracted to him ... how he knows that they are not attracted to him at all , I do not know .

Dunno mate , but I said a lot of times , if a girl plainly does not find you attractive at all she does not want anything to do with you in the first place , like not even look at you .

Again I am talking from my experience , maybe other guys have different experiences , but I really doubt this :)
 

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Dunno mate , but I said a lot of times , if a girl plainly does not find you attractive at all she does not want anything to do with you in the first place , like not even look at you
Yeah this is what I've said to him on several of his field reports, as this is my experience as well.
Again I am talking from my experience , maybe other guys have different experiences , but I really doubt this
Again, It would be better for him to explain myself. Hes been gaming for 10+ years. I will not dismiss somebody's words just because his experience differs from mine. Especially when I do not game in the same country as him or look like him (a 10/10s life experience will be very different from a 1/10. Extremes yes. But just making a point). He says he can tell instinctively that attraction isnt there.
 

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Because if your a 4.5/10, and you want to only bang 9s and 10s, that percentage of greens to reds will be quite low (for every green 10, there will be five red 10s)

If your a 9/10, then for every red 10, there will be five green 10s. HE'D have no reason to need a model to catch outliers.

You are starting a discussion about looks , which would be a lie to say that it does not matter when it matters , but looks alone does not seduce the girl unless she is super green .

In his case he just used the wrong tactic , and I gave him an example of a tactic that will work in most cases , which he said that will not work because he knows better
 

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would be a lie to say that it does not matter when it matters , but looks alone does not seduce the girl unless she is super green
No shit man. It only matters for initial attraction (willing to hear you out), from that point on its game.
In his case he just used the wrong tactic , and I gave him an example of a tactic that will work in most cases , which he said that will not work because he knows better
Because he's fucking tried everything haha.
 

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Because he's fucking tried everything haha.

If you go with canned things , ofc most things will not work because there is no emotion associated with the words . You need to also feel what you say :D

Like for example when you sexualize things you also need to have a boner , otherwise it will feel inauthentic whatever you say haha
 
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