Went to similar venue as last friday.
I was alone and my friend was to come in next 15 minutes.
Quickly went to the bar and grabbed a beer because I didn't wanted to look like I am there without any purpose. It feels very weird to be in a club alone.
Everyone was sitting in the venue with few people standing near bar table.
Then I quickly went to a look for a chair to sit.
A couple was sitting so pulled a chair from their table and sat, while not facing them and started smoking cig and drinking beer while using phone to look busy.
Later someone from their group asked me to move, it was their table so I moved.
Finally my friend arrived, felt relief, danced with him and got relaxed.
Couldn't figure out a way to approach girls.
So used my standard opener asking for a lighter.
To a set of 2, there was a girl I liked.
This time I wanted to move conversation a bit more forward from opener.
So, they couldn't find the lighter, so I took their ciggerate from the girl I liked lighted it and in meantime her friend got her lighter from her purse (i said too late laughing)
- here I should have paced her reality as in its tough carrying bag, bantered with her.
- Since i wanted to move Conversation beyond opener, I complimented her (the girl I liked) on her dress, her friend responded that I have gifted her, I said cool.
But I should have instead asked what on what occasion.
The girl I wanted to talk didn't looked interested but her friend was.
Then I said thanks and went away.
Instead I should have said see you around. (Would have acted as an seed to re-open)
Because I saw her a lot, later in night but kept robotic face because I lost momentum
I made 2 more approaches, same ciggerate but couldn't move beyond opener, 1 didn't had
Made another approach at a food joint
Indirect, Kept yapping until they started contributing to the conversation
My friend tried one to approach one girl for me but girl shot it down, she was too drowned on attention
There was one more 2 set who was in our vicinity, they were screaming loud as if seeking attention but were taking about some other guy
Most guys approach with direct here I guess in night clubs - I should try it too
Problems
I am facing huge AA in club
I am stuck mostly in my head
My fundamentals must be crappy
I fucking need a wing man
KTAs
- pace her reality
- talk to person who is responding nicely
- dig more info on the same thing to move conversation forward until you get comfortable with the set
- Always leave while saying see you around
- always smile
- I need to persist more in my approaches
- keep making approaches until the venue is burned
- Go direct if nothing is coming to mind but make the damn approach
- Or atleast walk up a girl say just wanted to say hi, do a high five and come back