En's log

[Higher]

Met a great girl on wednesday.

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Today i met a cute and sexy older girl from central europe - and again my ego got the upper hand.

OPENING​

I notice her from afar. Shes sporting a black furry coat, a pleated plaid mini skirt, and boots. Pretty hot - but shes hurrying somewhere, and relying on her phone for directions.

I engineer an approach. Vibe is good. Shes "going to meet a friend" ("you going to your boyfriend eh? [i touch her elbow]" "haha no its a female friend"), and shes late and a bit all over the place.

(ATTEMPT AT) LEADING (WHILE RESISTING HER FRAME)​

We walk together and chat. I resist being sucked into her "im in a hurry" frame and try to sorta slow her down to my pace. I gather shes in town until monday, and it seems shes got a packed schedule.

At some point she asks me to take some pics of her. Im like "only if you do the same for me". So we stop to take pics of each other (i lead her to the best spot in the vicinity), then she asks me if i can share a wifi hotspot, since shes got no internet and her friend might have texted her. I dont wanna comply, so im like "hmm not really". She insists but i change topic.

We resume walking. I tell her "i have to go this way, wbu?" Shes like "i go this way" - she points in the same direction im going - "and you can come with me". Lol. Im like "yeah im going this way too".

All in all i suspect this girl is used to men chasing her and helping her out. Shes got that entitled aura about her. But shes not arrogant. Shes actually nice.

GOING FOR THE CLOSE​

After some meters i decide to part ways, as i dont wanna walk with her forever. So i stop her and softclose for a coffee or drink. Indeed she tells me shes got a full schedule until monday, and then shes back in her country. I persist a bit ("ah youre a big planner eh? Mmm im a very spontaneous guy....."), shes like "i know..... mmm i mean i have 2h free later, but then i meet another friend. How long are you in town for?".

I should have said "yes, cool, lets meet later, gimme your digits". I know good things might happen in the span of 2h.

But i decide to decline. Why? Cause "i dont wanna be squeezed into her schedule".

Facepalm.

TAKEAWAYS​

So yeah, another battle lost to big ol' ego.

Once again i reinforced some bad thinking patterns and lost an opportunity. And once again i said NO instead of YES. (I guess i should watch this movie another 5 times.)

 

[Higher]

Quick playthrough of todays outing:

• crappy approach with a pretty hot young girl. She was walking and had headphones on. I was posted at a fence and opened from the side and from a distance. I dont think she even heard me and i didnt persist - mistake;
• great shot with a gorgeous east-european student girl, who unfortunately had a bf. I had to shortly follow her on a tram and make my way through a crowd of students in order to create the right approach lol. I hate doing this but she was spectacular. Couple of girls around us heard us, looked over and smiled excitedly;
• number-closed a young, really cute nordic girl.

 

[Higher]

Met a cute south-american girl today (a medical doctor).

She was a bit awkward, generally following my lead but testing it often (eg. me being like "lets go there", her being like "ok... <proceeds to follow but often stops window-shopping or takes short detours or tries to redirect us>", or me being like "lets sit somewhere" and her being like "oh i wanna walk, but you can go ahead and sit"). She was definitely pretty independent and maybe on guard (first time in this country and phone almost dead).

I still maintained control more or less and was able to lead us around the city, but she never seemed too happy. I sat us down at a nice spot and ramped up proximity and touch - which she didnt have any problems with - while also talking about SOTs - on which we were often in agreement.

The vibe improved quite a bit (also thanks to the beers we were drinking). There was a moment when we were quietly looking at the river where i could have gone for a kiss. Or at the very least, i could have done my earrings move. But i felt something was still off with the vibe.

Then i proposed to move somewhere else. This turned out to be a mistake, as the vibe deteriorated quickly. After a couple of failed compliance tests, we said our goodbyes.

Im not too disappointed, but a failed seduction is a bummer nonetheless. I guess her lukewarm, testy attitude threw me off-track. This is a recurring issue in my game. I often find myself thinking "why should i try to make things happen with a girl that is not enthusiastic to meet me?", but the best move is always to shut down these thoughts and trust the process until you get a definite answer from the girl.

 

[Higher]

Bit of AA today that cost me 2 approaches. Didnt feel on top of my game, had other stuff to think about.

Good thing that i did 1 approach as i basically gave up on the day, even tho nothing materialized out of it.