Went out solo tonight. Still difficult, but it's getting better.
Good things: stayed out later even though I wanted to go home. Approached a lot, even if many didn't hook (need to work on my openers, I don't think direct is the best way to go in night game, just from all my data points). Had long conversations with a couple of different girls. Tried going more sexual by talking about dating history with one of the girls, so at least I got another first out of the way. Physicality is becoming second nature to me now, I'm just a touchier person than before.
Bad: potentially too boyfriendy. I don't think I'm falling into the platonic category as much, mainly because I try to give direct compliments early in the interaction, and also being touchy, but I'm worried I'm too platonic also. Need to disqualify myself as a boyfriend, but not sure what the technique should be. I'm trying instead to raise my lover value to counteract that, but that is failing horribly. To be expected since being sexual is something I'm new to. Didn't push for the close hard enough. This is also something due to being new to something. I've spent most of the summer focusing on getting over approach anxiety and improving how physical I am along with my voice/posture, that I haven't really focused on leading and being a sexual guy. So that's my next steps.
The main approaches:
Group of girls charging their phones: I see a group and just open by saying how they have the best location in the club since they're able to charge their phones. I ask if I can sit next to them, and one of the girls says sure. So I talk to her, and I'm not in a good social state, so it feels weird, and the conversation is dying and I'm not a part of it. Interestingly, this one super drunk girl who's in the group talks to me, and is just complimenting my like crazy, which I just chill respond to, I'm never sure how to respond to compliments so I always try to go cocky/no big deal route.
Single girl charging her phone: I use the same opener as above, and get to talking with her. This is better, I'm actually talking with her about her passions. She goes on a long discussion of her obsession with house flipping, which is cute to listen to. I really like talking to girls who have interesting stuff that they like. I tell her to sit next to me on the floor and she says no. She goes to the bathroom, and tells me that if I wait for her, she'll probably be back. Not a chance that I do that anymore. I go and open a different girl. When I finish talking to her, I go back to this girl. She's initially a little cold, but warms back up. I ask her to sit next to me again, and this time she complies, so that was good. She was with a friend for a birthday, so she ends up leaving. I think if I had sexualized the interaction better, than maybe she would have been more down to stay with me, and ditch her friends. I want to become the type of guy girls ditch their friends over, that's part of the goal.
In-between girl: so the girl I talk to while previous girl is in the bathroom. I think I just say hi and ask what her name is. This time I'm able to be more playful and actually have some banter and teasing, which is good, because I've just been so off with that lately. Anyway, some guy she knows comes up and they head out, so I go back to the previous girl.
Danish girl: So I see this girl a couple of times sitting down, but I can't think of a way to open her. I'm walking by the bar, and I see her, a friend, and a guy I assume is hitting on the friend. I think this could be a good potential wing man scenario, so I open the brunette friend, and just compliment her dress. I get her name and that she's from Denmark. She's pretty comfortable with my touch from the get go (but these days most girls seem to be). We talk about some stuff that I can't remember, but the conversation is going well. She seems focused on me, until the guy comes and introduces himself and breaks the dynamic. She goes and talks to her friend, and I'm talking to this guy from Europe. I go up and buy a vodka tonic (following my rule of only one drink a night), and tell the girl that we should all go sit together. We sit down, and this guy sits next to my girl, and I just sit on the other side. She's like let's sit in a square, and moves in front of me. Our eye contact throughout is pretty solid. I mainly talk to her, with some talk with her friend. This guy keeps butting in and he's such a cock-block. He even invites his friend, who at least is flirting with the friend, and not my girl. Clearly, this dude was hoping he and his friend could each get one of the girls. I find out the friend is married, but my girl is single. I try to get some compliance by asking my girl to guard my drink while I use the restroom. She does and I come back to find them all still together. I try to stay in for a little longer and see what happens, but the girls start talking to each other in a different language, and I just say fuck it and leave. Saw the guys later in the night with different girls, so it seems like these two shot them down as well.
Boring girl: this cute girl in a red dress. I tell open direct, and talk to her. She really doesn't give me anything to work with. She says she's a very boring person. I should have made some move here and gone much more sexual I think. Anyway, her and her friends decide to go down and dance. She tells me so, and I ask if she wants me to come, and she says if I want to. Not really much enthusiasm so I say no. Probably should have tried to make something happen there, I just figured that a lack of any enthusiasm coupled with saying she's boring meant she's actually just uninterested. Had she been flirty and said she was boring, then maybe that would have meant something.
Boston girl: blonde girl a little on the chubby side, but not too much. Best interaction of the night I think. Mainly because I tried some new stuff. Mistakes: I should have gone for the make out at least, I think she would have been open to it. Anyway, I see her by herself just staring at the skyline, so I come stand next to her for a few seconds, then say "Do you always come and stare longingly at the skyline when you're bored", and she takes it well. So I introduce myself. We get to talking, and there's a decent banter happening. Her super short friend barges in, and starts shit testing me, and I just throw some back at her. She tells me that she likes me, so she calls Boston girl her best friend, but if she didn't like me, she would have told me that her and Boston girl were a couple. She says that I'm a Slytherin, so I say that I'm more of a Cedric Diggory type of Hufflepuff-both girls crack up over this comment. She keeps mentioning race and how all her friends are white, and I'm super sick of people bringing race into everything, so I just sarcastically tell her, "we get it, you're diverse". At this point, I get back to talking with Boston girl, as I seemed to have passed the friend's tests, and we talk for a while longer. They are staying 2 hours away, and need to catch a train. The short girl comes asks me if I want to split an Uber, and I'm curious to see what will happen, plus I am tired and want to go home, so I say sure. Boston girl needs to charge her phone, so we go to an outlet. Her friends go to use the bathroom, leaving me and Boston girl alone. I should have gone for the make out, but I just didn't do it. On the other hand, I asked Boston girl about the dating life in her college, and she tells me how not good it is. She mentions how nice it is to have an interesting person to talk to, and how she wishes that the guys she went on dates with were like that. That's why I feel that I ended up in a platonic/boyfriend scenario, except I was complimenting her at the same time. Not sure on how to balance that part here. I ask about some shitty dates she's went on, and when she asks me back, I mention a bad date I went with after making out with a girl. I'm trying to portray myself more sexually, and bring more sexual topics into conversations. Throughout this, I'm touching her legs and stuff like usual. This is where I should have kissed her, but too late now. The friends come back, and we order the Uber. When we part ways, the girl gives me a big hug for longer than normal. I didn't even bother getting the number or anything, just didn't seem worth it since she's not from the area, and she's over 2 hours away for the weekend.
So main takeaways: use more interesting openers to improve opening percentage, become a more sexual person either by behavior or talking, and start leading.
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