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Ok
ill make it concise then.
Quite a few of the older PUAs used to break it down like this below, aI’ll cite Jon Sinn as I defs remember him saying it. Plus noteable others (who probably copied it from him anyway)
Quote;
“there are 2 ways to be successful with women
1) be a great guy
2) be a great manipulator
End Quote.
this is ( to me ) absolutely dead-set correct and inarguable tbh.
you are advocating for 1)
I am advocating for 2)
simple as that. That’s really the debate and counter point I am making.
the difference in which road to take is a matter of ethics. Both work very well.
One delivers results faster than the other.
Kaboom!
ok I’ve gotten that feedback on other forums . I do struggle to be concise as it’s an area I have much interest in.@SlayerCJ82 please don't spam the thread with your argumentative or random posts. Take the time to collect your thoughts, ask yourself if you really have any point that's worth making, and if so, make it concisely. This isn't the chat. I've noticed you spamming other threads as well with your stream of consciousness, or whatever it is, and some guys have already reported it to the mods because they are finding it very annoying.
If you haven't already, read this primer.
It's not for me to tell a guy what to do or not to do. Everyone is a free man. Some guys can pick it up fast, others are very slow.
My point is that if a guy is struggling hard because of lack of social skills, he might benefit from working on those skills in a variety of social contexts, where there's a lot less pressure and a lot more feedback.
No, most people are not hanging around at Starbucks ready to meet someone, they are usually socializing with friends. Walking around from table to table trying to practise social skills is just random and uncalibrated, and will garner attention from the staff and everyone else quickly.
Sure you can approach there subtly from time to time, but hanging out there with your wings and approaching lots of strangers, regardless of whether you're seducing or just wanting to practice social skills, is just not a good idea for what I think are obvious reasons.
What it does build is the skills you need to get through the first minute or so of an approach, which is usually the hardest. At the beginning of an approach, you shouldn't be trying to sexualize it very much, you're usually just giving a compliment, introducing yourself, and smoothly establishing rapport and a basic social frame.
Nope, seduction (in daygame especially) is mostly social skills and social frame, especially right at the beginning which is where guys struggle to get a foothold.
If you start showing sexual interest immediately, typically (because she doesn't know you) she's going to get defensive and closed off fast.
There's a calibrated way to show interest in daygame, and it's not the same as what you can pull off in night game.
Also, here you're saying guys should risk being creepy/sleazy, and then saying that they should go to coffee shops because if they do street game they might be arrested? I'm not sure you've thought this one out.
I don't study a lot of pickup, but I've picked up plenty of principles, mainly from Girls Chase and some good stuff particularly from Natural Lifestyles as well, and gotten plenty of personal experience in daygame, which I do exclusively.
What I said there is coming from my experience. If you don't believe me, here are some of the social skills you need to do daygame:
- Dressing well, having great posture and relaxed body language
- Keeping your nerves under control meeting a stranger
- Having a deep, well-projected tone of voice
- Knowing how to walk up and introduce yourself to someone in a smooth, comfortable, friendly way
- Knowing how to lead a conversation to quickly get through small talk and onto more emotionally impactful topics
- Knowing how to balance listening and talking, and maintain engagement when you aren't talking
- Knowing how to listen for important cues in a conversation, such as when someone briefly mentions a topic that means a lot to them
- Knowing how to give compliments and receive them
- Knowing how to steer the conversation away from bad topics
- Knowing how to use incidental touch during a conversation
- Knowing how to pick up the conversation again when a topic is exhausted
- Knowing how to increase or release tension or pressure with your body language
- Knowing how to break rapport instead of arguing with her
- Knowing how to smoothly round off a conversation while leaving someone wanting more.
And so on. That's a lot of stuff you can learn to a good extent in nonsexual social interactions.
ill make it concise then.
Quite a few of the older PUAs used to break it down like this below, aI’ll cite Jon Sinn as I defs remember him saying it. Plus noteable others (who probably copied it from him anyway)
Quote;
“there are 2 ways to be successful with women
1) be a great guy
2) be a great manipulator
End Quote.
this is ( to me ) absolutely dead-set correct and inarguable tbh.
you are advocating for 1)
I am advocating for 2)
simple as that. That’s really the debate and counter point I am making.
the difference in which road to take is a matter of ethics. Both work very well.
One delivers results faster than the other.
Kaboom!