Didn't go out yesterday because my bloody knee was hurting so much I couldn't even go down the stairs, so I had to take a day off =( Who knew walking all day for daygame can be detrimental to your feet! =p
Nontheless, I made it up for today. Since I couldn't walk fast or for too long, I decided to station somewhere that has high foot traffic and man it saves me more energy and time than walking around. It was a long day because I got a lot of interactions that went nowhere or got platonic.
As I got off the train, thought I saw a cute asian standing alone with her head down texting and her hair covering her head. couldn't see the face. So I slowly walked past her. Not thinking too much, but then my gut instinct told me to go back. This time, I hovered around until I caught her looking at me. wow, her face was cute. My gut instinct was right. I waited for a few seconds, then slowly walked up to her and opened her. It turned out she prefers to speak in chinese, and although I can converse in chinese, I really prefer english since it feels more natural to me. So I switched back to english. Asked her what her plans are, and she told me she has to study for an English exam that's required for her to work here. So I screened her out, since she'll be too busy for what I've in mind. During the conversation, she kept checking her phone and calling this guy who's suppose to be here 20 min ago to help her with the English test. She walked away for 5-10 meters looking for him. I didn't follow her like some needy guy. I just stood still, smile and look out to the distance. And she eventually walked back. I can tell she becomes quite intrigued. I told her. Let's go get coffee and I'll teach her. She said something like "but I have to wait for my friend". Although I could've persisted more, I felt she wasn't actually gonna ditch her friend, so I dropped it.
Then we after a few more lines of conversation. We just said goodbye.
Then I walked to a park right next to the station. Opened a couple of girls. The one that stood out was a girl who was immediately playing with her hair slowly right after I delivered my opener. I've never seen such a strong IOI. She told me she has to go to work. So I just say goodbye, but deep down my gut is telling me "Should've number closed her".
Next, I slowly walked to the harbour. I was tempted to just call a taxi, but I heard taxi is expensive in sydney (like 1$/m). As I finally got to the harbour, there was a good crowd. oh good. Found a bench to rest my knee. Saw this asian chick walking past me. Caught her sneak a peek at me. I got up and she then sit down on a bench not far away. As soon as I started to sit down next to her and smile and say "hi". She immediately got up and left. LOL. maybe I sit down too fast or something. But her eyes looked a bit crazy anyway.
Then later, opened this blonde that was sitting down looking into the crowd. I felt my opener for this one wasn't genuine enough. I felt numb when I open.
We had an okay conversation. Felt like she was trying to be polite. So I exit not long after.
Next one was a hot brazilian chick. I think my voice got a little quiet for this one and screwed up. When I asked her to take off her sunglasses, she looked exotic and sexy.
Then I opened this girl sitting on a bench by herself looking a bit sad. I walked up to her and opened her. She was a sexy German, but was leaving today. (sigh..why does this keep happening to me).
Then I walked to the other side of the harbour where people sit and chill on the sidewalk. Opened 5-6 girls, but only remembered the ones that I actually had at least some connection with.
I was hesitating when I opened this girl because there were people sitting around, but pushed myself to do this. She responded well. But I was afraid to dive deeper for some reason...like I was afraid that I won't be able to come up for air, but I regretted it because our conversation stayed on the surface. I saw opportunities to dive deeper, but didn't go for it. Oh well. Next time.
Another one I remembered was this girl sitting by herself, but there were people sitting around as well, so I hesitated until one of them was gone and gave me a little space to open. I used a situational opener that opened badly. I've never been good at it, but it was worth a try. My voice was too quiet as well. She was a tourist as well, but her plans didn't give me enough time to get her out on a date, so didn't closer her.
Then I bought lunch and sit down somewhere on the sidewalk. I couldn't help but notice two blondes who kept looking my way. They weren't together but were sitting kinda next to each other. They both had their sunglasses on, so I can only see their heads turning this way.
Then I kinda feel a bit frustrated, so I walked along the harbour towards the aquarium. Saw this cute asian walking past looking at the shops. I immediately turned around and caught up to her. It turned out she's from my country as well. what a coincident. After a bit of conversation, I asked her if she wanna grab coffee, she told me she just had coffee, I suggested chocolate, then we both started walking towards a chocolate shop nearby. She immediately mentioned during our conversation that she has a bf. (she also kept mentioning him several times after as well, but I was non-responsive). There was a long line at the chocolate shop, so we decided to go somewhere. She asked me what my plan was, I told her i was planning to see the aquarium. She immediately invited herself along. lol. hmm okay, not so sure about this. As we kept walking, there was no other shops nearby, so I just said. Let's just go to the aquarium. and we started walking there. I
At the aquarium, it was rather awkward at first when they asked to take a picture of us as souvenirs. As we walked around, I couldn't help but notice that she actually has a nice body and it was turning me on. Several times during our conversation, I put my hand around her hips and her back and motioned her to look at something. She doesn't seem to be rejecting it. But when I tried to grab her hand, she pulled away immediately. Maybe it was too bf-ish.
I started making some sexual humour like "hey look, the sexiest fish in the world"
After the aquarium, we sit down on a bench on a bridge looking out at the great view. She was starting to open up. There were also a lot of silences. I don't know why, but it felt natural to me. I have to say. It's kinda tiring to be a good conversationalist. I do enjoy it, but when you've been talking to people all day. You get tired at the end of the day, like you just fail to relate to when you should be. It was getting cold, so she suggested we go somewhere inside with a couch. I asked why does it have to have a couch?. She said it's because she's short. lol. We couldn't find a place with a couch, so we just sit on a bench inside a mall because my knee was killing me.
I really wish I live closer to the city so I could pull her to somewhere private. I don't feel comfortable doing public escalation.
During our conversation, I started to deep dive about her relationship. They were together for 5 years - some long-distance in between. 5 fucking years!!
I found out that she moved out of japan to be with her bf, but then now her bf decided to move to sydney to find a better job, and she's being left behind again. I asked what's their plan? hinting if they're gonna get married or what, she told me that they're gonna discuss it. At some point, I told her it's too bad that she has a bf! and looked at her with a strong sexy eye contact. She told me it's bad timing because she has a bf and we both live in different places.
Then I told her this looks like a scene from a movie. She asked me what kinda movie with a smile.
I told her, the movie where two people meet in paris, and then they meet again in 10 years.
I asked her if she believes in fate, she told me yea and give me an example of how she met this cleaner who helped her at the airport. LOL. girl that's not what I meant !
I told her I don't like fate because fate has to wait. She said nothing. Then I asked her what her plan is after she graduate, she told me she'll move to this country place, then I made a joke that "okay, let's meet up there in 5 years if u really believe in fate" she laughed and said ok. I took out my phone and asked her for her number. After I took her number, she asked for mine.
I jokingly said, "I'm not sure if I should give u my australian number or my other number back home"
she said, "both"
lol okay
At this point, she's starting to text her bf now to meet up with him. I felt a slight urge of panic, like he might showed up just around the corner or something.
So I asked her if she's gonna tell him about me. She said yea. I looked at her with a skeptical look, and asked her what's the point?
She said she doesn't like to lie, even though her bf won't be happy to hear about it. (yea who would be happy to hear about a guy picking up her gf but was only short of fucking her because logistic wasn't right.) Then I saw her texting her bf about where we were. Now, I'm a bit worried that he might be right behind me in a second.
Then I told her I have to leave soon. I stood up and looked at her. Waiting to say goodbye. Surprisingly, she got up and followed me. lol girl didn't u just text ur bf where u are. It took us a while to find the nearest train station. On our way, a guy handed me a card for a strip club, lol. I didn't know until I looked at it. I passed it on to her
Me: "Hey want it?"
she looked at it
Her: "haha na u can have it"
I paused for a bit and was about to blurt out my nice guy response that would sound like I don't like watching naked women. But restrained myself. I took the card
Me: "hmm yea. Might go later tonight
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She laughed.
As we ride the escalator down the train station, I saw this ad about weddings at sydney harbour. I deep dived her about whether she would like that. She said she would rather have a small wedding and spend money on the honeymoon, and her favourate place to go on honeymoon.
We were interrupted as we were looking at which platforms our trains were. As luck would have it, we are on adjacent platforms, but our trains were leaving soon.
My train was on the right and her train on the left. They were both in the platform, and leaving any minute. Now this DOES seem like a scene in the movie.
She turned around and looked at me.
Her: "So this is it"
I opened my arms motioning her to give me a hug.
We hugged each other tightly.
I then hold her by the waist real close to me while she lean back slightly.
I whispered to her about that place we're gonna meet again in 5 years.
And then she went left and I went right.
As I was about to got on the train, I turned around, but she was already gone.
it's so hard to let someone go when u've made so much connection with them, and knowing that the chances of meeting them again is next to zero.
I think I care more about making an emotional connection with girls than simply just fking them, but I know I've gotta do both to get em.
As I got home, I was wondering whether I should even text her.
But at 9.30pm I decided to flip her a text
Me: "Not everyday u meet someone who enjoys painting and bodyboarding....Lovely to have met u =)"
30 mins later
Her: "yeah it was nice to meet you. Thanks for keeping me company =) I had nice afternoon =)"
oh two smileys. That's a first.
Things to improve
1. fundamentals - voice - got a little fast and high. Also a little bit quiet.
2. bantering/deep-diving (need to do a better job at relating)/ screening-qualifying (need to make it smoother)
3. cold reads
4. sexual frames - still need practice to inject it smoothly into the conversation.
5. push-pull
