Social Sex God in 3 Years: Final Progressions

[Hue]

Ayyy baby! Fuck yea brotha!

Truth be told, pulling a chick at a bar / club / instalay is waaay more fun than setting up a date - unless it's a girl you have a great connection with. And, this was Monday night (; can't wait to see more of these from your weekend adventures man.

Cheers,

Hue

 

[Smurf]

Thanks man, and yeah I'm going out with some random wings this weekend, should be dope.

 

[Smurf]

Tues-Thurs were uninteresting. Looking For a temporary job for winter kept me pretty busy. Still looking for tinder leads though.

Friday

Went to see a friend at his house then went out with StrongMan again. He has his girlfriend and an old girl from high school with him. Decide to stick with them the whole night. Was getting a super weird vibe from the other girl, call her HotelGirl. Deep dived her a little bit but not enough to call it anything. I couldn't tell if she was attracted or not, which was weird considering StrongMan's girlfriend seemed to be giving me more ioi's than this girl. Have to play it slow since its social circle. That's the downside, there's no immediate excitement with social circle. Didn't even grab her number as I'm supposed to see her today.

Planned to head out with StrongMan and a few more friends for a parade, then guessing from there. Supposedly gonna wing with some guys from RSD but we'll see if they show up.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Saturday

What A mess. Got fucked-in-half drunk but still managed to get a girl's number with no recollection as to how. Completely fucked that though because I asked her who she was and didn't respond haha. Didn't get to bed until 10am on Sunday. Made some new friends though which is awesome.

Supposedly have a Tinder date lined up for later this week. Not excited because the last girl flaked the day of and seemed just as excited. We'll see.

I'm having issues getting excited again. I know I can potentially fuck girls the same night now but I don't seem to have very much retention of interest. Kind of annoyed/hung over today and I knew as I got more success I'd hold myself to a higher standard and get bored of small wins. I just gotta trick my brain that those wins are awesome and I'll be back to full power.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Status report.

Need to insert some limits when I go out. Took me until today to wake up early again after Saturday's stint. If anyone is wondering, that girl who's number I drunkenly got never texted back, as expected haha. Texting the tinder girl today to set up a date later this week. Will give her a name if she becomes relevant.

FBTaylorSwift cooled off on me hard. She apparently met a guy she's really into. I respect it, but she came up with some bs about how she regretted sleeping with me. The way I remember her fiending for cock tells me this is backwards rationalization but still has me relatively fucked up. Had to reframe myself quite a bit over it and actually figure out what was going on objectively. Finally settled that I was being too much of a dick when we hung out platonically. I've noticed I can be quite the asshole nowadays. She said something to the effect of, "I know Jake, you're sooo cool" in that sarcastic, almost defeated tone. Right there I knew she had auto-rejected on me. Noted to be a little more real with girls. I know this for a fact because on that date I was real as fuck with her. Totally transparent as to what I thought the entire time. As for my other FB, I mean yeah I could hit her up but I could also slay something new, which would be more fun. And she's kinda' boring as a person and talks my head off everytime I see her.

JazzyMonday girl never texted me. Oh well. Retention rate is garbage, but I got double the lays this year so far from last year while being in a relationship for over half of this one. I think that means improvement. Or I'm really lucky. Either way.

Went from 66 contacts to 90 since I started posting regularly again. Un-surprisingly, most of these are all but useless. My follow-through game weak AF. At least friend-level. Gotta' work on that for sure.

New Tinder stats for the luls, 50 new matches, 4 numbers and a snapchat. 1 girl flaked on a date, one stopped responding, one I'm going to ping today, and one seems to be interested in a date. We'll see. If I seem to have a more-than-healthy amount of skepticism, it's because I do. I'm not bitter though, I just know I need to develop more and the issues will work themselves out.

It's really hard to go out consistently but I'm going to try and do it again. It seems like all the momentum from November has dropped a bit so I'm gonna' build it back up.

I seriously need to iron out this inconsistency in my mood. One day I'm happy as fuck, the next I'm thinking about cutting off everyone I know and moving to Ibiza. It must be the massive amount of action I've taken recently compared to how it's been earlier this year. Hopefully I can get a grip on it and lock into what's going on.

Anyways, plan for today is day game then go out possibly tonight? We'll see.

Keep pushin' boys,

Jake.

 

[rfjt]

Have any good reads for tinder / messaging girls? I usually can get a pretty decent opener out there and they'll respond warmly but then I fizzle out (think I talk too nice?)

Had some dates set up but both ended up flaking.

 

[Straza]

I seriously need to iron out this inconsistency in my mood. One day I'm happy as fuck, the next I'm thinking about cutting off everyone I know and moving to Ibiza.

I'm dealing with this too right now man. One day I feel like giving up, the next I feel super motivated. Do you meditate? Started a few days ago. I think it deals with stuff like this.

 

[Smurf]

Rfjt,

Have any good reads for tinder / messaging girls? I usually can get a pretty decent opener out there and they'll respond warmly but then I fizzle out (think I talk too nice?)

Had some dates set up but both ended up flaking.

Well, tinder date girl so far hasn't messaged me today, so I don't think I can honestly give you advice if I'm not getting results from it. I'll let you know as soon as something works, man.

Straza,

Yeah my meditation has been extremely inconsistent. I know its good for me so I'll try and get that to a daily level again.

Tuesday

Got a few approaches in but wasn't in that flow state. Had something to do with my mood. Hue was talking about this in his journal and I resonated with it a lot. Ended up going out at night with some friends to a potential after hours spot. I'm consistently finding new places to go so that's going awesome!

ALSO, FB TS snapchatted me when I posted a story. Meaning either my friend isn't telling the truth about what she said, or she's still cool with me. Either way, need to talk to my friend because what was said was ego protection from her or him.

Plan for today is go out tonight so far. Unless Tinder girl texts me then possibly go to a bar for a date.

Jake.

DECEMBER GOALS:
-New lay, how I don't really care.
Need to prove to myself again and again I can do this, and its easy.

-Keep building social circle
Gotta build my own personal support group. I made a new friend that helps me with cold approach and mentality, gotta find more.

-Meditate once daily
Mood swings are out of control recently. Gotta Get back on this.

-Look into a club promoter position and other jobs
Know A few people that are into nightlife, gonna see if I can get into it myself.

-Create Lots more lead generation. Noticed that I don't have active leads as much as I should. Need more options.

 

[Smurf]

Wednesday

Went out at night. Night started super slow, couldn't build momentum, had self doubt creeping in. Was also stone sober. I walked to the smoking area and putzed around while trying to approach. Got A few approaches but my vibe and verbals are off. Went back inside and approached some more, coming off friendly. Approached another and it finally hooks a bit. Talked for a second then let her go. Walked around and saw someone I knew. Talked for a bit with introductions to his friend and this other random lady. Kept moving to the smoking area and opened one behind me to keep my mouth moving.

Got back to the smoking area and things are still slow. A girl I approached earlier asks if I have a cigarette and I say no, then she leaves haha. Get blocked out of that circle, I talk to this dude next to me. He talks for a bit but the girls next to him leave. Geez. Post up again and keep talking. I'm judging myself now and have a hard time keeping my mouth open. Meet some more people and the girl that hooked earlier shows up. I shittily hold up Congo and she actually carries me for a bit. Cool. Get some social momentum when my friend comes out with his girl. Introduce them to the one I'm talking to then try and transition to his girl. Apparently she's his ex haha, not what I would've guessed. She wants to go back in and dance though, so not much of a chance there. They have a third lady that stays behind and I chat her. She's a married homebody and doesn't catch a lot of my jokes. I slow down and just be genuine, trying to make her feel wanted. We actually have a half decent Convo but I'm not trying to take her home.

Turn back to the original hook girl, talk some more. Her logistics are shit so its not going down. Decide to hang out with her anyway, we go dance for a bit, move around so I can get some references doing that. End of the night we end up going to her car and smoking, then she dropped me off, haha.

Lessons:
-Don't Stop talking. Keep opening, stop self doubt.
-Make Friends, keep pushing it.
-Be Physical with everyone.

Weird night for sure but I'm going out again tonight.

Got invited back out to the same place by my friend so we'll see how that goes.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Thursday

Made a mistake and hung out with one of my friends instead of going out. Since this is becoming an issue, I'm making a hard rule: friends that are not doing something where I have the potential to meet someone new get 1day a week of my time. That Should fix the issues with inconsistency I've been seeing recently.

Got a few tinder matches but I need I ng person leads to be honest. Still corresponding with my promoter friend about how it all works, think I'll take her up on it. Going to meditate after posting this and head to bed early. Planning my day tonight so I don't have to waste time wondering tomorrow.

Think its gonna be meditation in the A.M., then get groceries and see what I run into. Day game then setting up a meet at night with friends at a social space. Got free entry to a show Saturday and potentially tomorrow as well. Gonna get the promoter info from my friend. Hit up tinder leads, then try and create a funnel when I set up the group for Friday night.

Peace out,

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Friday

Don't even feel like typing this shit up but fuck it.

Went out to meet up with some guys from RSD. Went to a club, they were having a promotion so I ended up getting in for free. That's about the best thing that happened tonight.

Got in and started talking to people. Talked to two dudes and as I'm talking to the second one one of the RSD dudes shows up. He's actually pretty cool, we talk for a bit then start scouting the club. Its pretty slow so far, but I turn and talk to a girl behind me. She opens but turns away pretty quick. This is the theme of the night. l maneuver around the bar and talk to two girls. The RSD guy comes right in with me but it goes nowhere.

Honestly I don't see the point in writing this shit right now because that's literally how ALL of my opens went tonight. I open, they stop for a second, then leave. Honestly I'm pissed right now. I don't see how I can go from pulling in around an hour a couple weeks ago to getting what seems like no interest whatsoever. Anyways bitch sesh over.

I did do some grouping of people or merging sets whatever, it worked okay but there weren't any cute girls in those circles so just practice.

All in all the things I did well were:
-Got in for free so I didn't waste any money
-Opened a lot of girls and didn't get ignored as much as I usually do
-Got physical with people

As for things that went wrong, there's a lot but I'm going to try and focus on what went well. Not to mention when I left I missed the bus because the street was blocked off by multiple fights and cop cars.

Gonna try and forget all the bad shit that happened tonight and try again tomorrow.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Friday
Daygame

Went out and met up with more RSD guys for day game. Went pretty well, was fun and they're all cool guys. Almost hung out with these three chicks but I flubbed it up. Oh well. Got some good references, gonna go out tonight as well!

 

[Hue]

Jake,

Those nights blow, we've all had em. Looks like you'll be fine in pushing past it though. Sometimes it's something you're unconsciously not attending to or showing in your game, sometimes it's just shit luck with a string of uninterested girls.

How did you come into contact with these RSD dudes? I'm interested.

 

[Smurf]

Hue,

Yeah man, this was the first time where I woke up the next day and didn't give a shit that my night blew. Actually thinking about it I know I learned a lot. Didn't have a great night tonight either in terms of game, made a rookie mistake, but I don't really care. I'll figure out the missing pieces soon enough.

As for the RSD guys, I joined a group on Facebook and met up with them. They were actually for the most part pretty cool normal dudes. The only issue was us five walking around together which I thought was a little off but eh, whatever.

It looks like you're killing it man! Keep it up!

 

[Smurf]

Saturday
Night game

Didn't realize I mislabeled the post before this one as Friday, meant to be Saturday. Oh well.

This girl pulled through on my free ticket to the show! Only catch was I had to show up at doors which was like 8:30. I social butterflied a few people but nothing really stuck. Flubbed up an introduction with a group of 2 guys and 3 girls, which basically put me in a coffin with that group.

As the show progressed I loosened up. Met the girl I was supposed to go home with, she was giving me hella signs I just didn't capitalize. I feel like I'm never ready when a girl approaches me. Gotta stay present and pull the trigger.

That was the only opportunity made that night though, continued to dance and the show was actually dope!

I was texting FBTaylorSwift throughout the last two days and whatever misinformation my friends gave me was as false as false can be. Not only does she still like me, we met up and she verbally expressed that yes, she would hook up with me again. So I meet up with her at a bar, we grab food at a place my friend works at, then smash one out in her car.

I'm doing a better job than I thought with maintaining my cool while balancing this weird hook up/friendship we have. Definitely want to slay someone new since I don't want to fall into another relationship. And this girl is cool but has issues of some kind that I can't put my finger quite on.

Anyway, plan for tomorrow is... yeah I actually don't have one this time. I'll figure something out, Sundays are always a wild card.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Haven't done much this week, mostly went out with friends getting out of school. A few approaches but some of the girls were drunk and I thought better safe than sorry.

Going out tonight, we'll see how that goes. Trying not to drink at all today.

 

[Smurf]

Getting interest from one of my friends that's a girl. Will have to work on that slowly. I'm still reaping the rewards from the initial party I hosted months ago, crazy.

My approach anxiety is all but gone. I can turn on a girl on a dime at this point. What's frustrating now is turning cold approach into something tangible in terms of keeping conversation flowing smoothly.

My promoter friend decided to stop messaging me, oh well. Social circle is coming along, I just need to figure out what event I'm going to use to bring these people together. Meditation has been shaky for sure. New lay I'm thinking my friend that started hitting on me or just a pull from a club. Also need to start establishing a new years plan.

Gonna try and put some direction into my game soon, feel like I'm in limbo at the moment. I have two FB's that like me and I feel like its making me lazy. Doesn't help that I have friends that tell me FBTaylorSwift is hot and I should keep her around. Don't get me wrong, she is, but I can't afford to have a repeat of last year. I don't have time. I've got one year left I think, I have to go hard. And I know I'm on the edge of solving so many things in my game if I keep pushing.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Monday

Went out to chill with FBTaylorSwift. Probably shouldn't have because I wasn't really feeling it and honestly didn't want to fuck her. Didn't even try to, we just talked. Its weird its like we're literally friends with benefits. I do like her, but no feelings shall be caught. Gonna work on getting more girls this week.

Tuesday

I don't know why I keep getting attraction from my friend's girlfriends. It happened last Saturday at a wedding reception I went to and yesterday.

One of my good friends asked me to join him at a bar near his work. Its been unseasonally warm recently so I longboarded over. I've been to this bar before, it was busier than last time. A few cute girls but only a few that make logistic sense. There's one but I feel like she has a boyfriend she was playing pool with. Nevertheless we were making eye contact a lot. I asked her nane which I promptly forgot. She cuddles with some guy and I decide to play it cool since my friend works with a lot of the people that go to this bar.

His girlfriend shows up and she actively seeks attention from me. I try and engage but distance myself from her to not seem like I'm hitting on her. Unfortunately I tease naturally now so it probably looks like that anyways. Need to add compliments to my personality. We met up with another friend and just talked really. Turns out one of the people she works with was the bartender at the wedding reception I went to. He was dope and he told her that he thought we were super cool. Fucking small world man.

Went after one outside near closing time with my good friend. She wasn't about it really. Oh well, good practice.

Some things I want to work on in my game:
-being slightly nicer. I think I can tease too much without giving back a compliment.
-Physical proximity. I think I stand too far away. I need to create that electricity via distance.

Think I'm going out tonight. Also have a party to go to Friday, potentially one on Thursday, and a friend wants to go out Saturday. Been trying to go out 4 times a week so this is great.

Feeling that build up recently. Its A vibe, know I say it a lot in this journal, but I feel thinga under the surface. Its been a lot of building up to something this week. I don't know if its new years or maybe even sooner, but its gonna be dope. Got a weird match on tinder, hopefully it goes somewhere because the story would be great.

See y'all tomorrow,
Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Didn't go out Wednesday. Thursday went to a gay club but not much happened. Got too self conscious about what girl was straight and who wasn't. Friday went out with a friend. Had good talks about life. Went to a bar, got attraction from a redhead but I pussied out after the initial approach.

Saturday

Ended up going out with a big group to the bar. Original plan was to hit on a girl that came with us but she was being a cunt to everyone so that didn't work out. Her other friend I knew had a boyfriend but the girls weren't even being cordial to half of us. Nothing at the bar, half of us leave to a friend's party.

This gave me crazy perspective. I've known these people since high school, and all I ever wanted back then was to go to one of their parties. This party was one of the wackiest parties I've ever been to. There was only one girl I was relatively interested in. Didn't end up grabbing her number but I know how to contact her. We had a good conversation. Some of these people were just so superficial. So focused on social status not having a good time and good conversations. I was super disappointed in the quality of people. Also, the girls in our original group were complaining about these people, but were essentially the same as them. Unreal.

It ended up just being me and Ginger there. We're cool, but we have no social proof. We chill till late then dip out.

A lot of lessons learned here. I'll flesh them out more next post.

Jake

 

[BetaBoy]

Focus more on just having the relationships with people that prove worthwhile, where both of you are equally benefitting and things will naturally develop from there. The harder you try, it may make people have a sour taste in their mouths and be turned off by trying to hard. Best of luck, getting to your ideal goals.