Social Sex God in 3 Years: Final Progressions

[Smurf]

Couple takeaways.

Being genuine before its time to can do more harm than good. Think its best to lead with the fuck boy angle then progress into that. I feel like I was providing too much positive, static value in the situation and not generating an array of emotions.

I've been noticing its really easy to get at least one girl hooked whenever I go out. I get stuck on what to do next after that though. Think I'm going to try moving them around and generating compliance.

Sometimes you aren't gonna fit in entirely and that's okay. This makes you different and interesting, while letting you know where you should and shouldn't waste your time. I know now I shouldn't waste my time in that friend group, at least not actively.

I need to grab numbers faster. I keep falling back into the same trap of waiting till the last minute.

Focus more on just having the relationships with people that prove worthwhile, where both of you are equally benefitting and things will naturally develop from there. The harder you try, it may make people have a sour taste in their mouths and be turned off by trying to hard. Best of luck, getting to your ideal goals.

Thanks, I guess, it wasn't me that was trying very hard at all though, I felt the people I was hanging out with were status jockeying pretty hard. From your short responses you seem oddly familiar to the guy that got banned not too long ago. Maybe you could expand on your ideas a bit more?

 

[Smurf]

January Highlights:
-Found an after hours spot in my city and a few new dope wings.
-Got a makeout at a party
-Read 1 1/2 books
-Made new friends and a few changes in my vibe

Sorry for the lack of updates, been busy looking for new work and trying to focus on reading and finding my sticking points. My vibe makes me super likeable now but I think I need to adjust that a bit back to more asshole-ish by a smidge. Didn't get laid because I was too focused on social circle, and have been drinking too much when it comes time to close. Gonna work even more on my social skills and closing, my wings have given me a few things to work on. Gonna post a little more consistently with field reports and mindsets.

Something I noticed: whenever I'm alone with a girl now usually, I just get this feeling I should kiss her. Super weird but worked out. Gonna test this further for sure.

Books:
How To Win Friends and Influence People
Half of A New Earth

Plan to read Kickass Copyrighting Secrets and How To Work a Room this month.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Saturday

Reaching one of my goals I've had for a while.

Went out to my home base club. Supposed to meet up with wings there. They get there at 11:30. I have a headache. I don't approach anyone. I'm acting really out of character, but two of the workers see me and greet me enthusiastically. They let me know its nice seeing me. Dope. Once my wing gets there he says he can get me back behind the DJ. We head back and I still can't seem to get my head on correctly.

He invites me to after hours and I go. We get in, its loud and I'm starting to get tired. I see two people I know there and greet them. The girls are walking around in lingerie but I can't do it. I call some of my friends I'm supposed to meet up with and all four of them get in for free. My wing tells me to approach. I approach for the first time tonight, after 2:30 AM, and it goes well. Girl seems semi attracted. I ditch her though and chill. Got her number later, then we dipped out.

Sounds like a shit night but it was actually nice. I'm starting to get connected in the after hours scene. My nervousness is gone with certain tiers of girls. I see someone I know every time I go out, and I get attraction almost every time I go out. For once in this journal I feel like things are on schedule to be finished on time.

Now to get back to slaying regularly.

I know I just need to focus and I'll get laid. Its becoming less of a numbers game and more just a matter of time before things click together.

Trying to go out somewhere tonight. We'll see what happens.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Taylor Swift texted me out of the blue during the weekend, hung out with her yesterday. Really cool girl but I need to keep pushing for new girls. Not gonna text her unless she texts me. Finished a book today which felt really good. Got that completionist feeling that felt really good. Going out for sure this weekend but nothing really solid for the week yet. I'll try and get some daygame done during the week. Working on attraction and pushing for pulls this week.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Friday

Been taking cold showers recently and its going well. Slowly building up the time I'm in the shower. I felt decent going out tonight but I didn't feel myself in my head for some reason.

I met up with some wings before going out. Talked about texting and some other things. Was good and I felt good when we were about to go out.

We get to the place and I just got fucked for some reason. My brain wasn't working and I totally forgot my process for getting shit done when I'm out. I did hook these two girls but they seemed super tipsy. I should've went for it anyway but didn't, don't know why. I always get at least one hook a night and that was the one. I didn't capitalize on it like I should've and ended up tanking my mood again.

Went to another place and it was body to body crowded. I wasn't feeling it at this point. I took a lap, saw two or three fights break out, saw a homie of mine I hadn't seen in a while, then dipped.

I'm super confused as to what happened. Recently I've been having decent nights that end up either really entertaining or something interesting happened. Not tonight though. Also super embarrassed because I looked like a total retard in front of the wings that had never met me.

Things I'm gonna do tomorrow:
-Stop judging groups so much
-Stop standing around with my dick in my hands
-Get back into that positive flow where I build my night from the ground up.

I noticed I didn't really socialize with everyone tonight, which might've been my downfall. I usually chain my interactions together and get momentum but I didn't today. I also was judging who I was talking to. I didn't follow my own rules. I'll definitely have a better night tomorrow.

Jake

 

[Smurf]

Saturday

Was gonna write this earlier but got sidetracked. Went to my home base club 'round 11. Got free entry, my home that works there put me in the front of the line. Talked to the other security guy I know and he gave me a drink ticket. The night is already going 10x better.

Hop on the dance floor, shoot shit with a few dudes. Round 10 minutes later I get approached by two girls complimenting my hair. I've decided to wear it down recently and it's getting good results. They seem into me but I leave them early and go to cash in on my drink. Chat with a bachelorette party for a couple seconds, then turn and talk to this Brazilian chick. She's receptive so I get her snapchat. She hasn't added me yet though.

Dick around a little more and make one night friends around the club. See the two girls from the beginning of the night outside and decide to stick in for the night. Its going well, the one I like likes me and her friend doesn't mind me either. We hang out and dance for a bit. They get approached a couple times and they bat the dudes off for me. One guy is pretty good, getting stuck in for around 20 ish but eventually dips. I try and pull them but its a no go. If I had weed it might've worked out. The cuter one gets my number and I head home.

Cute one texts me actually to my surprise. I'll call her HighSocks. Being Sunday now its Sunday Fun day with some friends and CRBlonde from the Halloween party in my LR where I banged TaylorSwift. I've been wanting to smash for a whiiiiile so I was excited to make it happen.

Sunday

I get to Fluffy's place and we get to drinking. We only invited around 7 people including ourselves and his roommates. Super chill, just played some drinking games and talked. I'm flirting with CRBlonde intermittently. The night starts to slow down and we're all proper tipsy but not drunk. It's now just me, Fluffy, and Blondie left. We actually have a really good discussion about self esteem and who you surround yourself with. Fluffy goes to the bathroom and I lean over and make out with her. It's well recieved so now I just wait. Eventually We decide to pass out. Its me and Blondie on a futon and Fluffy sleeps on the floor since there's people in his bed. What a bro. I escalate slowly on her, and quietly since there's three other people around us. I'm fingering her and she's not being overly obvious that she wants to fuck like girls have been recently. I slow it down and stop a couple times to confuse the fuck out of her. She initiates when I stop so I know I'm good. We're fooling around pretty hard at this point so I flip her over and pull her shorts down and get to it. It wasn't the best sex since we had to be pretty quiet but her ass made up for it. We cuddle and she's actually the best cuddler to date. I still don't get much sleep, around an hour's worth.

We cuddle through the morning and eventually she dips out. I'm about to tell Fluffy what went down only to find out she already told him while I was sleeping haha. Hopefully can smash again under better circumstances.

I'm tired as fuck now so unless some tinder girl less than 5 miles away wants dick I'm not going anywhere. not to mention it's snowing like a mother fucker.

Lil update of my weekend, hope you guys are well!

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Thinking about going to my old college campus today to help out with a club I was involved in and also flirt with chicks. I'll hit that up after work. I've been lazy during the week. I need to work on my date setting skills. Brazilian girl from Saturday Added me on Snapchat so we'll see how that goes. Still working on a tinder process. Another old old girl has been messaging me on Snapchat so I'll try and get her out.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Friday

Up and down night for sure.

Went and met up with a wing super early around 8:45. We met up and talked for a little bit before heading out.

It was way too early. Not shit was going on. We hit one bar then another and they're both deserted unsurprisingly. We meet up with another wing and all hold our dicks for each other and talk game for around an hour. The one guy leaves to go to a club and its just us again. We get to a third bar and its more poppin. I open a few and get some nice rejections. I'm out of it as fuck but I'm pushing through. Do some more and my wing calls it a night around 10:30. I don't blame him, it was freezing balls out.

I see another guy I know and decide to wing with him for a bit. I'm still not feeling it, but we meet up with three more of his friends. We leave that bar and head to another one down the street.

I still haven't had a drop of alcohol.

We get in and a girl opens me. We dance together for a bit but I find out later she's there with a guy. My new wing sees I'm fucking up and is about to countdown me when ANOTHER guy I wing with shows up. He's sober too, but I like his energy a lot more than the other guy. I just vibe better with this guy.

I approach again and its two girls. The one I didn't approach hooks right away and spins herself. I jump into instinct and pull her close but she's not feeling that right away. She backs off and I dance by myself a bit next to them. Some of the haze clears. I feel more myself. I continue to wing with the guy I met at this bar and the other guy I came with disappeared into the mist. No hard feelings hopefully.

The dance floor here is fucked. So many drunk people bumping into me and my wing. I'll call him Doppelganger since our styles are scarily similar. Me And him both get pissed off with the amount of people ramming into us. I even had one guy turn to me and say I was a trooper for not swinging on someone. So this wasn't ordinary jostling. It was happening to Doppelganger too so we went to smoke.

I see an old friend from high school and say what's up. Then A girl in blue dances toward me. I ignore as I just want out right now. Really need to pocket my pride and just go for shit. On the way out, the girl I danced with stops me. Im still not on, so I'm fucking it up but she doesn't Care. She invited me to meet her friends but I decline. Just another mistake on the long list of them tonight, but progress.

Smoke and a girl asks for a drag. I sprinkle snow on her from chunks on the ground and she says she's cold enough already. I'm starting to level out in this weird way. I'm not on or in state, but I'm not really in my head all the way. I'm in some weird in between space.

We head back in and stop to talk to some guy. Apparently some dude was 5 inches from my face mean mugging me. I was like, "how did I not notice that?" Especially because at this point I'm stone sober still.

We dance a little more and I'm getting tired and fed up with the environment. It Gets close to closing and I see the girl I was dancing with. Here comes another mistake. I grab her number even though she's mad into me and she tells me they're going to an after party. I tell them to text me. Never does. I could've fucking pulled that if I had been smart.

We come outside and I contemplate heading home. Chill with my wing Doppelganger and we talk about both of our shitty moods. We see this guy we know and he offers to pay for us to go to the after party. We're down and head down the street to go.

We get in and I see the other wing from the night at my home base club that got me behind the DJ. I'll call him Underground. Underground ends up having to pay for one of us and he warns us that we can't dick around the entire night. We nod and understand, and head in.

This is where I stop being sober.

The temptation of serve-yourself unlimited alcohol got me. I start drinking and start gaining momentum. We talk to this African girl and I start to give no fucks. The night can't possibly get any more round about than this so I throw my shitty mood out the window. I'm not drunk, but have a couple drinks. I talk to quite a few people and nothing really sticks. I'm having fun and gaining momentum though. I continue this for a bit and think I have a target but find out that she's dating another girl there. Damn. Keep moving through and I'm not seeing any options.

The party eventually ends and I talk to the guy who paid for me in. He wants to go to his studio and I'm down, but Underground Convinces him otherwise and we all walk two blocks down the street. Now we're in this building lobby with a pool table, and a few girls I'm not interested in. I talk game and other stuff with some dudes there and don't really spit too much more game. This about ends the night, along with a skiing trip that leaves me awake heading home at around 10 in the morning from my wings house.

This is a disjointed mess but I needed to get it out of my head. I learned A LOT yesterday and feel a lot better about what I'm doing in game and how I'm fucking up.

Don't know what I'm doing today as I'm still a bit hung over. We'll see.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Saturday

I wake up at 8pm hung the fuck over. I don't even feel like going out. I text TaylorSwift and she comes to my house, picks me up, and we head to hers. We talk a bit, watch Altered Carbon, and its pretty clear she wants to fuck pretty bad. We smash and then she drops me off. Lazy decision on a Saturday but oh well.

Really hoping I can house sit for my boss in a town about 30 minutes from mine. We'll see as the week progresses.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

February highlights:

1) New Lay
2) Have a shit ton of wings to go out with now
3) Snapchat is growing nicely
4) Have a couple friends in the pipeline as well as girls
5) Read another book and a half. Need to devote more time to reading
6) More insight on the balance between nice and asshole

Should be a good month, gonna try and focus more on pulling and getting into my flow when I'm out.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

I'm back.

Some stuff went on in my social circle that caused me not to update anything for a bit. Not gonna go into detail, but I let it die down and stayed on the low for a bit. It messed with my game for a little bit but I have it under control now.

Went out Friday and Saturday night, and Saturday day. Friday was cold as fuck and so were my responses. Just getting back into the motions that day. Saturday I went off, got a few numbers and remembered what it felt like to really get into a flow again. I've been winging with a few guys recently and its going well.

Feels really awesome to feel like I'm back to being myself again. I felt like I "lost my powers" for a little bit if that makes any sense. I'll definitely be posting frequently again.

 

[Smurf]

Friday

Went out with a few wings to downtown. I worked pretty late and pretty much just changed and headed down. Its been about two weeks since I went out last. I got to the place and waited for my wing to get there. I think I'm relying too heavily on my wings to be honest. First approach didn't open at all. Need to stop doing the arm tap and just project my voice, I have much better success with that. Hopped on the second one with my wing but I wasn't attracted and was more or less just running interference. Got a little more social after that. Met up with another guy and we opened a set together. It opened but the girl was just more or less being nice to me. Boyfriend so we dipped.

Went upstairs, my two wings opened something so I just hold my dick for a minute. Went to the dancefloor and shuffled a bit, then we talked to these two attention-wanting girls. They offered us a light lapdance for $70 which was nice of them but we declined. I thought that was hilarious and we keep going.

Don't think I did anymore at that spot and we bounced out. Went to the next place which was way more popping but nothing really sticks out in my mind. I wasn't in a bad mood but things were opening but I wasn't catching any attraction. Some heavy set cougar tried to reel me in which I narrowly avoided. At this point I start to lose energy and motivation. We bounced to another place that was pretty dead, I talked to this one girl for a couple of seconds but she wasn't about it. At that point it was around 2 so I dipped. Think I did one more outside but didn't stick.

Felt like I was just going through the motions tonight. Didn't feel much in terms of attraction. Gonna go out tomorrow and try harder essentially. Know I'm not doing the most I can in terms of sticking in and really expressing myself.

Went wrong:
-leaving too early
-not giving enough effort in specific interactions
-not getting momentum early on
-piggy backing too much
-awkward angled approaches

Went well:
-did a lot of approaches
-posture was good
-no complete blow outs really
-didn't drink
-had a decent amount of fun in the first half

Work on:
-staying in with girls longer
-quickly building up my night
-get physical
-go back to asshole game, you're too polite right now

More of a brain dump than a FR but definitely needed.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Saturday

Got invited to a house party from a female friend. Got there and she prompty told me she had a boyfriend. Still had a lot of fun, but the crowd wasn't necessarily full of great conversationalists. Basically was me being the most talkative which is odd to say. Made a female friend though so that's always nice. I'm planning on doing a group event for a show soon so that'll be dope.

Work literally all week and weekend so Tinder and daygame it is. Have a lead already so we'll see how that goes.

Jake

 

[Smurf]

Went out Thurs-Sunday, gonna have an FR up here soon.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Part 1

Thursday

Went out with a couple civilians and one wing. It wasn't actually that fun because I didn't really get into it at all and one of my friends started throwing up. This put me in a bad mood the entire night and I didn't really get anything done. I walked home pretty far and was probably the worst day out of the entire weekend. Not much to put here just because it wasn't very enlightening.

Friday

Friday was better. I went out with my civilian friend and another wing this time. We started near my house and I mostly talked to my friends. I opened a couple people but not anything crazy. Caught up with a friend that's been out of town and he agreed to go downtown with us. So it ended up being 4 of us. We go to the place I usually start my nights at on the weekends and they don't let my friend in because he's wearing shorts. We end up splitting up and two of go into the bar and the other two end up going somewhere else. We never find them for the rest of the night haha.

I meet up with my wing there and we started opening a few. I'm trying to remember if there was any notable ones we did. I had ended up getting pretty drunk so I don't necessarily remember everything we did.

We left that bar and went to another one down the street. Got in there and went upstairs. Chatted this girl in the line, feeling warmer. She gives me a sip of her drink. We talk to some girl upstairs and it's pretty okay. One girl wasn't interested. Another two we talked to had a boyfriend that came out of nowhere. I had to diffuse the situation and we left because we were burning this place down pretty quickly.

Get to the next bar and I don't remember any notable interactions here. We head out pretty soon and end up going to a pizza place. I got really sick here and I got lucky and someone offered me a ride home. Headed home pretty late and passed right out. I had to be up at 7AM for work the next day so not the best decision to get trashed the night before.

Planned on going out again on Saturday, just didn't know where or with who.

I'll have part 2 up later today and it's a lot better. Felt like the last two days were just the warm up for the real weekend haha.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Part 2

This is gonna be looong. I'll section it out and I'm gonna trim some parts and make a separate FR on the other sub forum.

Saturday
Before The Adventure

Got to work about an hour late but it was all gucci. Bought my co workers some smoothies to make up for it. My co worker went to grab food afterwards, the waitress was pretty cute but had a partner. She still grabbed my number and was interested in a class I attend on a college campus. We'll see if she ever hits me up.

I took a nap till around 7, then met back up with my co worker. We dropped off something for our friend downtown and stopped by his restaurant. Had a beer then we headed to a coffee shop real quick. One of my wings texts me and wants to go out. I leave the shop and head downtown to meet him.

Warm Up

Met up with my wing and we started warming ourselves up. We're pretty similar game wise and both have some trouble starting. We stop by a bar but go across the street to get some drinks. I grab one and I talked to a few dudes but not anything significant. Our other buddy texted us telling us to go to the club since he had list. We head over there and its some guys there from another city that are into game and one of my friends from high school is there as well! I already know some of the guys but I don't want to stick together in a giant group. We get in and its dead. Me and the guy I was originally with decided to dip out. We go to a bar down the street that I know and head in. Here I actually start approaching. Did one that didn't stick.

We go to the smoking area and there's not much. I talk to this girl I've met and she's with two dudes. She's not the most attractive but she's nice. She invites me to watch her wrestling show which I consider. At this point I didn't think I was gonna go back out on Sunday. We decide to leave and go back to downtown, but I don't have Uber or lfyt and my wings phone doesn't have service. We end up deciding to stay for a bit and we grab tacos.

This group of three girls come up and we chat them up. I was aiming to get them to call and Uber to take us all dowtown but didn't work out. Still a solid interaction. We head back into the bar and I see an old friend of mine. I can't go out anymore and not see someone I know. We're back in and my wing isn't feeling it. I see a group and just go through the motions. I hit it off with them and just start vibing pretty easily. They invite us to an after party. My wings not into it but I just tell him to trust me.

After Party

We hop into an Uber and head over to their house. They're pretty chill and turns out we're all vibing pretty well. There's two girls there which turns out is exactly the amount we need for the two of us. I just chat with the house owner and occasionally talk to the girls. I have no idea how to pull quite yet so I'm taking it slow.

We eventually decide to go to another after party. At this point the group loves me and my wing and they invite us to that one too. This one is a lot closer to my house and has a deep house party type vibe to it. A lot more my element.

I just socialize and look for an individual girl to go after. There's one I talk to that I fuck up with. She wanted to fuck but I didn't lead hard enough. All the signs were there. Oh well, onto the next. I grabbed her number and texted her for brunch but she didn't answer. I'll probably shoot her one more maybe Thursday then call it on that one.

I'll have Saturday up tomorrow.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Sunday?

I blurred Saturday and Friday up so I'll go on to Sunday.

We never went to sleep, so we got some coffee, rolled to my wings house, then went back out downtown. Got the Uber girls number but forgot to hit her up that day. Shame, she was a sexy black chick. We rolled to a brewery and day drank. Rolled to another spot and chilled and tried to break the wall of no sleep. Eventually I decided to leave because it was that social circle place I had pulled from before and didn't feel like navigating it. Went down to a bar downtown and started feeling good again. Got a few in but none stuck except this one.

Weekend Highlight

Definitely want some insight on this one.

Rolled into my wing's set and started talking to the brunette. Turns out she's super cool, we have a lot of the same interests. I'm vibing with her and I'm standing in between her legs and she's squeezing her legs around me. We all get into a game of Jenga and it's super fun. Me and my wing win both times - I'm pretty competitive. I think it'll pull and she had said something about super smash bros. We talk some more and I try and pull with that. My wing tries to pull with pizza and they say they have to be up early. I try and ignore this and keep the pill going but my wing and my girl started arguing about something and not in a fun flirty way. I feel the mood go down and try and bring it back up. It doesn't work and I just decide to grab her number. Her friend literally says, "I hope you guys see each other again!" I thought it was a done deal but I haven't heard from her since. Confusing as that was easily the best interaction I had all weekend.

We go for more stuff and nothing really sticks. We talked to a redhead but ended up teasing her too much. Went to another bar and eventually called it a night.


I've been stuck in a small town watching my Friend's house all week/weekend. I did go on one tinder date but time wasn't on my side. I tried to get her to come out later that night but she didn't respond. Oh well, I'll never see her again as I'm never up in this town.

Going out tonight depending on when I get back in town. Can't wait to be back to civilization.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Sunday went out late around 11, place I went was pretty dead in terms of girls. Drove with my wing downtown but the bars were closed due to an accident. Drove back to the first place but nothing was poppin and it was 1 by that time so we just went home. Plan on day gaming today.

 

[Smurf]

Wednesday

Didn't get much done wednesday, it was a little dead. Had a really good interaction at the beginning but me and my wing weren't ready. Rest of the night was kinda a wash.

Thursday

Went out with some friends and one of my friends had a cute sister. Turned out she had a boyfriend though so can't mess with that.

Still had two really good interactions, one with a hippy girl and another super cute one that was with her guy roommate. Before I would assume they were together but now I know better. She had to work in the morning but I grabbed both of their numbers.

Went to an after hours but not much there and just talked to some people just being social.

Don't think I'm going out today but we'll see,maybe something low key.

Jake.

 

[Smurf]

Friday

Last night I had a Tinder Date that went super well. I'll write up an actual LR here soon. Went out after but the girl gave me a dab so I was tired as fuck and called it early. Hippy girl is supposed to come down on Monday So I'll See If I can make that happen. Hanging with some friends today/going out so I'll see what happens.

Jake.