2/11/22
My nightgame approaching had made me extremely frustrated. I'm in one of the best cities on the planet, and here I am STANDING AROUND BY MYSELF AT BARS. Like a loser, like an unconfident ditherer. I have a limited amount of time-I am not going to waste it standing around wasting money to hold drinks that I'm not going to finish.
During previous week explorations, I discovered some hallowed meeting grounds. Beautiful, approachable girls. A wonderful venue. Large, with limitless potential. I decide that this Friday, before I go there, I need to spike my micro momentum, fast. Utilizing
mass approaching and
body rocking, I approach all around at a nearby bar to my apartment. It should be noted I still do this smoothly, just without regard for the endgame. The entire point was to both normalize opening, and to get out of my head.
Another useful note is that in addition to TRE, other anxiety reducing bodily therapy, I've begun transcendental meditation. 20 minutes, twice a day is the goal. For 20 minutes, repeat your mantram to yourself on repeat, to drown out all your other thought patterns. Russel Brand has a great
intro video (I've also fallen in love with Brand as much for his verbals as I love Rothfuss for his writing skills).
Anyway, I go to a second venue, but not much action there. There is one set with a super cute girl in a smoking attractive dress that I fuck up. I don't open well, and while she seems attracted, I basically ignore her, and also never open.
Anyway, enter the main venue of the night, and the main venue of many nights to come:
#1 3-set
As I walked into the venue, I saw two very attractive girls standing near the entrance, I walked, and then opened over shoulder. I made a simple comment about how it was my favorite venue in Miami. Turns out they were new to the city too, a group of friends from Oregon who had gone to different schools and then ventured out to the city.
There are two girls at the moment, a blonde one (who strikes me as the alpha girl), and another one, who has a slightly more slouched posture (she's also quite tall, perhaps she is slouching to make her seem more approachable to shorter guys?). Both of their attentions are on me, and I’m teasing and being playful.
They ask me about how long I’ve been in the city. And the issue here is I start breaking rapport. They ask if I’ve ever gone to E11even, and I say I have but don’t like it that much (if I’d said I’d never been, then they might have just invited me). They also ask me some other info like that but my rust makes it to the point where I break rapport too much.
Their third friend enters, and she’s the most attractive girl of them. She’s very much my type. We talk, and I guess I accidentally give her a compliment on her energy. She does touch me at times.
Eventually, they leave, and I have to look for new sets.
#2 Indiana girl
I see a girl separate from her friends and go near the river. I go up and ask her if she can take a picture of me. She goes to do so, and then it starts raining, hard, and fast. I should have grabbed her hand and pulled her into the tent to be more dominant, but I didn’t since I felt it was not right. I should have though.
I successfully cold read her being from the midwest, and am a small border off the state she is actually from.
She was very warm to me, touching me, etc. We talked a good amount on spirituality, and I tried to bridge that to the good sex gambit. I told her she reminded me of my friend, and that she and I had a really interesting conversation. She bites, and I deliver the gambit. The girl verbally resists, saying that ONS sex will obviously be bad because of a lack of connection. I point out that we all have had experiences where we meet someone, and it immediately feels like we’ve known them forever, pacing that I agree with the importance of connection though.
Talking to some tribal elders gave some other responses to reframe this verbal rejection:
1. Can add that sex with emotions and connection is good due to familiarity and comfort, but that casual sex with a new partner gives this rush-sense of mystery, spontaneity, and curiosity
2. Both are different and good and both have their place, and one should explore both, else miss out on many pleasures
For a first time sex talk, I’m happy, but I need to do it more in order to have success with it.
#3 Montreal/Argentina girls
These two open me, asking me to take a picture. Then they agree to take a picture of me. I give them some commands to be more excited in the picture, just to play around with it. They both comply well.
I start talking to the Montreal girl, since she had opened me. We talk and don’t get much talking done when a guy the Argentinian girl is talking to starts talking to the Montreal girl. Turns out she told him my girl speaks french. They start going at it, so I start talking to the Argentinian girl. Neither are that attractive, but the spanish appeal of the argentinian girl makes me decide to switch targets. We talk, me in bad spanish, her in good spanish and sometimes bad english. She has a boyfriend though, and is here with friends.
She eventually heads back and pulls Montreal girl with her.