The Ladykiller Chronicles

[Kvothe]

Still heavy fear, but vibe and overall sexual magnetism are improving. Working to improve conversations, become more comfortable, and simplify my processes.

From Hector, focusing on the following:

1. No cold reads (I'm doing it as a crutch and it's coming across too mechanical)
2. No trying to be witty (try hard)
3. If I don't know what to say, say nothing (build and be comfortable with tension)
4. Say random shit (self amusement + more natural conversation)
5. More natural and expressive facial expressions (warmth, emotional contagion, non-roboticness)

One more pull, which makes my date pull rate quite high, and LMR being the new sticking point. Exciting!

Girls are behaving much more attracted to me off the bat, and so I just need to learn to capitalize on that much better.

Had an instant date opportunity today, but got too nervous to actually suggest it and grabbed the number instead. Very annoyed by that since the girl seemed free, was cute, and had a great ass.

Probably some boyfriend value issues. Date yesterday said my vibe was much more prim and proper than dirty and sexual. Not sure how to fix that stylistically.

 

[Skills]

Still heavy fear, but vibe and overall sexual magnetism are improving. Working to improve conversations, become more comfortable, and simplify my processes.

From Hector, focusing on the following:

1. No cold reads (I'm doing it as a crutch and it's coming across too mechanical)
2. No trying to be witty (try hard)
3. If I don't know what to say, say nothing (build and be comfortable with tension)
4. Say random shit (self amusement + more natural conversation)
5. More natural and expressive facial expressions (warmth, emotional contagion, non-roboticness)

One more pull, which makes my date pull rate quite high, and LMR being the new sticking point. Exciting!

Girls are behaving much more attracted to me off the bat, and so I just need to learn to capitalize on that much better.

Had an instant date opportunity today, but got too nervous to actually suggest it and grabbed the number instead. Very annoyed by that since the girl seemed free, was cute, and had a great ass.

Probably some boyfriend value issues. Date yesterday said my vibe was much more prim and proper than dirty and sexual. Not sure how to fix that stylistically.

That is actually really good advice..... 6.- more subtle touches and subs (like micro escalations)....

 

[Kvothe]

That is actually really good advice..... 6.- more subtle touches and subs (like micro escalations)....

micro escalating kino wise is actually one of the areas I'm more comfortable with, so this one at least is better baseline than the others

what are subs? Sub communications?

 

[Skills]

micro escalating kino wise is actually one of the areas I'm more comfortable with, so this one at least is better baseline than the others

what are subs? Sub communications?

yes subcommunications

 

[Kvothe]

yes subcommunications

Good article on subs

Touch and Subcommunication

As I walked into my favorite nighttime venue this past Friday, I was immediately greeted by a couple of girls whom I had seen out a couple of times previously. I gave the first a big bear hug, picking her up off of the ground for a moment, and then slowly and gently placed her back on to her...

www.girlschase.com

 

[Kvothe]

Did 4 today. Heavy AA. Not sure why AA hits me harder than when I was younger.

Still got to work through it. Face the pain and accept the possible consequences. Only way to conquer anxiety

 

[Kvothe]

Mental strength can only be measured in hardship. If you're only able to maintain your state in good times, then you've never really been tested and that strength is just a facade.

 

[Kvothe]

Great two days with the squad. Y'all know who you are.

Lots of approaches focusing on less and less logic and thinking, and more and more emotional flow. Hit a great state with a girl where she did not speak english or spanish but we communicated purely on vibe with lots of laughter and physical touch.

Two notes:
1. Sexual energy isn't horniness imagine it more as being in the state you are right before sex in the bedroom
2. Triangle gazing-spend more than a polite amount of time looking at her lips then look back up and smile

 

[Kvothe]

Lot of emotional ups and downs. The highs were fantastic and culminated in meeting a really cool girl and fucking her well.

The lows have been awful. But I need to focus on accepting my emotions and working with them. That starts by accepting that I'm feeling them, and then proceeding to switch from victim mentality to problem solving mentality.

So goals are as forward:

1. Accept and feel emotions. Analyze them, learn from them, and process how to change the situation based on the emotions that are being felt.
2. Avoid outcomes. Focus on just enjoying the girls, getting to know them, and enjoying their energy. Just being social. Vibe and the sexuality will arise naturally.

No need for new things to focus on until these are handled.

 

[Kvothe]

An important caveat of law of least effort: in order to become a king you must first spend time as the jester/peasant. Working hard visibly in order to learn how to do it in a low effort seeming way.

 

[Kvothe]

For girls on their way to first dates

Me: Oh that's perfect

Her: Perfect?

Me: It'll give us grabbing drinks a vibe of needing to keep it secret-that's always fun. And if the dates doesn't go well we can pretend he's always away on a business trip and still keep the energy.

Small idea for a fun we frame that's flirty and better than what I did yday.

 

[Kvothe]

Got 1 number off of a day of 10 approaches with 9 blowouts.

The main takeaway from the number is that at some point she says she cares about FIRE, and I ask her why-and she says she just doesn't want to work.

I think I should challenge/tease her a bit here.

Having a hard time thinking of a good us vs them or her chasing tease.

"Uh oh you're not one of those girls who just makes everyone else do all the work in her life right?"

She says something.

"Ok cool-because if we're ever at a bar I expect you to put in the work for us to get free drinks from random dudes "

 

[Kvothe]

Notes from yday coaching with Hector.

Therapy has been helpful and it's good to keep a lot of the stuff we talked with in mind. Now it's time to get back to concrete examples.

Overall seeing improvements in how I move through the world and my views towards external validation. I'm growing and seeing less and less of a purpose to it as it feels like all the things I need to do to get that validation I was seeking I got a long time ago.

Along with that more honesty-both internal and external, and expressing that has been good.

Still working on viewing women as people-still have a hard time with that.

Also some overthinking, need more fun and focusing on that.

Pulled yesterday. Kind of unexpected kind of not. Didn't think I was going to get past the LMR but I did and she was super happy I did too.