Barry's Social Circle Journal

[BarryS1]

FR: Music and Foodtruck Festival 8/30

I went with a group of 5 friends to a foodtruck festival in the downtown area of my city. I give myself a D for the entire day b/c I only did 2 approaches and spent $45 for the ticket/food. At this rate, going to events doesn't have good ROI.

Mistakes:
-Not doing streetgame. On the way there, I ran into 3 different groups I could have practiced on.
-Being too picky. There were dozens of girls in groups, but most were ugly. I am not building my circle of only hitting on the hottest ones.

Girl #1

I was waiting for my food at the foodtruck and this tall (6'3''), boodylicious red head made a comment after I ordered my food. I asked her a situational question, but after brief dialogue my mind went blank. I couldn't get past the small talk and after 10 sec. she left with her food.

Girl #2

I saw a group of girls order at a food truck and after waiting them to stand in the "waiting line" pre-opened my target by touching her elbow. She was 5'4'' brunette, normal body type, with a flower tiara. I did a direct compliment on the flower tiara and got a cheerful response. I did not even banter or deep-dive, but asked them out right away to join me in the next field. They denied me twice and said they had to leave but were sorry. They said they were SOOO thirsty for something to drink and I didn't even comment on it ----____----


I feel SO DUMB b/c I prepared a list of sexual and chase frames for this event. I was too thirsty....

 

[BarryS1]

Another RANT

I was on vacation over the weekend when I had a horrible wake-up call after looking at a girl's snapchat story. The girl was the one who friendzoned me and motivated me to join the site. We added each other a month ago and I got hooked on her again. I saw her hugging a guy... I knew she had a bf. Later that night, I checked again and she added more pics to her story with the same guy with heart drawings. MY STOMACH CHURNED.

Two days later, I unfriended her on snapchat and went on happy with my life. I checked facebook and found pics of her and the guy - spanning weeks!!

The caliber of this guy is ridiculous: top college in SoCal, fraternity member, entrepreneur with a successful business, contestant on a top reality show (I'm hiding the name), tons of YouTube videos/interviews online, and only 20 years old!!!!

I can't believe she attracted a guy of that caliber. When I knew her 1 1/2 years ago, she kept complaining how she never been on a date before. I'm simply blown away and don't know what to think. Here I am 23 years old with a non-paid job living with my parents who hasn't traveled anywhere. I'm gonna work myself to the bone and pump my value. I shouldn't of spent most of the last year hitting on girls in department stores, but expanded my professional life.

 

[BarryS1]

I've made some big changes to my social circle life. I am not taking a community college course anymore and enrolled in a public speaking club instead. I am still trying to network at the private university and to try got to a party.

On the bright side, I am getting the hang of indirect approaching

 

[BarryS1]

FR: Self Defense Class 9/16

I flunked pretty hard trying to open a girl and tried pinging another girl w/ sub-optimal results.

Girl #1 - White, big butt, 5'3'', quite, very high level ranking in self-defense. I was surprised by how soft and boring she was, usually those of higher ranking are intense. I tried a situational opener and several other questions related to a story about myself to get the convo rolling, but nothing is working. I approached her while in front of the clothing rack, two feet away from where she was sitting on the bench.

Me: (In front of girl near the clothing rack) Have you seen any sweaters put out yet?

Girl: (Immediately answers) No ... I haven't seen any. More should be coming in the fall.

Me: That's right, we still have a couple more months, huh? (Sitting down next to her) Not like TapOut shirts, right?

Girl: No, I don't think we sell TapOut shirts.

Me: Ok, I bet TapOut shirts are for the meathead gyms.

Girl: What gyms?

Me: MEATHEAD gyms. You know, the intense gyms.

Girl: Oh, meathead gyms. (chuckles a little)

Me: Those types of gyms are for intense people right, I don't think we have anyone like that here. (Trying to get her to qualify herself)

She started giving me several word answers after that:
-Meathead question
-My dilemma of skipping a test for a wedding (Trying to tell a story about myself)

I got a couple of chuckles, but no looking into my eyes or complete hook. I got up and left afterward.


Girl #2 Brazilian, skinny with slight curves, 5'5''.

She approached me saying, "We are the only level 0 students here!"

Me: Yeah, we are gonna get killed today!

Girl: Wow, no self-esteem.

Me: Hm.... I bet they aren't that great though. They probably go like twice a week.

Girl: (Keeps looking at me)

Me: I've seen you, people like us by like 3+ times a week. We can handle them!

Girl: (Said something about them knowing more techniques, ect.)

Me: So what do you like better, the techniques or the fitness part?

Girl: (Muttered something about the techniques)

The intructor interupted by starting the class, but I deep-dove on too deep of a topic. I am trying to get past the small talk, but it wasn't happening today. I am gonna try getting there early and keep practicing!

 

[BarryS1]

FR: Finally out of the house!!! - University Campus

I finished a project with work yesterday and haven't been out of the house for the last 1.5 weeks (except for two times). It is always rocky getting back into approach, especially the first day. I feel socially uncalibrated, don't have the motivation to approach, and am nervous approaching the REALLY hot girls.

I am trying to network at a private college university to meet college girls. I have been there twice to look at event banners and cold-approach, but have not gotten any contacts. I got information from students before, but have not made any friends there. I want to join a type of social circle and fit in b/c I am applying to get my masters there and attend next year.

Girl #1 - Sorority Girl at petting zoo

There was a petting zoo on campus with a sorority girl trying to put it away. I situationally opened her, but she hardly invested in the conversation. I asked her what other things are going on this week and she said there was a student discount party at TARGET. I said thanks and left, I didn't know what else to say.

Girl #2 - Girl in Business Building

I saw a girl sitting on a floor by herself in an armchair. I was looking around the area for a place to plug in and found one RIGHT IN FRONT OF HER. I asked her

Do you see any power outlets here?

. She pointed to one right in front of her, so I sat across from her on the table. I didn't know what else to say after that and felt tired, so I sat there for 30min applying to jobs online LOL!


OVERVIEW:

I realized that I say many situational openers in a row to catch a girls attention. I realize now that no matter how bad the situational opener is, I have to ROLL with it and start bantering and push my vibe.

New Goal:
I am gonna approach 40 girls next week to get back in the grove. That's my challenge to myself! I need to push past this dryspell. I haven't even made-out in a month!!!

 

[BarryS1]

FR: Private University Fun

On Friday, I went to the same university, but changed the venues.

Girl #1: Art Gallery

This university is very wealthy and has a 2000 sqft. building to showcase art just because I talked to a guy who worked there for a couple minutes, but when a girl walked in he left to do something else. He gave me a lot of information about upcoming events. She was not the bubbly social type, rather the awkward type that repeats the same conversation snippets to everyone. She was around 5’3’’, blonde, early 20s, voluptuous, but a little on the heavy side - still fuckeable. I situationally opened the girl and practiced deep-diving, while getting compliance and made her give me a tour. Here’s the topics:

-Name
-What her major was
-What year she was
-What type of art she likes better - paintings or sculptures
-Why she likes art

I stayed 10min after the gallery closed and had to leave - otherwise I would of kept talking to her. I’ll definitely stop by again!


Girl #2: Freshman

I direct cold approached a freshman girl walking to her dorm. She wasn’t surprised at my compliment after pre-opening, but quietly pleased (if that makes sense). I had to give a energetic vibe b/c she was the quite type. Here’s the events

-correctly cold-read her major
-deep-dived what she liked about the school - palm trees or fancy buildings. Found out where she’s from why she came here. She was a freshman
-Found out what she hasn’t done yet - she said interested in going to a fancy sandwich shop. Asked her out on that note and said yes

HERE’S THE SHADY PART

I handed her my phone, she did the same. I typed in my number, but when I got my phone back, she cleared the screen and went back to my home screen. I was like, “I don’t see your contact info, did you put it in?” She said yes her name was X. I was like okay, sure and we left. Looking through my contacts, she put her first and last name, but wrote 8 random #’s for her contact info. Never had a girl do that before!

 

[BarryS1]

FR: Networking at university again


Person #1:

I didn't do any approaches that day, but did some networking on campus. I went to a frat booth and introduced myself saying I am applying for my MBA at the school. He wasn't that interested in talking to me saying they don't have any Grad. students in their frat. He invited me to an event and gave a flyer out.

Person #2:

I went to the graduate admissions office and got invited to a networking event next week. There will be alumni and current students talking about their program. I love any social event where I can experiment indirect-direct.

 

[BarryS1]

FR: Depressed at s--- and can't get my mind right

10/1

I went to the private university to do social circle game by going to an event and hitting on girls in the library. I was trying to use Tool's "two birds technique" but I didn't see any girl look at me. Even worse, I couldn't find the latino food event later that evening. I went to the room and no one was there.

My Mood:

I was sad the entire day and couldn't muster up the courage to do any approaches. I tried making small talk with people, but it did nothing. The entire time I was thinking, "What's the point of this?"

Overview:

I couldn't muster up a single good approach and didn't stop a girl for a simple direct approach the whole day. I got some work done, but wasted $ on gas and parking to get there. I have a ritual in place, but that does not help

 

[BarryS1]

FR: Choosing to merge sets correctly - Playing Golf

I've been thinking about the idea of merging sets a lot. Taking people from other social circles and getting them to hang out privately. Getting people out of the environment solidifies the bond between you two.

The drawback:

I am in a time of my life where I want to meet tons of new people. Should I be focused on spending one-on-one time with friends or invite them to groups to keep meeting new ones?

My realization:

I should be spending one-on-one time with friends to strengthen the bond PLUS invite them to events. I remember reading one of Chase's articles about female friends to mix time between one-on-one with groups events.

I will take up the hobby of golf for playing occasionally with friends. I do not want to master golf, but keep a competent level for occasional bonding moments.

 

[BarryS1]

FR: University Approaching

My social circle includes a community college and private university. I have been impatient with social circle events there, so I decided to do direct cold approaching. I have a confession to make - I am scared of approaching girls my age. The reason I was so obsessed with older women the last year is b/c they seemed more obtainable. Younger girls are much more attractive and I used to be nervous around them. My goal by the end of the month is to eliminate all AA for younger girls.

Community College:

Group #1: Three Japanese older girls

I did an situational opener b/c the three were walking around and pointing at things. We walk around together, but there's a strong language barrier. I baited them to screen me and it was fun I asked them out to lunch b/c we were searching for food but my favorite one was married.

Girl #2: Young Latina

I did compliance pre-opener with a strong/simple compliment. The girl never hooked, but we bantered about her wearing all read. She said her favorite color was green so I did a chase frame b/c I wore green! I asked for her to stop walking and talk in the shade but she had to go.


Private University:

Girl #1: Athletic but slightly chubby white brunette

Did a compliance pre-opener with a strong/simple compliment. She smiled and was happy with the approach, but I was so nervous. I fumbled my words like I used to a year ago. I bid her farewell b/c I was awkward.

Girl #2: Mischa Brooks look-alike. HB-10

This is MY TYPE holy crap. She looked like a pornstar. Small tits, but big ass and SUPER nice. Did the same type of pre-opener and opener and she hooked harder. We bantered about her clothing and she told me about where she's from, ect. I baited her to ask me things and it worked! I was gonna ask her out but her guy friend came up and it felt awkward. I don't know how to deal with interuptions yet.



Note to make: younger girls are surprised with your cold-approach, so don't be high energy like you used to be.

 

[BarryS1]

FR: Company Open House 10/8

I was in a terrible mood, but forced myself to drive an hour away to go to a company's open house. I wanted to network and possibly meet girls. I wasn't in a social mood and only got contact info from 2 people. I like expanding my circle of friends and connections, so it wasn't a waste of time.

 

[BarryS1]

FR: MBA Session - Private University 10/9

I went to a private MBA session planning to network and practice indirect game. I arrived 15 min. before to the center expecting a mixer, but everyone was squished together in an auditorium. I was in a bad mood so I didn't open anyone. Even worse is that people were leaving the presentation 1.5 hrs into it and by the end at 2 hrs, 1/4 of ppl remained. All the hot girls were gone!!!!

Next time at a presentation, I'll come even earlier and approach girls sitting down.

I got contact info from a guy hosting a business club meeting, so I'll check it out. With social circle so far, I am making tons of connections - just not dating girls yet LOL!

 

[BarryS1]

FR: Private University Direct Approaching

I have been going no where doing indirect game at the university, so I decided to go direct again. I am focusing on going direct on girls walking alone instead of groups so I don't give girls bad reputations. I found that late after noons work great for this. So far, I have not had a single blowout approaching girls from this campus - great sexual market. My approaches have either been interrupted, I mess up, or I get the #.

Girl #1:

I did NJ's dominant direct compliment on a black girl (5'6'', big ass, skinny) with great success. I was walking by, but saw she looked at me then turned her head down. We walked together for 5 min, got to # close her, chase-frame, yada yada. She texted me Saturday night as well! I am excited to see her this week.

 

[BarryS1]

FR: Programming Conference 10/11-10/12

I went to a programming conference all weekend for networking and meeting girls. I had a ton of material to practice for indirect game, but didn't do any approaches until the last day.

Day 1:

I felt so bored, that the only people I talked to were the ones who approached me. I got contact info from a guy who would be a great professional connection!

Day 2:

Same as Day 1, I did not initiate conversation with anyone b/c I felt in "learning mode". Ended up talking to the same guy from yesterday about our job, career object, ect.

Girl #1:

Only girl I approaches was the raffle girl who gave me the prize. As soon as I started to deep dive her, she blew me off and turned to her co-workers. Even if it was the end of the day on the 2 day conference, I could of done better. Sure she was tired, but I didn’t perform well

Overview:

This is really stupid, but I should be doing a warmup and being consistent with my rituals. I should have lists of things to screen BASIC people on for starting a conversation. I didn't feel confident b/c its a new field for me, but I need to do my research!

 

[BarryS1]

FR: I'm Getting Tired 10/14

I went to the private university for going to a student networking event (suggested by one of my contacts). Before going to the building, I tried doing some direct campus approach, but was too lazy to run up to any girl. I blew away at least 3 chances.

At the business building, I was about to go into the room full of people, but I was too exhausted. I have been going out everyday to social circle events the last 10 days. I went out to try walking around approach direct, BAD idea.

Girl #1 - HB9 blonde big butt

I did the clumsiest direct approach on a blonde walking by. Preopened and did direct compliment, but did not have enough energy for following through. I let her go.

Girl #2 - HB8 brunette big butt

I did a better approach, but my energy failed me 1/2 way through. The pauses worked as she answered my questions and said I should walk with her. I left her b/c I was too tired

Overview:

I talked to a couple PUA guys in my area and they said I was training WELL, but not in the right areas. I should diversify my energy evenly among my different pua lifestyle activities: hobbies, tactics, inner game learning (videos/books), and making connections. I need to spread my energy around so I am not physically exhausted all the time sarging and networking.

 

[ray_zorse]

hey Barry you are pushing yourself pretty hard, good to see but all these mixers, networking events etc sound a bit tiring, they are mostly in the evening after a full day's classes etc? Don't be upset with yourself if the vibe isn't what u hoped, I'd recommend (1) if really not feeling it, blow it off (2) a tea or energy drink beforehand (3) attention to warmup since the tiredness is sometimes more in your head (4) a shot of adrenaline from meeting a hot hot woman

I was gonna go join the mountaineering club at my uni last Tues and hopefully get a bit of sarging in (cos its getting to summer here and I want to meet more outdoorsy girls) but blew it off at the last minute and went to do cold approach. All depends on mood I think.

cheers, Ray

PS. I love your idea of building social circle by approaching. I need to do the same as my social circle is a bit too streamlined atm. I'm enjoying the read.

 

[BarryS1]

hey Barry you are pushing yourself pretty hard, good to see but all these mixers, networking events etc sound a bit tiring, they are mostly in the evening after a full day's classes etc? Don't be upset with yourself if the vibe isn't what u hoped, I'd recommend (1) if really not feeling it, blow it off (2) a tea or energy drink beforehand (3) attention to warmup since the tiredness is sometimes more in your head (4) a shot of adrenaline from meeting a hot hot woman

I graduated from a uni last Dec, but am networking at a different one to meet college girls and gain connections. Interesting to note about warmups, when I know I'm REALLY exhausted, the warm-ups won't do anything. In a single day, each approach gets better and better. If not, I am too exhausted to talk!

I was talking to some PUA guys in my area and they mentioned rituals to get me in a good state of mind. Music, videos, and incantations help me so I don't have to rely on warmups. Most of the time with college cold approach, I only have time to do one!

I was gonna go join the mountaineering club at my uni last Tues and hopefully get a bit of sarging in (cos its getting to summer here and I want to meet more outdoorsy girls) but blew it off at the last minute and went to do cold approach. All depends on mood I think.

cheers, Ray

PS. I love your idea of building social circle by approaching. I need to do the same as my social circle is a bit too streamlined atm. I'm enjoying the read.

Good idea to go to clubs! Its weird b/c the ONLY results I've had from social circle game is from cold approach in those environments. I am struggling in the energy department to stay concentrated for more than 20min or so. Cold approach is perfect b/c it only lasts for 5min or so.

 

[BarryS1]

FR++: University Girl

After 1.5 months of networking at a private university, I got my first date! This was from the girl I cold approached last week directly. I arrived 10min late to the date. She was the quite, inexperienced type - I have no experience dating girls like her. She is black with a small afro haircut. How the date went:

-Met in front of library
-Played piano in music room (reserved the room)
-Walk to her dorm
-Sat on bed and started making out touching each other
-I forgot a condom and she said SHES NEVER BEEN KISSED B4
-Told her I never seen star trek and she said we have to watch it sometime (she even texted me that night about it)

Overview:
She is the most high-caliber girl I've ever dated. Engineer, in 3 student organizations, around my height 5'8'' and has a PHAT ass.

 

[BarryS1]

Breakthrough Point - Ditching My Friends

Because of my new social circle schedule, I am busier than any other time of my life. I can't even waste an hour, every part of my day is articulately planned. I don't even have enough time to read others' FR or comments in the rest of the forum.

My old friends from college (who I reconnected with in August) invited me to brunch this morning. I accepted, but then had a realization:

They are fun to hang out with, but am I gaining anything from spending time with them?

Let me think:
-Social experience? No, I can handle small-talk and judgement from other people well.
-Approaching? No, all the guys are either gay or in a relationship and there are no single girls.
-Social Proof at the event? No, they hardly go anywhere besides restaurants and don't go anywhere after wards.

I decided that even though a friend is great to converse with, if they aren't helping me pursue my other goals THERES NO POINT SPENDING TIME WITH THEM. Being cool isn't enough for a friend to keep me around.

My Decision:

I sent a text message and canceled my appearance for the event. They don't add any value to my life.

 

[BarryS1]

FR: I Feel Like S$%&

I tried approaching at the private university yesterday, but couldnt' do it. I did my ritual, but couldn't get out of my bad mood. I let 8 chances walk by, I hit a new low.

Main Reason: I don't approve of myself.

When I first started approaching, I felt great about myself. I had a career direction, a promising unpaid job, and a fun hobby of approaching girls. Now, I am miserable having graduated almost a year ago and haven't moved out of my house with a paying job. I can't think about approaching with so many other priorities:

-Finding a paid job
-Moving out
-Having surgery on Monday and recovering for 2 months