Hey guys, appreciate all the responses. Sorry for the late reply, timezones and work.
@climbingup,
@Beck Bass - I'm actually in Engineering but the sector I'm in (manufacturing) I don't enjoy too much and it seems you have to slave away for the bare minimum when it comes to a raise. Software is where most of the money is, and I've been considering moving for a while.
IT/programming pays really well and it's "not that hard" to get into (meaning you don't necessarily need a degree, but you do need the knowledge/know how), but learning front end programming, aka how to make websites (the part the people see anyway) it's very doable, even if you don't know much about math, logic or programming, and it has some decent paying jobs. I know you're a smart guy so if you choose to go down this path I can see you being successful,
I actually do programming as a hobby, mainly small hacky stuff but have made some useful applications such as my own finance tracker. Not as much web dev though. And in most of my jobs (including my current one) I have done some programming which has been the most enjoyable and stimulating aspect by far.
The big leap is going from doing small scale stuff to actual applications. I can pivot my career in that direction and yeah, have been considering moving since the pay is significantly higher than what I am doing now, and it aligns with my inclinations. I do need to put a bunch of work in since essentially I will be entry level and competing with grads coming out of uni for the entry level jobs. I am expecting an initial pay cut but I'll have to just keep working and digging to find those opportunities.
and you can keep music as your side thing, because how knows, maybe you eventually "make it" (I know, for me, it would be hard to live without doing music, even as a side thing, to me that creative side is very important, and I love music).
Exactly, I will never feel complete if I don't utilize my love for music in some capacity!
@Bismarck
Have you tried JBP's Past and Future Authoring Program Beam?
It helped me get out of my rut in 2020 when my market collapsed due to the COVID hysteria. Even now I think I am mostly working to achieve the goals I set myself or the images I saw in my mind of what I wanted my ideal life to be. Very powerful stuff IMO.
Hmm, I have not, will have to check it out.
@TomInHo
I feel for you bro, but I think that woman was draining your energy. The break up was probably for the best because now you can fully focus on getting your life back on track rather than trying to appease a girl that can never be satisfied
Gotta put yourself first always, and if a girl is not willing to bend even just a little to keep you happy then she should kick rocks.
Appreciate you telling it straight man. Of course my emotions are still there, I still care for her and miss her (admittedly less so now as some time has passed). She showed sweet, feminine sides of herself many times and genuinely seemed like she wanted to be that way all the time, but found it difficult based on what happened to her. But you're right, it did start to feel exhausting having to constantly try reassuring her and there is some sense of relief in not having to do that anymore. And at the end she made statements about me that just flat out weren't true, when I had already addressed those issues (or so I thought) which annoyed me. So, I know that this is for the best as hard as it was.
@Rakeshell
Agreed, the whole purpose of relationships should be to uplift or inspire you directly/indirectly. If the other person whether it be a friend, girlfriend or whatever, isn’t helping your situation mentally/physically or even worse taking away from it, then it isn’t worth it in my opinion.
She was trying. But, she would try on some things and not budge on others. I don't know. It was confusing. I still need to write the full breakdown on what happened - it will make things clearer for me and everyone else.
