Gameboy's Journal

[gameboy]

Yeah honestly I feel most of the times they do small things like that it is their polite way of saying they are not interested.

Yeah I think it was something like that. She gave off vibes she wanted to be alone. Every time I saw her.

I believe I can kind of "intuit" when a girl wants to be approached, at least on the beach. Sometimes I just see her from very far away, sitting there, and it's just the way she's looking around that makes me think this one wants to meet someone.

Nevertheless, with today's girl since I was already crouching next to her, and she was friendly enough, I should have at least tried to find out what her situation was. Maybe she was just shy herself, even though I doubt it. But it would have been great to find out so I don't have to be kicking myself afterward for premature ejection (lol).

I have done it but not with much success. Have also opened the moms, they seemed hotter to me haha

Hahah fair enough, I'm usually into the daughters

Maybe I'll do it one day. I see so many girls out with their moms here, sooner or later it's bound to happen haha.

 

[ChrisXKiss]

I believe I can kind of "intuit" when a girl wants to be approached, at least on the beach. Sometimes I just see her from very far away, sitting there, and it's just the way she's looking around that makes me think this one wants to meet someone.

That’s great to have! On the other hand I think if you really feel you like her it doesn’t harm to go anyway.

Hahah fair enough, I'm usually into the daughters

We can wing and I take the mother so we are all happy

 

[gameboy]

We can wing and I take the mother so we are all happy

That's be awesome!

if you really feel you like her it doesn’t harm to go anyway.

Yes. And I should, really.


I'm thinking the girl today probably was a "yellow". I really wish I'd stayed there longer and gotten to know her better. I had nothing to lose, nowhere to be urgently, and a lot to gain.

I don't think running off like that was fair for her either. I probably left her wondering what that was about.

Intention:
When I'm talking to an attractive girl who's friendly, I'm goint to stay with her until either something happens, or I get her number. Unless she tells me to scram, of course.

 

[gameboy]

Okay I've been taking it easy recently. It was just too hot to do street game during the day, even on the beach except in the evenings when it gets a bit cooler.

But not approaching at all isn't an option either. Today I did one approach on the beach. I saw a really cute girl, part of a 2F set. I didn't approach at first because she was changing her clothes, and it wouldn't have been a good moment. Instead I sat nearby and waited.

Fortunately her friend got changed first and walked off, otherwise I probably wouldn't have approached at all. When I saw she was all dressed, I casually walked over and asked her "Are you from X country?" She said "Sorry?" so I repeated the question in English. She just said "no" so I said "Oh, i thought you look like your from X. " (pause) "So where are you from?" She told me, and I bantered a bit more but I could tell she wasn't interested. She was also really too young for me.

Later I thought, a good followup if the girl looks young could be "I thought you looked interesting, but now I'm thinking you might be a bit too young for me" with a smile. Then if she is actually interested, that would give her a chance to qualify herself.

Anyway, it was a good warmup, except I didn't find any good prospects afterwards lol. I did see one girl by herself, but as I was getting close she got up and left. I saw her face and wasn't that impressed.

Then later I saw another one sitting on a bench, it might even have been the same girl... I'm not sure. Problem was, there was another bench right next to her with a couple sitting there, looking at me. I'd have had to park my bike and walk over to the bench, then towered over her talking down with that couple watching... couldn't bring myself to do it.

Tomorrow I'm hoping to do at least one or two approaches in the street, even if it's hot. Just ask for favorite color or whatever to warm up. Then hopefully I'll be in more of a sociable mood when I go the beach in the afternoon.

 

[gameboy]

Great day today!

I'm feeling inspired by guys like @AspiringStoic and @ChrisXKiss who are doing tons of volume, and also by a recent post that praised the power of momentum (sorry I forgot by who it was).

I decided to do at least one favorite color warmup approach, close to my house. It was around noon.

WARMUP 1

I walked around and at first couldn't find any girls that were of an acceptable age and looks. Saw one with lots of tattoos, and I figured her favorite color is probably black. But a little boy (probably her son) was walking next to her, so I didn't ask.

Then I saw a girl sitting by herself on a public chair. She looked foreign, so I asked her if she speaks English. She said yes. Then I asked for her favorite color. She looked puzzled, thought about it for a second, then said "Blue". I said "Oh, blue, like your shirt" which had blue stripes. She said yes again. I wasn't really super interested in her, so I said thank you and goodbye.

HBGREEN

Just a few meters down the road, I saw a cute little redhead coming my way. I said "excuse me" in the local language. She took her earplugs out, and I asked what her favorite color is. She said "Green!" I said "Green, like your shirt" (which was all green)

She laughed and said yes.

I said I also like green, it's the color of hope, also my favorite really. Then I told her "I thought you look nice and I wanted to talk to you." She liked that.

I asked her if she's from here, she said "No I'm from X... and you?" I told her my home country, she asked whereabouts in my country and I told her. I asked her her name, she told me, then I told her mine

We shook hands, I held it for a bit longer, she withdrew after 1 or 2 seconds. She asked how to pronounce my name right it in my language, so I said it slowly a few times.

I asked her what she was doing now, she said nothing special, I'm just getting my nails done. I teased her a bit and said "Getting yourself dolled up eh?", to which she laughed and said yes.

She asked me "And you, what are you up to?" I told her I live here, and I'm going home now to eat.

We were both smiling and laughing a lot, the vibe was great. I decided to go for the close, and asked her if she wants to go for a coffee. She said "No, I'm leaving now for my country and I'll be back in 2 weeks"

I started saying "We can talk", I was going to say "when you're back", but she was holding out her hand and saying "Nice to meet you!"

Instead of shaking her hand, I said "Gimme a hug!" and hugged her goodbye. Then I went on my way, smiling, and in a great mood. I remember thinking "Cold approach really is king!" (read that somewhere on this forum in the morning )

I had to buy some groceries before going home. On my way back, HBGreen was still standing there in the street, right in front of my place. She was now talking on the phone in her language though. I gave her a big smile and said "Hello [her nationality]", but I think she didn't reply because she was talking.

Nevertheless this was a super fun interaction. I'm wondering if I could have done this better? Is it possible to move too fast? I should probably have qualified her a bit before going for the soft close. Any feedback, do let me know!

BEACH

The rest of the day was fun as well, but without any real hooks. I came across two blond dyed girls on the beach who were being super silly with one of the girls trying to put on a swimsuit and the other holding a huge towel all over her. I was like 5 meters away, but I lauged at them and teased them a bit, saying "You look like you're pretending to be a ghost". They were quite receptive. The first girl saw me and told the 2nd girl something, and the 2nd girl's head actually emerged from under the towel. She said "I can't do it!" to me.

I said something funny back, don't remember what it was. She went back under her towel, so after a while I turned away to not be too creepy staring at her while she tried to get changed.

They walked by me toward the sea to take pictures. I said "Did you manage in the end?" but they didn't reply.

While they did their little photoshoot I went down to the sea at one point, grinning at them and I think the 1st girl actually said "hello" to me. I really didn't know what to say. I was thinking they are coming off as cockteases and anyway it's a 2F-set, so I didn't put much effort in. In hindsight, I should have!

RUSSIAN GIRL

While those two were still shooting pictures, another girl arrived and placed herself right behind me. So close that it just had to be an IOI, since there was lots of free space all around. I was like damn what's going on? Today they all seem to want me lol.

The girl that just arrived went into the water for a swim. I decided to open her when she came back, since it couldn't have been an accident that she put her stuff like 2m or less away from me. I watched the 2 blondies meanwhile, who were now packing up and leaving.

New girl took her time in the water. When she came back, I asked her, "how's the water?" She smiled briefly, and said "Good." I asked her "Cold?" even though I knew it wasn't. She said something noncommittal, then pulled out her phone. I gave her a few seconds, then asked her "Are you from X country?" - she ignored me. I asked "No?" - again, no reply.

I leaned back for a while. After a few minutes I decided to change locations since the sun wasn't shining any more where I was. I wanted to give this girl one more chance before leaving, so I put on my shorts, gathered my stuff and then standing, asked her once more "Where are you from?" She said Russia. I said "Oh, Russia! From Moscow?" She said, no, St Petersburg. She wasn't smiling any more, just talking a bit down to me since she was quite tall and I was also standing a little bit lower than her. I said "Oh, that's a cold place" to which she said nothing I asked "Do you live here?" and she said "Temporarily."

I felt she was giving me a bit of an attitude now. I don't know if she wanted to play hard to get, or genuinely wasn't interested, but I decided I'd just leave. So I said "Right, enjoy your stay!" and left.

EVENING

I saw 2 or 3 more girls that I could have opened, but didn't. I guess I'm being a bit too selective, and/or my AA came back.

- First girl I didn't find super attractive, but I was sitting close to her and as I got ready to leave, she gave me what felt like a brief but interested look
- Second girl was smoking
- Third girl was lying down, wearing shades and immersed in her phone

I really need to get over my aversion to opening smoking girls. I believe smokers are actually easier.

I should have also opened the not-super-attractive one even if just to chat for a bit. Who knows maybe she was really cool!

CONCLUSION

Any ideas what I could have done better with HBGREEN? Did I move too fast?

I should have talked to the two blondies more. I had a feeling it wouldn't go anywhere, but I guess I could at least have gone for their insta given that they were making a huge show out of taking pictures.

This was clearly a case of "OMG 2-set of super hot girls taking pictures of each other and being super sexy with their poses"... It's not often that I feel that girls are out of my league, but now in hindsight, that really seems to be what happened.

Also, Russian girl definitely disctracted me. Should have gone for the ones that were actually being all giggly, and smiling instead of for the crazy ice queen.

And last but not least... Gotta open smoking girls anyway! And be a bit less picky in general.

 

[AspiringStoic]

HBGREEN

Just a few meters down the road, I saw a cute little redhead coming my way. I said "excuse me" in the local language. She took her earplugs out, and I asked what her favorite color is. She said "Green!" I said "Green, like your shirt" (which was all green)

She laughed and said yes.

I said I also like green, it's the color of hope, also my favorite really. Then I told her "I thought you look nice and I wanted to talk to you." She liked that.

I asked her if she's from here, she said "No I'm from X... and you?" I told her my home country, she asked whereabouts in my country and I told her. I asked her her name, she told me, then I told her mine

We shook hands, I held it for a bit longer, she withdrew after 1 or 2 seconds. She asked how to pronounce my name right it in my language, so I said it slowly a few times.

I asked her what she was doing now, she said nothing special, I'm just getting my nails done. I teased her a bit and said "Getting yourself dolled up eh?", to which she laughed and said yes.

She asked me "And you, what are you up to?" I told her I live here, and I'm going home now to eat.

We were both smiling and laughing a lot, the vibe was great. I decided to go for the close, and asked her if she wants to go for a coffee. She said "No, I'm leaving now for my country and I'll be back in 2 weeks"

I started saying "We can talk", I was going to say "when you're back", but she was holding out her hand and saying "Nice to meet you!"

Instead of shaking her hand, I said "Gimme a hug!" and hugged her goodbye. Then I went on my way, smiling, and in a great mood. I remember thinking "Cold approach really is king!" (read that somewhere on this forum in the morning )

Great interaction. You pushed so many of your personal boundaries here. Gotta celebrate that. The compliment showing interest, going for the close, getting the hug all amazing stuff.

I am sure someone could analyse it in detail and pick out things you could have done better but I don't think its a good idea. You just pushed your boundaries, gotta pat yourself on the back and say yess let me do more of these.

I think patterns that are meaningful arise after you do a good chunk of similar approaches. 1 interaction is too small a sample size.

Great job sticking in the interaction with the Russian girl. Another step in the right direction. I always felt you ejected too soon. It would be great if you keep doing this and really pushing it till she either rejects you or ends up being a success.

Great job today. I am super happy if my exploits are encouraging you as well.

 

[gameboy]

The temperature has gone down a little so I felt like doing some warmup approaches in the city center before going to the beach in the afternoon. The plan was to do 3 favorite color openers, which I did.

I also decided to improvise at one point because I wanted to get a haircut. (My hair is very short but I get it shaved off every once in a while because it looks better that way.) I took off my cap and walked over toward a girl coming my way, and asked her if she thought I should get a haircut. She grinned, but didn't reply and kept walking. I kind of called after her "Tell me, yes or no?" but no reaction.

That probably wasn't the smoothest opener because she'd have to make up her mind what answer to give me, but it was fun regardless.

Later while I was standing somewhere, a girl stopped right in front of me. I decided she's kind of cute and walked over to ask for her favorite color. She said she doesn't know, she likes many colors. I asked her "Yellow?" because she was wearing a yellow jacket. She said yes yellow is great, but started to walk off. So I said thanks and goodbye. I was still in warmup mode and didn't think to give her a compliment quickly enough.

My plan was to do some more approaches at the beach, but didn't find any interesting prospects there today.

On my way home I saw a woman with long fiery red hair, sitting wearing tight shorts and flip flops. She looked hot from behind. I turned around to check her out, but her head was turned away and I couldn't see her face. She was putting on makeup looking at a mirror, and what I could see of her face looked strange somehow. I noticed something weird about her body too, but I couldn't quite put my finger on what it was. I thought maybe she was older than I thought because she had kind of flabby arms.

I did stay in the vicinity for a bit, checking out the foot traffic even though it was already dark. After a minute or so, the red haired woman got up and walked towards me. I walked her way to get a better look and possibly open, but as I got closer it turns out it was a dude lol.

 

[AspiringStoic]

I walked her way to get a better look and possibly open, but as I got closer it turns out it was a dude lol.

Lol. This has happened to me as well a few times. Once I opened and then got unsure whether it was a girl and transitioned to asking for directions instead. With the kind of "handbags" that younger men have started to wear, it seriously is harder to spot nowadays. Crazy world.

 

[gameboy]

Not much to report today. I did one walk-by "tease" opener. The girl was sitting on a beach chair while everyone around her was lying down. I walked up to her, made eye contact and told her "You look like the queen of the beach on that chair!" She grinned and looked down/to the side. Felt good but it was meant as a warmup.

Surprisingly, shortly after it started raining throughout the rest of the day. Which was great, because it means temperatures are finally going down. But everyone went inside so no opportunities for further approaches.

 

[FAB DRONES]

Tough day. Hot, humid, and I woke up with back pain and wasn't in the best mood.

Couldn't find any girls to approach all day, and was in a weird mood anyway. It was about to get dark, and I had pretty much given up the day already. Today was full moon, and I watched it rising out of the sea. Always a spectacular sight.

There was this girl slowly walking by in front of me. I had noticed her before and decided she's attractive. I don't know if she'd seen me though. I said to her "Have you seen the moon?"

She looked at me, then at the moon, then immediately high-fived me and told me something like "Oh, I was wondering where it was!". We talked a bit about the sight, and pretty much the first thing she asked me was "Do you smoke?" I said no. I tried to banter with her a bit, asking if she's from here, having her guess where I'm from, touching her shoulder since she got it almost right. Asked her her name, gave her mine, shook her hand. I was going to hold it for a while, but she quickly withdrew first. I asked her if she's looking for something to smoke? (meaning weed) She deflected, saying she'd invite me to a cigarette. I told her I don't smoke any more and she asked "not at all?" I said once in a while only. She says she doesn't have paper, and I tell her I don't have anything on me.

She's looking at the moon and I sense she's losing interest. I go for the hail mary and ask her if she wants to sit? She ignores the question, and 2 seconds later says "Nice to meet you, Gameboy!" I say it's been a pleasure, and she walks off.

That was a weird interaction! The high-five she gave me threw me off. I remember thinking, this is too good to be true. Later she didn't show that same enthusiam though, even ignoring some of my questions. Or only giving me the most minimal answers. The only thing she seemed to care about was whether I smoke.

Just remembering, she said something about it being a blue moon today and I was like, yeah they make up some kind of name each and every month... to me it looks orange. She didn't react to that either. Guess this one was the humorless kind

Know that expression ‘once in a blue moon’?

 

[gameboy]

Another fail today... similar situation as last time... young girl on the beach throwing me IOIs, but the area around her is so crowded that my AA keeps me from opening.

But let's start at the beginning. Did one warmup approach in the city, got rejected. She was an Asian girl and I commented that we have similar backpacks. She just said "No" softly and kept looking down at her phone. I said yes they're similar... but then let her be. I probably should have talked to her in English, don't know if she even understood me. But it's fine either way.

Later hung out with a friend on the beach, so not much time for sarging. Eventually he left to meet up with his gf. I walked back to where my bike was, I wasn't really in sarging mode but out of habit I scanned the beach for single girls anyway. And there actually was a cute one: Brunette, slim, and what's most important: She seemed to be scanning too. She looked at me pretty often, I'm sure she wanted to be approached. She was by herself too, no mom or friends around this time. And I still didn't do it! My reasoning was there's too many people around, and she looks to young.

Damn excuses!!

I grabbed my bike and rode around to see if I came across any other single girls. (How absurd, in hindsight!) Of course there were none. After a few minutes had passed, I decided I have to go back and approach the girl no matter what. Of course she was already gone by then.

This seems to be a sticking point for me, approaching girls on the beach when there are people close by. So I'm going to set a goal for this week: I'm going to practice just that. I'll approach girls in full view and earshot of others. The more people and the closer by the girl they are, the better. (To be clear, not referring to her friends; I mean people unrelated who are sitting or lying nearby on the beach.)

I'm not setting a numerical goal because it would just increase my AA. If I can do just one this week, that's a win.

 

[ChrisXKiss]

I grabbed my bike and rode around to see if I came across any other single girls. Of course there were none. After a few minutes had passed, I decided I have to approach the girl I saw before no matter what, and went back. Of course she was already gone by then.

I think this is still good though, I mean if you had the resolve and were ready to really do it, it is the first step.

I had a number of times when I thought ah maybe it's not a good moment, then felt ok I should approach anyway, and the girl simply disappeared. At least I knew that I would approach eventually, I felt that I was committed to it.

So I feel it's simply about getting committed to it faster and stopping the overthinking process when you first see her. Later it can be useful to think where she is, what she is doing, and what would be the best way to approach, but for now the probably most effective thinking would be: ah here's a girl I like -> ok I approach.

 

[Marty]

I thought I can't be hanging around them for much longer, they've got to notice at some point and it's gonna seem creepy.

I always continue to hang around anyway until I see an opportunity or they leave. I can accept "seeming off" in an anonymous situation, so long as I'm getting validation in other areas of my life.

 

[Marty]

Or throw in a compliment in the middle of the conversation after a while just to set a man to woman frame. Try this like a 100 times. I am sure you will start getting into some really good conversations. But stick around and say the second line and even after that if she makes it very clear she does not want to talk only then leave. Many a times girls need at least 5 to 10 seconds of time to read your vibe, see that you are not a threat and then open themselves up for a conversation.

This is an excellent tip, @AspiringStoic, especially the last sentence about giving her time to get used to you.

 

[Higher]

So I'm going to set a goal for this week: I'm going to practice just that. I'll approach girls in full view and earshot of others. The more people and the closer by the girl they are, the better.

Great challenge! Something that i should keep doing too.

Also, ure able to quickly scan ur environment and more or less gauge peoples emotional state - as in this girls case, she was probably feeling sociable and u noticed it.

I feel this is another important skill to have.

 

[gameboy]

Today I wasn't in a good mood. I had some construction work at my place and it didn't go well at all, resulting in a lot of extra cost and several more days of work necessary.

Nevertheless I reached my goal today. Went to the beach in the afternoon and did 4 openers in total, 2 of which pretty direct and with many people in earshot.

#1
Girl coming out of the water, I was sitting on my towel or standing, I don't quite remember. As she walked by I asked her "Water is cold, huh?" She just made a noncommital hand movement, as if to say "not really" but walked by without turning her head towards me.

#2
Really hot girl I saw lying a bit above where I was. She was lying face down, ear plugs in, looking down at her phone. Not a very approachable position. I walked up to her anyway and when I was just in front of her, asked "Excuse me, are you from X country?" I had to repeat the question once or twice beacuse she had to take her ear plugs out. She looked up at me but wasn't smiling, and said "No." I said "Oh are you from here then?" - She said no again, still not smiling. I said "Sorry I think I confused you with a friend who's from X", then she gave me a sweet smile and I moved along.

There were at least 3 single dudes lying within 2 or 3 meters of her, one couple, and possibly some other girls as well. I was super proud of having done my first "crowded beach approach" even though it wasn't all-in yet.

#3
I walked along the beach and came to the most crowded part. I thought to myself, one of these days I gotta practice here. People's towels were almost touching each other here so it was really full. There was barely enough space to walk between the groups.

Then I came across a girl that seemed to be more or less by herself. Attractive enough looking, if not as hot as #2. As I walked by we made eye contact, so I said "Hello". She said "hello" back (not smiling though). I asked her "Where are you from?" in the local language. She said she didn't speak the language. I then asked "oh you don't speak, how about English?" She just made a negative hand movement. Not interested. I was grinning all over and said "No? Ok!" and kept going.

I'd have gone all in with this one if she had been receptive. And in the most crowded part of the beach! Pretty cool.

#4
This one was another girl walking by, while I was seated in a less busy part of the beach. She walked to the water, didn't go in then came back. I asked her "Too cold, huh?" She said yes. I said, "But once you're in it's awesome, you'll see!" She just said, yeah, and walked back to her towel.

CONCLUSION

I feel like I'm making progress. I'll try and do 1 or 2 crowded-beach approaches each day this week if I get the chance.

 

[AspiringStoic]

Today I wasn't in a good mood. I had some construction work at my place and it didn't go well at all, resulting in a lot of extra cost and several more days of work necessary.

Nevertheless I reached my goal today. Went to the beach in the afternoon and did 4 openers in total, 2 of which pretty direct and with many people in earshot.

#1
Girl coming out of the water, I was sitting on my towel or standing, I don't quite remember. As she walked by I asked her "Water is cold, huh?" She just made a noncommital hand movement, as if to say "not really" but walked by without turning her head towards me.

#2
Really hot girl I saw lying a bit above where I was. She was lying face down, ear plugs in, looking down at her phone. Not a very approachable position. I walked up to her anyway and when I was just in front of her, asked "Excuse me, are you from X country?" I had to repeat the question once or twice beacuse she had to take her ear plugs out. She looked up at me but wasn't smiling, and said "No." I said "Oh are you from here then?" - She said no again, still not smiling. I said "Sorry I think I confused you with a friend who's from X", then she gave me a sweet smile and I moved along.

There were at least 3 single dudes lying within 2 or 3 meters of her, one couple, and possibly some other girls as well. I was super proud of having done my first "crowded beach approach" even though it wasn't all-in yet.

#3
I walked along the beach and came to the most crowded part. I thought to myself, one of these days I gotta practice here. People's towels were almost touching each other here so it was really full. There was barely enough space to walk between the groups.

Then I came across a girl that seemed to be more or less by herself. Attractive enough looking, if not as hot as #2. As I walked by we made eye contact, so I said "Hello". She said "hello" back (not smiling though). I asked her "Where are you from?" in the local language. She said she didn't speak the language. I then asked "oh you don't speak, how about English?" She just made a negative hand movement. Not interested. I was grinning all over and said "No? Ok!" and kept going.

I'd have gone all in with this one if she had been receptive. And in the most crowded part of the beach! Pretty cool.

#4
This one was another girl walking by, while I was seated in a less busy part of the beach. She walked to the water, didn't go in then came back. I asked her "Too cold, huh?" She said yes. I said, "But once you're in it's awesome, you'll see!" She just said, yeah, and walked back to her towel.

CONCLUSION

I feel like I'm making progress. I'll try and do 1 or 2 crowded-beach approaches each day this week if I get the chance.

This is great. Congratulations. I have been out of the field recently due to a flu. Looking to get back out there soon. Really inspiring to see you out there pushing it. Summer is over, better weather now until winter sets in. I think we should capitalize on it and do a lot of daygame.

 

[iceberg slim]

There were at least 3 single dudes lying within 2 or 3 meters of her, one couple, and possibly some other girls as well. I was super proud of having done my first "crowded beach approach" even though it wasn't all-in yet.

Hell yeah! Nice work. It's scary when others are in earshot.

An issue I've been working on is girls in pairs, where the girls friend is right there witnessing the approach. It's scary but I did a couple in a row the other day (very direct) and realized it's not a big deal at all. In fact the friend acts impressed and respectful usually. A new issue I'm also going to start focusing on--girls with their moms.

 

[theReason]

"Sorry I think I confused you with a friend who's from X"

bro that’s smooth as fuck. you short-circuited her um, lady shield.

that’s such a good excuse that you probably could have stayed in-set… except i know it must have felt like

 

[theReason]

this was the link i didn’t manage to insert in the last post, my bad