First number close today. After only one year of approaching. Hooray!
THE MEET
Saw this hot girl wearing high black boots and a short black dress in the street. Long black hair, slim figure. In short, the type that totally turns me on. (A bit like a real life version of the girl in my profile pic, but with a dress not a skirt). So I had to go meet her.
While I was walking over she sat down on a bench. That bench was back to back with another bench, and on the other bench a homeless guy was sleeping. Kind of awkward but I opened her anyway. I said "Hi!", and she looked a bit startled. I smiled and said "Oh I didn't mean to scare you", in English. She smiled and seemed happy talking to me, though her English wasn't the best. Found out she's from China, and visiting here. I asked if I can sit next to her, she said sure while I was already sitting down.
CHIT CHAT
I asked her a bit about her travel plans. It turns out she's new here and doesn't speak the local language. She told me how she ordered some food without knowing what it is. I probably should have vibed with her on that, because the same thing happened to me when I was new in this country. But I was kind of nervous and rushed through the set, because I found her really hot and she seemed so compliant.
GOING ALL IN
I don't remember the exact order of how things happened, and I'm probably forgetting some details, but here's the key points:
I found out about her logistics, asked how long she is staying, but she said she doesn't know because of whatever (she had a bit of trouble speaking English, and I didn't understand it). I asked her if she's single or has a boyfriend, she said single. I told her we can walk around and I can show her the nicest places. She told me she has plans to meet a friend later that afternoon. So I asked her what she's doing in the evening, said she has no plans so I asked her if she'd like to meet up. She said she didn't know.
At that moment I took it as a rejection, even though it probably just meant "I don't even know you, we just met". I said "You don't know? (awkward pause) Okay I don't want to pressure you" and switched topics to her travel plans again. (I probably shouldn't have said that, just say "okay you can decide later" and switch topics.) She told me the city she wanted to visit next, and I said oh that's an awesome city, I've lived there too before. (Should have stayed on that topic longer!)
Then I said "I have to go, but I can give you my number so you can call me if you want to meet up". She said okay, so I asked for my phone, put in my numer and called myself. Then chatted with her for another minute before telling her I have to go now.
WHAT HAPPENED NEXT
Afterwards, I kind of felt like I completely steamrolled the girl. I find it so hard to read Asian women! I don't have much experience with them except from the few ones I cold approached, and they always seem so compliant that I tend to caveman them, lol.
Nevertheless I was happy about my first number from day game, even though I got it in a bit of an unsmooth way. I had no expectations of actually contacting her, since she had neither Whatsapp nor any other messenger that I had. Forgot to ask what she uses for texting.
But then later in the day, I decided to just give her a call anyway. I expected her to not answer or block me outright, but she actually picked up! I asked her how she was doing, how her day was, and if everything was all right, to try and establish a little belated comfort which I completely forgot about when I met her.
She told me she's meeting her friend in a few minutes. I have no idea if it's a male or female friend, but I said if she wanted to meet up later, to just give me a call. She said "Okay I'll do that". I then told her it was a pleasure to meet her and talk to her, and she said "For me too."
CONCLUSION
She didn't call me back, and of course I'm not holding my breath. I probably did lots of things wrong. I did use some light touch when I was sitting with her. I think I touched her lightly once or twice, and shook her hand when exchanging names. Got a fair bit of compliance too, but completely forgot about comfort, similarity, teasing and all those things. It was also a bit tricky with the language barrier.
Still felt great! Especially after the call. I was genuinely surprised that she took it. I'm not used to calling girls any more, since everyone is texting nowadays, but since she didn't have whatsapp it wasn't an option. Calling is actually kind of cool, maybe I should do it more often. (Once I get more numbers.)
I might give her another call tonight, or maybe tomorrow. Think she's leaving in two days if I understood her correctly on that. Don't have high hopes she wants to hook up, but who knows. Stranger things have happened, and sometimes girls have positively surprised me when I took a hail mary.
What I did well today: Went for the open without thinking twice, asked her if she's single, got compliance, went for the close and called her later.
What I didn't do so well: Still wasn't fully present in the set. I was quite nervous, and rushed things too much.
I could have stayed with her much longer and maybe even invited her for a walk, and shown her some stuff. She wasn't seeing her friend until much later.
I need to be more flexible with my plans for the day when meeting girls.
IN OTHER NEWS
I did two more cold approaches today, but only in a half assed way since I didn't find them as attractive after the Chinese girl. Really did it more as a way of keeping up the momentum, in case I'd run into another SHB later.
Anyway I feel today, being 11/11, was already pretty damn good.
