Sunshine Journal

[bgwh]

The fear of success definetely resonates.

 

[JT Sunshine]

Welp, another year down. By my calculations I did about 110 approaches, with a handful of numbers, kisses, and two new lays. Not where I wanted to be, but any positive result is better than not trying. And I learned a hell of a lot.

Goal for this year is to do an approach a day all year. Rain, shine, snowstorm, plague... I am getting it done. And I'll be tracking the metrics diligently like I did the first few months I started this.

Happy 2025 skilled seducers! May the new year bring you health, happiness, and bountiful hotties.

 

[JT Sunshine]

Three days and three approaches into 2025. Nothing much to celebrate yet, but I'm taking the challenge of winter head-on and actually having a bit of fun.

While I can sit here all I want and yearn for the days of warm weather, girls out and about in parks, beaches and on rooftop patios, it is straight-up FREEZING out. However, I have three things going for me: I am fairly talented at ice hockey, skiing, and I love me some good Asian food. I am going to spend this season getting good at some winter sports, approaching cute women while I do it, and hopefully finding some of the best Asian cuisine in town...

First approach was at an outdoor ice rink. Two girls and two guys there, probably dating each other but I didn't care. It was New Year's day and I wasn't going to fuck up my goal on day one. As I'm lacing up the cute brunette skates near me and I open with "how's the ice?" we chat for a bit, purely platonic but it was nice to talk to a super cute girl in front of her (probably) boyfriend. They all left soon after but she got to see me tear it up. Felt good.

Day two was at a new mall. Well, new to me. Typically can't stand malls but this place was supposed to have some of the best Korean BBQ around. Did not disappoint. As I am waiting in line I see a woman walk by me with possibly the nicest ass in tight leggings of 2025. Middle-eastern, maybe 25. She turns back around and we make eye contact. I smile and hold it. Hold it... hold it....... she cracks a big smile, and I say "hi". She says "hi" back, keeps walking. Barely an approach but I'll count it for now. I also chatted up the cute ass girl who took my order, but I won't count that one. She seemed impressed at how well I could pronounce things in Korean. Maybe I can use that to my advantage...

Day three I went skiing with a buddy. He's damn near a pro, I'm talented but rusty. We had a lot of fun. Chatted up a cute little blonde in the lift line. Super friendly, mostly talked about skiing, parted ways when the chair came. Felt good and my buddy (who is very shy), could not stop talking about it after maybe if I ever get good at this I can show him the ropes...

Also went to the gym and saw two total BADDIES. While it is an environment I frequent, it's still very intimidating for me. I never see anyone talking, I'm not quite where I want to be physically yet, but maybe I need to man up and bring the good vibes. I should get off the machines and do more with free-weights, ditch the earbuds and just ask girls about their workout routines and what they like. Idk. Seems like a treasure trove but I also want to keep going there to work out and not be "that guy" who is just trying to pick up. It's probably all about the frame.

Goal for the weekend/week/forever is to REALLY get into some more daygame. I've traditionally been much more of a night gamer, but I have a lot going on and being up til 3am is not something I can do more than 1-2x a week. If I can get proficient at daygame to where it brings me numbers/dates/lays I wouldn't be super sad about ditching the bars... at least until summer. I cannot turn down a good rooftop patio. I have a lunch "date" with an old flame tomorrow - perks of ending things cordially. Gym in the morning, which means (scary) opportunity. Might go back to the mall in the evening and try opening with a compliment, then just stacking forward as we used to say. Work schedule has gotten lighter, so must take advantage of this.

Cheers,
JT

 

[gameboy]

I am scared of the possibility of success. I truly believe that the first girl I banged from cold approach this year (who turned out to be a total psychopath) completely fucked me up.

What happened there?

 

[JT Sunshine]

Got my approach today, it went much better than the previous three this year. Ice rink approach again - blonde, probably late 30s. A bit older than my usual, but it was a total sausage fest and she had white teeth and a nice figure. I approached with "hi, how's it going?"... pretty lame, but it opened we talked skating for a bit and actually exchanged names. Nice! Eventually we went off and did our own thing, but towards the end I skated back by her and said something like "looks like you're having the most fun out here". Talked again briefly and mentioned a cool outdoor rink nearby. Said it might be fun to go there sometime. She agreed and we exchanged numbers. It felt a bit platonic, but I am used to picking up from bars at 1am, so I will call this a day game win. Also, I have been FUMBLING on making future plans/going for the contact info. PROGRESS BABY!!

For next time, I should screen for logistics and flirt more. But honestly if I can go from lame opener > chitchat/name exchange > future plans > contact info even somewhat consistently, I should be able to get at least a *few* to meet up with me. My nonverbals are rock-solid, but I need to tease/flirt more. Good stuff to work on moving forward.

Yesterday I read THIS ARTICLE by @Chase on the benefits of approaching four girls a day versus just one. Great article. Got me thinking that maybe this is why I went 2 for 120 last year - because by the time I am "warmed up", I am done for the day. I don't want to get ahead of myself, but maybe instead of setting my goal as one approach a day for the whole year, I up it to two a day in February, three a day in March and four a day from April on. That's a lofty goal for me, but I have lofty aspirations...

@gameboy she was my first bar-pull after getting back into this last year, we had one pretty amazing night, but I think she fell into obsession with me when I was thinking it was a one-time thing. She messaged me nonstop, and one night I made the mistake of meeting up again. To quote myself from months ago (I had to dig but I found it):

"She was stoned out of her mind and couldn’t pay for the $14 chicken wings she ordered. I reluctantly paid, and this was the moment I knew I would never be seeing her after tonight. I am a very kind hearted person, and I don’t think she solely wanted to use me for chicken wing money, but she knew she couldn’t pay when she ordered the wings (before I showed up) and she knows I have a good job… and I just can’t stand that shit.

Decided I would bounce her back to her place as quick as possible, do the nasty, then leave.

Went back to her place and had some absolutely dynamite sex. What they say about the crazy ones is true! However on the drive there as well as before the sex she couldn’t stop talking about how fate brought us together and that I am the most amazing guy she’s ever met in her whole life, how she’s waited years to find me, and even as we were f*cking she said “I want you to tell me your feelings about me”

She begged me to sleep over, begged to come back to my place, tried every excuse in the book to get me not to leave… but I left. Apparently didn’t make her that mad as she just texted me a novel. Be careful out here boys, the water is hot!"

That novel turned into weeks upon weeks of novels, calling me 4-5x a day, leaving me voicemails while she masturbated, leaving notes on my car, showing up at my job and ambushing me in the parking lot (I shut that down REAL quick). Thank god I have a generic name and she didn't find my home address. Made me regret some of the most solid seduction I've ever done, and I am still recovering... lol. I ended up telling her that I had absolutely no interest in having a relationship with her, and no interest in even hooking up as I didn't think it would be healthy for her, and that she would do better seeing other people who wanted more of what she wanted. She still sends me the occasional nude, and I leave it on read...

Not quite sure where I am going to get my approach in tomorrow, but I will get it. Maybe try a grocery store? Is it still considered day-game if you go to a bar at 3pm?

 

[gameboy]

Omg lol what a story! Yeah better beware of the crazies... they make for easy pulls and sometimes even great sex (sometimes not), but later one regrets it...

 

[JT Sunshine]

Omg lol what a story! Yeah better beware of the crazies... they make for easy pulls and sometimes even great sex (sometimes not), but later one regrets it...

Maybe I just need to find another one so they can duke it out in my parking lot LOL

 

[JT Sunshine]

Got two today, both at a grocery store. Spent a good 30 minutes there and didn't see much of anything. Spotted a brunette woman about my age, maybe a bit older, very cute face and a decent figure. I said hi, and teased her a bit about her messed-up sounding cart. Got a laugh. Next one was a trendy looking black girl, maybe 30. Decided to try a compliment. I opened with "your outfit is so well put together. It is truly a work of art." she smiled big and said "it must be all the Tetris I played as a kid". That was actually pretty funny!

I am going to keep pounding away at the day game approaches. If I can get good at day game in the dead of winter, summer will be cake. I can feel myself getting better - or at least more creative.