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These kind of things used to bug me a lot since I was a teenager. Why did she say that or do that? Did she think about it later, did she think I was a loser or thought this of me etc.
Last year when I started approaching, I cannot remember where but in some old PUA archived blog I came across a great frame/mindset that I wrote down. Some experienced guy had posted it. It was something like this:
"Cold approach/pickup is like a video game. Nothing that happens while playing this game is serious. It is just a game. If a girl says or does something I only look at it as an obstacle or a new situation in the game that I need to circumvent. So I experiment and try something, note the result and carrying on playing the game. I take nothing personally. Its just a game.
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I thought it was a great mindset not to take all this seriously. I try to follow it and remind myself of it whenever I get bad reactions.
Last year when I started approaching, I cannot remember where but in some old PUA archived blog I came across a great frame/mindset that I wrote down. Some experienced guy had posted it. It was something like this:
"Cold approach/pickup is like a video game. Nothing that happens while playing this game is serious. It is just a game. If a girl says or does something I only look at it as an obstacle or a new situation in the game that I need to circumvent. So I experiment and try something, note the result and carrying on playing the game. I take nothing personally. Its just a game.
![Grinning face :grinning: 😀](https://cdn.jsdelivr.net/joypixels/assets/6.5/png/unicode/64/1f600.png)
I thought it was a great mindset not to take all this seriously. I try to follow it and remind myself of it whenever I get bad reactions.