Smith's journal

[Smith]

Thought I was pretty close to sleeping with a girl today, but the logistic screwed it up.
Met her on the street and at first she told me she's waiting for a guy. I asked her if it's a date, she said no. The guy stood her up, so we went to have coffee.
I was a bit nervous and not very in the zone yet because it was my first interaction of the day.
We started talking about adventures and then she told me she had a lot of adventures in the last month. She was being evasive about it, so I teased her a bit then she told me she was dating her bf's friend a few days ago. I asked her what she meant by dating. She told me they did everything. I smiled and was non-judgemental about it. I qualified her on how adventurous she is, and then she told me only a few of her friends know about this, and she usually doesn't grab coffee with a stranger on the street. Then she told me it was actually her bf that stood her up and she still hasn't told him she cheated on him. She felt like he doesn't really care about him. I thought this could be the reason she cheated on him to get his attention, but I didn't tell her that.
I jokingly said : "Is he not good in bed?"
Her: 'haha he's good...but his friend is better"
Me: 'haha"
Then I saw her writing a text to her bf saying "I'm having coffee with a guy I just met...etc". But was hesitated to send it, so I asked her " so are you gonna send that text?"
She looked surprised and is quite embarrassed. "Oh u saw it?'
Me: "yea haha"
Her: "Do you think I should send it? He'll be so angry'
I paused and thought about it
Me: "No I don't think you should send it." (don't want her bf blowing up her phone right now)
But I think she sent it anyway. I hate being in the middle of a relationship mess. She asked me if I have Fb or Whatsapp, I told her no.
The conversation was a bit stale. I was having a hard time connecting with her (actually, I have a hard time connecting with Chinese girls for some reason)
I sensed a bit of sexual tension then she asked me how far away I live. I told her 30 minutes by train, and I asked her how far away she lives, she told me 30 minutes by walk. Great! logistic nightmare. I have never tried to invite myself over to a girl's place, so I was stuck on how to pull.
The small sugar pack I was playing with suddenly exploded and boom the tension was gone....how fucking smooth lol
I said let's go for a walk, hoping I can find an isolated place on the way.
She told me she's going to go to a shop to pick up her new shoes, and it's not far away. So we went there.
We ended up staying there for over an hour because they couldn't find her fking shoes. During the wait, we sit outside the store and got into some interesting sex talk.
She told me she's very different back in China, and she's a different person now. I could tell she has gained a lot of sexual experience over the last month, because she had two bfs in the last month, and those are just bfs. Who knew who else she might have hooked up with?
This was a shift in my reality, because I always thought these kinda girls (the elegant, fashionable, sexy Chinese girls) are more conservative, but they actually probably have a lot of sex.
We talked about one night stands, car sex, her ex-bf's ability in bed (or rather lack of), and she seemed to enjoy the conversation.
Her: "I had one and a half night stand"
Me: "haha what is one and a half?"
Her: "haha the second one was pretty short. Have you ever had ONS?"
Me: "well a couple of times"
Her: "here? like meeting girls on the street"
Me: "Well it doesn't have to be on the street. It just happened"
Her: "oh wow"
Me: "But I don't judge people about it. I like to be non-judgemental"
Her: "hmm yea I'm non-judgmental as well"
When I was about to get even deeper and talked about what she likes in bed. Suddenly they found her shoes and they needed her inside. Then I waited for another 10 minutes. During that time, I was trying to figure out where we can go to escalate.
By the time she came out, all that sexual tension was gone. It was a bit awkward as to what we should do now. Looking back, I knew I should've just lead and invite her home at this point. So we walked for a bit. Her body language closed off. She asked me if I wanted to go watch a light show with her friend. I paused and thought about it. Then said "I'll think about it"
I was a little afraid to invite myself over to her place, because there's still a chance of her friends in her flat.
The conversation was awkward, and she said she has to go home and she'll walk me to the train station. I told her I might be interested in going to the light show.
I tried to invite myself over to her place, but it was done poorly.
I felt like I should have just invited her over to my place even though it's 30 minutes by train. I have done it before. Hmm fk. I think I rejected myself in this case. Should've tried and persist harder.
We didn't exchange number, because I knew this was a now or never situation, so no point exchanging numbers.

 

[Smith]

Managing a relationship is fun and hard at the same time. I kept trying to think of more exciting things to do with my gf, but on the other hand, after reading GC's articles on relationships, I know I shouldn't try to win over my gf.
Hanging out with my gf too much also turns me into a feminine bitch sometimes, and I have to go out and meet more girls to 'regain' my masculinity by getting out of my comfort zone.
It's strange that when I go out and start meeting new girls, my feeling for my gf decreases a little.
Then I saw one of RSDTyler's video where he explains why as guys get better with women, they don't 'fall in love' with girls that easily anymore and it's because you were never actually in love with them. It was all neediness disguised as 'love'.
Being in a relationship can really test your strength of self-reliance. A few days ago, I was tempted to become needy and wanted to text my gf again when she didn't reply for 30 mins. Then I realized I don't usually have these thoughts with other girls who aren't my gf. So I just chilled and reminded myself that I can't rely on her for validation and happiness and should treat her like any other girl. Remember the law of impermanence. Nothing lasts forever. Be self-reliant. I feel free when I remind myself this and just let go of everything - the girls, my gf, my job. When you let go of the need to control, you just feel fking happy doing whatever you're doing, it feels even better than sex (sometimes).
Anyway, went out yesterday and meet more girls. Need to remind myself to stay on the girl's topic when talking to them.

Can't believe 2014 is almost over. It seemed like just yesterday that I started this journey! Happy new year! Fellow seducers!

 

[Smith]

Hope everyone's pimping it out in 2015!

FR: Flirtatious girl

I was still a bit tired from staying out late last night watching the New Year's firework, which was pretty amazing here in Sydney. Went out in the afternoon. Stopped the first girl.
Me: "Excuse me"
She turned around. I waved my hand and smiled
Me: "This might sound a bit random....I saw u walk past and you're really cute...I had to come say hi"
She smiled and looked surprised
Her: "Thank you!"
She didn't know what else to say. I froze up a little. Should have introduced myself, but I combed my hair back with my hand and asked her
Me: "So are you single?" with a smirk
Her: "haha you're cute" Then she slowly walked away.
I have a feeling she was still too shocked from what to say.

The second girl has a tight body, but face was pretty average. Not as cute as my gf.
Me: "hello"
She stopped and turned towards me
Me: "This might sound a little random...U have a lovely dress" I motioned my hand up and down her dress " I have to come introduce myself. I'm smith"
Her: "Oh hi I'm XX"
We chat for a little more. Things seemed to go well. She just arrived yesterday and had no plan for today. Perfect. We went to grab some coffee. On the way, I initiated a little touch during the conversation.
She was very flirtation when we were having coffee. Touching my arm and my hand, and playfully punch me sometimes. When she took off her glasses, I picked it up and asked her.
Me: "so you can't see without this?"
Her: "No I can, but not very clearly. U?" she's referring to my glasses
I paused and looked up at her sexually.
Me: "oh very clearly" with a sexy smile
She smiled back.
She needed to grab a SIM card, so we walked around but couldn't find any store open on New Year's day. Then we walked to a park nearby. Found a bench and sit down.
There were so many people out today, it's pretty frustrating to find an isolated bench, so I had to settle with some families nearby.
The touching escalated a bit more when we were talking about abs and work out. I touched her thigh and her abs and she touched my abs. When she was showing me her holiday pictures, I tried to manhandle kissed her, but she pulled away.
Her: 'haha why?'
Me: "Hmm I feel like it" Then I continued the conversation like nothing happened.
The touching resumed.
I asked her how far she live, hoping her hotel is nearby, but it's actually pretty far and we have to take a bus. My place is pretty far as well - 30 mins train ride.
I mentioned my place has a good view that she should come check out. In case I want to pull her home later.
She said she want to grab a drink, so we grabbed some food first then grabbed a drink at a bar, but on the way there, she told me it's uncomfortable when I put my hand around her lower side hip. So I dialed down the touch a little.
I slightly escalated my sex talk, but I think I went a little too far haha
We were still playfully touching each other now and then.
Me: "So would you go out with a lawyer or a fireman?"
Her: "haha it depends on their personality?"
I gave her a 'come on' look
Her: "well I guess the fireman would have a really sexy body" Then she touched my arm as she said this.
I told her about a story when my friend and I saw a couple having sex in a bush. We discussed about sexual freedom.
Me: "What if the guy you're dating has a very weird fetish?"
Her: "hmm nooo I don't like that haha I want someone normal"
Me: "but what if this is just a fetish in bed"
Her: "haha I don't know. I want something passionate. How about u?'
Me: "it depends on what kinda fetish haha"
Her: "haha why are u asking this? are you lonely or something?"
Me: "haha no. just curious"
Her: "yea I think you're not lonely. Just curious. haha can we change topic?"
But I decided to escalate the sex talk a bit more, which was too much for her.
Me: "sure....but one more question"
Her: "hahaha what?"
Me: "what's the biggest 'bush and tree' you have ever seen?"
Her: "haha ummm I'm not sure I'm comfortable answering that"
Me: "haha is that too much?"
I laughed it off and changed the topic, but I could tell some damage is done.
Then we went for a walk again to the opera house. When I put my arm around her shoulder, she moved my arm off saying she doesn't like the pressure it puts on her shoulder because she's shorter than me. I teased her if all short girls don't like that and we just laughed about it. So we just hold each other's hand as we were walking.
On the walk there, I picked her up playfully to see how much she weight. Our body touching each other. She's actually pretty light.
She told me about her work out again, and that lead to more playful touching of her abs. I should've mentioned that I squat and put her hand on my ass. haha oh well.
She drank a bit more at a bar around the opera house. We sit there and enjoyed the view. Then walked around a bit more, where I tried to find a more isolated place to escalate again. There was a good opportunity to pull her in for a kiss when she was talking about her near death experience. I was standing close to her and looking at her with sexual eye contact. But there were just so many people walking past.
Then as we finally walked to a place where there's only a few other people around. I pulled her in for a kiss, but she pulled away again.
Her: "haha I don't want to"
Me: "ok"
I was a bit tired by now and wanted to go home.
So we talked a bit more then I suggested we go home. I honestly didn't want to miss my train.
But she kept stopping to text her friend, then told me she needed to rest. Fuck girl. I need to go home. She saw that I'm not stopping
Her: "Oh yea u have to go catch your train... how long does it take for u to walk home?'
Me: "5 hours" I'm exaggerating, but I'm getting pretty impatient by now. I had missed my train home last time, and it took me freaking 2 hours to get home by train and bus, so I was so not going to miss it this time.
Her: 'haha really"
Me: " I don't know. Probably"
Then she stood up and we kept walking.
As we got to the train station, I told her to take my number and text me when she got a local number tomorrow because I simply don't want to waste my money texting an international number when she'll be getting a local number tomorrow.
She opened up a notepad on her phone, which was weird because she could've just keyed in my number. Oh well I don't really give a fk now.
She pulled me in for a close hug. I thought that was also weird because she told me people in Korea don't even hug in public. Then we said goodbye.

 

[Smith]

Worked all day today. My boss is getting confrontational with the staff, including me, for little things that we didn't get perfect and she argued with my friend over her wage, which is pretty shit by normal standard. Thank god I don't work full time at that place because I can't stand her snapping at people. I found myself trying to avoid getting confrontation with her. Not sure if that's a good thing, but I can stand the social pressure in such situation. I can concentrate on my thoughts and not escalate the situation and try to understand her argument, and after she finished her rant, I'll calmly explain myself and usually that shut her up. Sometimes I think she gets a kick out of snapping at people without letting them explaining themselves, so I'm not going to give her the satisfaction.

Anyway, I'm dreading going to work there now, but hey it's only a couple of days a week and soon when summer holiday finish, I'll be out of there.

After work, I had a coffee date with this girl I met a month ago, but due to my phone malfunctioning we didn't meet up two weeks ago, so we finally met up today.
I think it was one of the smoothest informational date I have ever had. I kept it just under an hour to avoid going too long. The conversation was casual, fun and slightly sexual. Touched her arm a bit playfully in the beginning when we were walking to the cafe, but once we sit down, there was no touch because she was sitting opposite me.
Women are mirrors. In the beginning, she told me she found Sydney boring, but after I told her I kinda like it here, she changed her opinion. She started to mirroring me in other aspects as well. This might be a subconscious thing women does.
After about 50 mins of talking, I suggested we go for a walk in the park, but I didn't realize we arrived at her bus stop.
While waiting at her bus stop, I asked her if she cook, she said yes. I told her I'm learning how to cook and we should cook together sometime. She said yes.
Then I asked her what her plan is tonight, she said just watching TV. I thought about inviting her home now to cook, but we were already waiting for her bus. A part of me was tired and wanted to go home, have dinner and go to bed early because I have work tomorrow as well. So at high point of the conversation, we said goodbye and I let her wait for her bus. I probably should have tried and invited her home, but I think there's no lost here. It probably was the wrong point in the interaction to invite her home, and I probably should've invited her home earlier before we got to her bus stop. But the chemistry between us seemed great.

 

[Smith]

Went to meet this cute girl at her campus. She wanted to take me on a tour around the campus, but I knew not to date on her terms and suggested that we grab some coffee. We went radio silent for two weeks until she contacted me again out of the blue and wanted to take me on a tour around the campus again. I figured why not.

She was a bit late, so I talked to a woman outside to try to get myself into a social state.

As soon as we met outside a library, she told me she's with two of her friends. sigh...fine. Here we go. She kept telling me one of her friend is quite cute, I teased that she's into girls and she laughed.

Girls can't lead! So inside the library, the girls were deciding whether to stay at ground floor or go upstairs. I didn't know the area well, so I let them decided. They decided to go upstairs, but just as we were around the entrance, they realized there's no air conditioning upstairs, so we walked back in again, but there's no seat inside.
Girl: "Where should we go now?"
I couldn't take it anymore.
Me: "let's go upstairs" I started walking and they followed.
I was a bit nervous, and there were awkward silence a few times. Her cute friend asked us how we met and we told her what happened and she asked me why did I go say hi to her. I throw back the question at her. "Why do u think haha"
After 30 mins, just as her friends are about to leave, she wanted them to stay a bit longer, but they left anyway.
The vibe wasn't going so well. I wasn't free flowing like I usually am. It was a bit awkward when her friends left, and she asked me if my other friend want to come join us, which was really random, and she told me she doesn't want to go to this place on the campus anymore. I knew I got a lot of work to do before this shit goes downhill even more.

We walked for a bit and she told me she wanted to enrol and asked me if that's ok because she has to do it today. I said 'well that depends on how long it's going to take'.
Her: "5 mins, 10 mins or even an hour"
I laughed and walked to an exhibition nearby to let her do her thing. After less than 5 mins, she came back to join me. She told me she's close to getting expelled. I didn't know what to say except to tell her it's alright. Touched her arm lightly for 1 second when we were talking and walking, but she moved her arm away slightly. I noticed this and was a bit surprised because it was a innocent touch.

Then she asked me if I want to grab coffee. I wasn't in the mood so we kept walking. Then she asked me the second time. I knew she wanted to seat down, so we walked into a cafe. I ordered my coffee and she ordered nothing. This is when things start to go well. We started vibing. She mentioned her cute friend again.
Her: "isn't she just cute?"
Me: "yea. the sexual tension was so strong between u guys. That's why I was a bit quiet. I was like 'whoa what's happening here'"
She laughed pretty hard.
Then I asked her if she ever kissed a girl. She said no. I told her it's quite different from kissing a guy. A girl's lip is softer...etc.
We talked a little bit about her ex, which she dated for 10 months. She said they're still good friends, but she needed her independence. I thought that was a bit strange, but good.
She started to warm up. Then we went to the toilet. She was in there for quite a while, but I think she was reapplying her make-up because i noticed she put on her lipstick.
Me: "did u put on your lipstick?"
Her: "It's a lip tint! it keeps your lip moisturize"
I missed an opportunity to say something sexual here! I'm just not in a sexual mood today. Shouldn't have masturbated yesterday

We walked around. Took some pictures. I touched her arm lightly again when I was talking and she moved it away slightly again. I lie down on the grass but she was reluctant to sit close to me. To cut the whole story short. I probably should have touched her more because there weren't a lot of touching and I should have pushed it a bit more. Anyway, after we finished our tour, she asked me if I wanted to take the bus to the train station or walk, and she'll only come with me if I take the bus. I didn't want to take the bus, so I insisted that she walk with me, but she refused. Then I noticed the time, changed my mind and wanted to take a bus. She said she'll just walk me to the bus stop, which is not far. I was feeling a bit sad about how to say goodbye because I'm pretty sure I'll never see her again, but I would like to see her again. We actually have the same kinda humour.
As we were waiting at the traffic light
Me: 'well...."
she looked at me
Me: "I don't know what to say"
Her: "awww"
Then as we get to the bus stop, the bus came, I insisted her to come with me, so she quickly went to buy a bus ticket and we got on the bus. It was a short bus ride.
Her: "Maybe if I go to your country one day, you can take me on a tour"
I looked at her sexily out of the corner of my eye, smiled and nodded.
Me: 'here's my stop"
Her: "I hope you enjoy the rest of your stay here!"
Me: "Thanks! have a great time at summer school"

This date wasn't much, and I think the first 'mistake' goes way back to when I first met her, I didn't touch her or establish a bit of sexual talk, so the conversation was a bit platonic then after about 3 weeks when we finally met up, the frame was kinda set. This happens to me a lot on first dates, which is kinda why I prefer and got more same day lay because attraction is less likely to expire.

So I decided to go meet some girls after I got off the bus instead of just going straight home haha.
I don't think of it as "approaching" any more. It's just talking. I can tell you when you frame it like this, it's actually a lot less pressure to go talk to a girl.
At a stop light, this girl suddenly walked next to me. I immediately started talking to her and complimented her. She smiled, we talked a bit, crossed the street and I wished her a good day.

Then I saw another cute girl walked by. She has nice tanned legs and a good figure. I immediately followed her and caught up to her. We vibed a bit. She said she doing IT as a job. I teased her how geeky it is, but I wouldn't mind having a cute girl fixing my computer. she laughed. She told me she's only 18 when I guessed she was about mid 20s working in an office lol.
Anyway, we exchanged numbers. It's funny that just one month ago I was intimidated by these really cute girls with good body, but after I decided to just focus on them, I can't help talking to them now. It's a good feeling.

 

[Smith]

Edit: I think I just remember something during our conversation at the cafe that's kinda vital. When we were talking about her relationship, she asked me with obvious flirty eyes if I have a gf. At the moment, I thought I'll be honest, so I told her yes, then she respond immediately "then why are you here?" with a surprised look. I didn't know what to say, then she recovered and asked me about my relationship, which I was a bit hesitant to talk about, so we changed topic

 

[Smith]

The last few days I have been spending time with my family who is visiting me. They got me a new computer, and now I'm addicted to computer games again...
Pretty much lost my motivation to go out, and plus me and my gf are going to see a show this weekend, which cost me a lot of money.
Interesting thing happened yesterday when I went to an art gallery with my parent. I heard a guy trying to 'game' a girl, so I turned my head around.
There's this guy who's about 1.8m tall with pretty good fundamental. He's pretty loud and pretty much everyone can hear him lol. At first, I thought they were just two friends having a conversation so I didn't pay attention to the conversation, but then I realize he's 'gaming' her!
Here's a little snippet of the conversation that I heard. I didn't hear the whole interaction, only the end.
Him: "You're pretty cool. I would like to take you out for a coffee sometime"
The girl is thinking about it.
Him: "You know. It's just a coffee. I'm not going to marry you or anything blah blah blah (he's listing out reasons why she should get coffee with him)"
Her: "umm hahaha no thanks"
She walked away.
I turned my head around to take a look. The guy looked defeated lol It didn't look like he was having fun. well props to him for taking action. He's actually a pretty good looking guy. So there u go guys! if you think good looking guys don't get rejected then you're wrong!

A cute girl with her guy friend came to check out a room I'm going to rent out. The guy is pretty cool. He owns a pizza place around my apartment, and they have pretty amazing pizza. So I just talked to him about his business while showing the girl her room. Damn! this Italian (I assume) girl has an amazing body- really nice ass and perky breasts in a tight dress. I don't think I'll be able to stand it if she lives here. It turns out this guy is her boss. I hope he's banging her because if he's not...well he's missing out lol. The girl's english is not very good, so I guess the guy is there to help her. I was negotiating the rent with the guy, but she just couldn't afford the place. Oh well. too bad lol.

I'm losing motivation to go out, and I keep making excuses like I need to go to the gym later and I need to save money this week.
It's very hard to fight your laziness when you know you're getting sex. Fk it. I'll just meditate today. Haven't meditate for a while.

 

[ray_zorse]

Dude might have done better by being more discreet. ASD?
-Ray

 

[Smith]

Maybe, but I think it was probably bad game. Didn't hear the whole interaction.

 

[Smith]

Not sure if I should write up a date I had today because it seemed smooth just like any other date, and I don't want to over analyze things, but what the hell, I'll just keep it simple.

I actually haven't been going out much because as fun as seduction I actually want to enjoy other things in life like a normal person, and not everything is just game, game and game. so I arrived 40 minutes early today to warm up first. Talking and meeting women before a date is a great way to warm up and it actually gives you less anxiety and hesitation on the date. I tried to talk to two girls, but they smiled and weren't interested. Nonetheless, I felt great for taking action.

My date arrived early, so I saw her waiting for me. I couldn't remember what she looked like. We were suppose to grab coffee last week, but I 'flaked' on her because my family was visiting, so last weekend I suddenly got a text from her asking me if I still want to get coffee. I followed Chase's advice when a girl suddenly got back in touch with you. I ignored her question and ask her how she's doing and banter a bit before I decided to set up the date. This definitely got her intrigued and she was investing in the text conversation.

She asked me where I want to grab coffee. I just said 'starbucks' and started walking. A little chit chat before we got to the starbucks. It was full in there, but I can't be bothered finding another cafe, so we ordered anyway. After we took our coffee and were about to walk out, there's a table with two small couch, so we sit there but we're pretty far apart. It wasn't ideal. I focused on internal awareness from time to time to relax myself and just be free flowing. 5 minutes after, there's another table free, so I suggested we move there and now we're sitting closer to each other but still not close enough to touch. Another 45 minutes of conversation and banter with a little sexual tone and very little touch. I suggested we go for a walk.

I know she has a class later, so pulling her to my home is way to far. so I suggested we just go to a park. While we were walking, it gave me good opportunities to escalate a bit more and we started to hold hands. She started to walk closer to me with our arms touching, but I let go of her hand first when I was talking and gesturing. We found a place to sit. We talked and bantered a bit more. Just chilling and connecting. A bit sexual at times with playful flirting. she playfully hit me a few times and hold my hand as well. I also put my hand on her thigh when I was connecting with her. I felt like kissing her, but I wanted to wait until the next date.
Anyway, we had a good conversation then I walked her to her class, which was near the train station that I was going. We held hands and walked like we were already lovers. I asked her if she cooks and she's an avid food lover, which I qualified her on that and she giggled. I suggested that maybe we cook lunch next week and she agreed. Since she lives pretty far away and only comes to the city for class three times a week, I'm not sure how it's going to work, but we'll see.

I bid her farewell and didn't actually walk her to her class because I knew better

A few hours later when her class finished, she texted me that she thinks she talked too much and she didn't know why and next time it will be my turn haha.
She sent me the same message again on Line as well. I replied her Line message but not her text, and told her I enjoyed hanging out with her. A part of me wanted to say something smart and witty, but instead I think that just screams try hard and I didn't really give a shit, so it was just a simple I enjoyed hanging out with you message, and she replied with a cute sticker.

 

[Smith]

Haven't been meeting that many girls in the past week. Today, I feel a little rusty in the beginning of an interaction. After I went to the beach with my gf today, I decided to at least talk to a few girls before I head home. I can feel a little 'itch' from not talking and flirting with girls. I literally want to talk to every girl that walked past me and fuck the really cute ones. (Sometimes I think I'm a sex addict)
I know I stop analyzing every little interaction I have these days, but I felt like I need to write some thoughts down today to get back to the basics.
The first girl I talked to had really nice body - big tits, skinny waist. I 'freeze' in the initial interaction. Forgot to just make assumptions instead of asking questions, and was jumping from topic to topic, so the interaction didn't last long. Nonetheless, I was still in a good mood. Then I talked to probably another 4 girls. All of them just thanked me and walked away. I didn't realize one of them was walking behind her parents until afterwards lol Her parents turned around and looked at what was going on.
Then when another girl walked away again but still smiling, I extended my hand and gave her a 'come on, take it' look. She laughed but still kept walking. I felt like this was a little breakthrough because I felt free doing this and not really care if she actually stays or not. I was having fun. I haven't had one of these little 'breakthrough' moment for a while. I know all these "rejections" are nothing and I know I don't really need a lot of numbers. I actually haven't gotten many numbers these days, but the ones that I got actually turn into dates and intimate relationships.
Ever since I stopped using the pickup language, I also feel a lot less 'disconnected' when I'm walking up to a girl to talk to her. I can remember last year when I'm starting out, I always feel like there's a distance between me and the girl. I was less in my body and more in my head, but now I can't help be drawn to them.

 

[Smith]

LR-: 25 year old virgin

This is a girl I had a smooth date with last week. She traveled two hours to my place to cook dinner with me, which was a pretty big investment. When she arrived in my apartment, we chat a little to avoid some awkwardness. She brought me dessert and a lunch box, which she made. I tried some of her dessert which was amazing. Then I suggest we move to the couch. I pull her closer to me, and then put my arm around her. Talk a bit more about random stuff about her then she made some comment about how it's too bad it's rainy outside, otherwise we can go check out the view outside my house, which is actually pretty beautiful. I knew I needed to make my move soon, so I leaned into kiss her and she kissed me back. She smiled shyly. WE talked a bit more then I kissed her again. She said she has to go to the bathroom, so I let her go.
After she came out, I told her I want to show her the view from my bedroom. She followed me. Even thought it's raining, the view is still pretty good. I hug her from behind and she leaned backwards into me. Talked a bit more about the view at her place and teased her more, then I picked her up.
Me: "I bet you're really light"
Then I dropped her into my bed and made out with her. Escalate and back off when she resist. Rinse and repeat until all of her clothes are off. She mentioned a few times how fast this is. I just shrugged and backed off a bit talking about something else. Then right when I'm about to finger her, she jumped. That's when she told me she's a virgin. I told her it's cool and we'll do it at her pace. No pressure. She's a little embarrassed, but I just chilled out with the escalation a bit. She told me she had a bf two years ago, but they didn't do anything. (They were together for six months) We talked a bit more until she's a bit more comfortable. I continued with the escalation. I put her hand on my dick, but she doesn't know what to do with it. Her hand is just there doing nothing lol. So I moved my hip forward and backward so she gets the idea and started slowly rubbing it. I tried to penetrate her, but it's so tight. I told her to put it in, but everytime she's about to put it in, she can't get past the first few millimeters because she said it's too painful. I tried to finger her again, but then it's also too painful for her as well. Then I told her to suck me off. She's a bit shy but she's actually pretty good at it. Not much teeth. I tried to penetrate her a couple more times, but no go. So we went back to blow job again, then I decided to fuck her mouth. Since she's not very experienced, I asked her if I could come in her mouth, she nodded. I was surprised. So I fucked her mouth for a good while and she seemed to love it and wanted me to go fast, then I come. She choked and I gave her a pearl necklace. I explained to her what a pearl necklace is and she laughed and hit me.
Then we cooked dinner. She started to ask me a lot of questions assessing me if I'm good bf material. It was pretty obvious, but I wasn't interested, so I brushed it off as best as I can. Then we lied on the couch and watch tennis. I was actually looking forward to this tennis match. she told me she's not into sport, but I don't give a shit. My house, my rule. I wanted to watch it. I escalated a bit more on the couch. Then an interesting conversation took place. She kept telling me this is too fast.
Her: "I actually barely know you blah blah blah....this is too fast right?"
She's asking me instead of telling me, so it showed me that she's not really sure. She's testing my strength.
Me: "No I think it doesn't matter how long u know the other person. U can know a person for years, but u might not really 'know' them "
Then she went on a rant about how I might murder her and shit. I looked at her weirdly and turned off my body language. She sensed how ridiculous she sounded.
Her: "haha maybe I watched too much drama"
Me: "yea I think u might"
Then I escalated a bit more, then she's so turned on, she let me take off her underwear again. I tried to penetrate her again, but no go. She took off my t-shirt, and I'm completely naked. I told her to suck me off again, but she's resisting, then she said she probably should go.
Me: "Don't be selfish"
Her: 'hahaha what?"
Me: "U took off my t-shirt and now u want to go?!" (this just shows how quickly a woman's emotion can change)
Her: "hahahaha"
But then she got up and put on her underwear. She went to the bathroom to do her make up and whatever.
I just sit on the couch and absorbed in the match currently playing on TV. Then I saw her getting her stuff and putting on her shoes.
Part of me just want to sit on the couch and watch the match, because it was getting pretty tense and I don't want to miss it.
Another part of me says don't be a dick man, don't ruin the whole experience for her in the end.
I can tell she's a bit cooler, so I offered to walk her to the station.
On the way there, I told her I'm glad she came by today. She seemed surprised by what I said, and became warm towards me again.
She kissed me goodbye at the train station.

Another interesting note on my way home: There was a girl waiting at my apartment's elevator. At first, she heard my footsteps and when she turned around she had a scared look, but then she saw me, she smiled and looked down.
Me: "Did you think I was someone else?"
She smiled
Her: "no I just lost my keys. I was going downstairs to check the hot water."
We chatted a bit more in the elevator.
After I got home, I did guided meditation and replayed the whole scenario, except this time I have the mindset of 'approaching' her and 'opening' her, and it actually made me nervous. It made me realize how powerful it is to reach a new paradigm when I'm just talking and seducing girls without the pick up language.

 

[Smith]

This has always been my goal - to be able to talk to girls whenever I go, but sometimes I still make excuses, like I'll do it later, or I just finish work, I'm tired, or I'm on my way to work, maybe next time. Therefore, it has always feel like I need to be in a 'pickup' mode to be able to talk to girls. But I'm determined to change this, because I have been wanting to move on from pick up to a more natural seduction for a while. Make love, not war.
Early in the morning, while on my way to work, I saw this cute girl walking by, I was going to let her walk past without talking to her, and even though my ego is telling me I might be late, I still turned around and talked to her for a bit. Although she wasn't interested, I felt good for taking action spontaneously. I wasn't late for work and it only took about 30 seconds. This just goes to show that whatever your ego is subtletly telling you to not go talk to that girl is complete bullshit. Now I think about it, if I didn't push through all those times when my ego is making excuses, I wouldn't have gotten those lays. It's almost always when I push myself that I make a breakthrough.

Then during work, I went to the supermarket to buy some cheese for the cafe I'm working at because we suddenly ran out of cheese. I didn't really have much time, but I saw this cute girl shopping alone. Again, my ego telling me that I have to go back soon and it seemed true at the moment, but after what happened this morning, I realized it's probably only going to take about 20-30 seconds to find out if she's interested and so I quickly walked up next to her and told her she's cute. it turned out she didn't even speak much english, so she just smiled and awkwardly went back to her shopping. Haha, cool. only took me 20 seconds. Still got time to go back to work. This was an amazing revelation. I may not be in the best 'state' compared to when I'm in a daygame mode, but the freedom felt more amazing than before.

But after work at the train station, the 'anxiety' got the best of me. There was a good opportunity to talk to this girl, but I overthink it and the moment passed away. Feeling frustrated, then suddenly my gf called me and wanted to meet up outside the train station to catch the train together. There's a 25 minutes wait for the next train. I still felt like I needed to practice and consolidate my new shift in seduction, so I told my gf to wait at the platform, while I went to the toilet. It was a pretty asshole move, but I didn't give a shit. I quickly talked to a girl I saw sitting down before. She wasn't interested, so I quickly move on to the next one waiting on a bus stop. She was either not interested or too nervous. Couldn't tell. Had a hard time relating to her like the last girl. Both girls weren't engaging much, or maybe I should work towards teased and deep dive a little more. Anyway, I quickly got back to my gf. Still have 10 minutes left haha.

I have decided to get off GC forum for a while to practice doing seduction without some of the acquisition mindset of pickup, so I'll only be updating this journal now and then. Reading people getting "AA" isn't helping me.

p.s. while at work, I saw a homeless guy shot-gun 'approaching' people asking for money. haha. He literally has no fear of social rejection and had a lot of blow outs. Guess when you're that desperate, you're willing to do anything. Of course I'm not saying you should be desperate when you talk to girls.But in a way, what he's doing is similar to pickup if you're coming from a place of neediness.

 

[Smith]

So this girl has been puzzling me the last few days. I met her on Tuesday afternoon, when she was walking slowly down the street. We talked for a few minutes, chatting and teasing, then after finding out she has no plan for the rest of the day, I invited her to get coffee with me.
When we sat down for coffee, she asked me if I do this a lot, I just laughed and pretended I didn't know what she was talking about then changed the topic. The conversation was going well, then I suggested we go for a walk to a harbour nearby. At first, I hold her hand while we were walking, but she told me "it's a little fast, and in Thailand girls blah blah blah". I laughed and told her "we're in Australia", but I decided to back off a bit. We found a place under the shade to sit down. We had fun talking and teasing each other. Sometimes I would put my arm around her and pull her into me when she said something funny or sexual. I lost track of time and realized I probably missed a window to pull her home. We decided to walk to the train station and head home. I hold her hand while we walk this time and she's receptive. The vibe was good. I seeded some ideas about cooking for our next date. At the train station, we exchanged numbers and said goodbye.
Me: "Hey XX, Glad to met you Smith"
Her: "NIce to meet you too "

The next day, I was thinking whether I should wait for 2 days like I usually do, or I should try to burn it to the ground. Because I have a flatmate moving in next week, I will no longer have the place to myself, so I thought "ok let's see if I could make the magic happen tonight"
I texted her in the morning
Me: "Hey XX, Had a great time with you yesterday what say we keep the ball rolling. Thinking about cooking steam salmon. Are you free for dinner tonight?"
I was expecting a little resistance because she lives pretty far - an hour and a half away from the city, so she might use getting home as an excuse.
Her: "Hey Smith! Sounds Good. I finish around 3pm. No plan yet for this evening. Are you around in the city?"
Me: "Cool I finish around 3.30pm. Meet you at central at 4pm?"
I thought I'll just take the train with her back to my place, which is about 20 mins away.
Her: "so what is the plan??"
Me: "We'll go cook at my place it's closer"
Her " Sorry can't make it tonight. Has to go have dinner with my sister"
I was quite surprised. She seemed pretty keen in the beginning and something changed her mind...She didn't even mention any rescheduling.
Me: "no worries"
Hmmm...I actually thought I got this one because we had a good time on the day we met...Still not sure what changed her mind... Maybe she told her friends and they told her it's too fast or some shit... Quite disappointed. Maybe I'll try to hit her up again, but pulling home with the flatmate there could be a problem.

 

[Smith]

Uni starts next week, so I'll be leaving sydney soon. I've been going out a lot and made a mistake today by scheduling two dates too close to each other allowing only one hour for the first date. The first date was a girl I met a few days ago. She's really fun and down to earth, which made up for her average looks. I think we actually had too much fun on the date, and as you know fun kills seduction. I forgot to be sexual at times because we were having a lot of fun teasing each other, but there was still a bit of sexual tone. She mentioned a few times that I seemed to do this kinda thing a lot. I tried to change the subject. Always get off the subject of you meeting girls wherever you go, it sorts of disconnect you with the girl. You can still seem like a player, but you can't talk about being a player too blatantly. Then when I mentioned I'm leaving on Friday, she seemed disappointed and started to put her guards up. Maybe she wanted me as a bf option. Anyway, as the hour mark got near, I suggested we go for a walk in the park and I texted my next date that I'll be a little bit late. To be honest, I'm not really into my next date (she's the girl from my previous post). I'm actually having more fun with the first girl, so I didn't know if I should just ditch my next date last minute, but that's a really asshole thing to do.

Then my date asked me
Her: "what should we do now?"
Me: "I actually have to go meet a friend soon"
Her: "oh what should I do?"
I don't know....come with me and have a threesome maybe?
Me: "hmm"
Her: "you want me to come with you?"
I told her it's a date, then she teased me that is this another random you met?
I felt a little sorry and was kicking myself for not allowing more time. Then she said she should go home.
So I walked her to the station and went to my next date.

The next date was horrible, because I was still thinking about my first date. I literally zoned out mid-conversation. Well at least I got free dinner. Then after our dinner, she suddenly told me she had to go to international office to sort out some shit. fk me. maybe I should have cancelled this date in the first place.

Feeling the day is still young, only 5.30pm, I decided to walked around and maybe meet more girls. Talked to some girls and exchanged details with two girls. One was ok looking and another one has an amazing body - I almost didn't talk to her, and am I glad I did I was feeling nervous so I monitored my thoughts a bit before I talked to her, and there were some negative beliefs. I was putting her on pedestal and was thinking about taking values from her instead of giving. After calming myself down a bit, I caught up to her before she walked into her friend's apartment. Talk about almost missing a great opportunity. Treated her like I would with any other girl. She seemed attracted and was laughing at my story even thought I later realized it really wasn't that funny lol. I wanted to ask her out on an insta-date, but she was meeting her friend, so I asked her out on a date on Thursday. She said yes and we exchanged numbers.
Me: "Hey XX, It's Smith glad to have met you"
Her: "Hey Smith, It's XX glad to have met you"
she literally copied my text and just changed the name. The old PUA me would have just left it there, but honestly I wanted to bust her balls.
Me: "haha you are so lazy"
After about an hour, insecure thoughts started to creep in...maybe I should have just left it there, but then I know I need to be strong. An attractive man would not have these insecure thoughts about himself. Then she replied.
Her: "haha it's technicality"
Anyway, both girls I exchanged numbers with today agreed to meet up with me on Thursday, and my FWB flaked on me for Wednesday (which kinda suck because I wanted to see her for the last time and I still haven't told her I'm leaving). I think tomorrow, I'll try to set up a date with the hot body girl first, and not make the same mistake of setting up two dates too close to each other. It's funny how right before I'm going to leave Sydney, I think I'm starting to improve a lot on my learning curve, like I have broken through the plateau.

 

[Smith]

Went out for daygame today. Thought I should text all the girls that I forgot to follow up in my phone before I left, and one was keen to meet up, but when I met up with her, her friend was also there and they were doing they maths homework. I tried to make conversation, but I don't know why, they just kept to themselves and weren't very social. They would talk in cantonese, which I couldn't understand, so after about 30 minutes, I had enough and said I probably should go. At first she was surprised, but then I didn't give a fuck, this was wasting my time.

Then I walked around the mall and the street while just talking to a lot of girls. I realized I forgot to qualify girls, and sometimes I just got lost in the conversation when I was having fun. Anyway, I think that's the big point to take away today. So right before I head home, I decided to talk to a few more girls to get this down. I think I'm really internalizing the "giving'" concept when I'm talking to girls. One positive mindset is that you will still have what you want to give if the girl walks away. I feel really relaxed when I'm coming from this place.

 

[Smith]

She Freak the fuck out

I met this girl yesterday, and at the end of our initial interaction, she told me she has a bf but I could be her lover. I laughed and said "yea I could be your secret lover"
Then afterwards during the text exchange, she said she can only have coffee with me as a friend because her bf might be jealous. I text her "haha well I'm not looking for anything serious". Then we set up a date today.

She arrived early and already ordered. So I started some chit chat, and kept the conversation fun and flowing. She mentioned her bf a few times, and it seemed like she really like him. She even has a poster of him in her room! she is quite indoor and shy. Doesn't like to socialize much and has little dating and sexual experience.

Then I suggested we walked around. There were a few pauses when the conversation is getting dry. Then as we walked near my place. I invited her up and she agreed.
I could tell she's a little nervous, but I kept the conversation going.

In my room, I turn on the music and invited her to dance to a song by her favourite band. She's a little resistant and shy, but we had good playful touch between us.
We talked a little bit about music, then she sat on the floor, me on the chair. She looked at her phone to show me a song, I moved a little closer with my hand resting on her leg then tried to man handled kissed her. She pushed me away and freak the fuck out."what are you doing?"
I act non-chalent and kept the conversation going but that didn't work. She got up and grabbed her bag and said she was going.
I told her to stay for 5 more minutes, then put my hands up and said I won't do anything, but she was already at the door and said "I'll come back". I sat on my chair, still pretty shocked at what just happened. I didn't expect her to react so strongly. I was deciding whether to go after her and apologize. So I ran downstairs. It was raining. She was walking pretty fast. It turns out she only live a couple of blocks away from me, so by the time I caught up to her, she was already at her door. she mumbled something like "I don't want anything to do with you" before I even said anything, then she walked into her house.
A few hours later, I texted her "Sorry for what happened. I didn't expect you to react so strongly. It was never my intent. I did what I felt like at the moment when you see someone you like, but now I know how you feel I'll back off now. Hope you enjoy the rest of your stay here "

This has to be my worst seduction. Part of it is because she has a bf (who's long distance by the way) and she seemed to love him. I also think the conversation wasn't sexual enough. I thought physical escalation was good up until the point I tried to kiss her but I followed my usual process which has worked pretty well before. I don't think I had skipped any steps for my physical escalation. It was a little weird she would just walked out that way because I thought we had good connection, but hey maybe it was a little aggressive for a Japanese exchange student who just got here a few days ago and who's also an introvert.

Anyway...another date tomorrow with a girl who's single! and had a good vibe with her in the initial interaction.

 

[Smith]

I need to write things down to clear my head. Uni has been keeping me really busy and I'm not used to waking up early everyday. I'll be in class from 8am-5pm almost everyday, and by the time I finish class, there's barely anyone on the street. This feels very different to Sydney. I can feel scarcity starting to set in. I don't even have the abundance of meeting cute girls, but I'll try not to complain. I can occasionally see the girls I have already talked to, and it really limit my options since they seem to be the cutest around uni. I also can't help but think that I'll develop a reputation. Then I realized that's just a really self-centered thought. No one gives a fuck. People got their own problems to worry about. They ain't got no time for you.

I was getting pretty horny, so I texted a girl that I probably could have slept with last year but I was inexperienced and didn't know how to calibrate. She took a whole god damn day to reply each of my texts. I had a gut feeling that she has a bf, and I was right. After a few rapport building texts that span over a few days, she told me her bf wouldn't be happy that we get coffee. Her last text made me laugh because she took over 24 hours just to tell me that, when I'm sure she probably already saw the text and is probably getting that validation boost from me asking her out. I feel like shit not getting anywhere with even average looking girl, when I know I was doing a lot better in Sydney. But hey, that's just my ego talking. I start meditating again today for the first time in 3 months. I need to relax and be free-flowing again like I was last month. Need to let go of controlling and just let things play out. I have to tell myself to stop trying to "get" girls to feel fulfill, but come from a place of giving. Yes, I think that's the vibe I need to get back. It's funny how scarcity can really screw with you sometimes.

 

[Smith]

Sup fellow seducers! Haven't update here for a while. Mostly because my schedule is insane during the week. I'm still talking to girls around campus and most of them are flattered, but something seem to fall flat during the conversation. It depends on the girl. Some girls are just "into you" from the first minute, while some are just a bit "lukewarm". Because my study is pretty intense and have to deal with patients a lot, I'm usually very stressed out at the end of the day. So after class, I'll walk around and talk to a few girls and it can be hard to just "let go" sometime and just enjoy the flirting and the conversation. Anyway, I'm trying to make talking to girls a daily routine for me. Some days, I'll take action immediately, but sometimes I'll hesitate and it's frustrating. I think the main reason I hesitate is because I'm afraid of burning down the campus. Especially when there's an "overheard" fb page, where a lot of people are following. I'm scared I might be on that page one day if I just talk to every cute girl I see. It might be an irrational fear.
It's not uncommon that the girl I talked to knew some of my friends. Today, I talked to a girl I already "approached" last year. I knew she look familiar and she did remember me. (although I didn't remember her until I got home and suddenly realized I already got her number before).

Also, I'm afraid of being too obvious that I'm hitting on girls when I'm in the campus, so that prevented me from taking action. I remember when I was in Sydney, I didn't have this problem, since most people don't give a shit.

 

[Smith]

FR/LR: Same day lay (ONS)

I went on a date today with a cute Japanese girl who's here on exchange and is leaving tomorrow. During our initial interaction, she was warm and receptive to my touch before we exchange Line. She was a bit cold during our text exchange, and it was a bit odd.

Today I messaged her two hours before our date, but the message wasn't 'read', so I guess she doesn't have data. I got there right on time and she was no where to be seen. I decided to wait for 10 minutes. After a few minute, she showed up. I gave her a warm embrace.

We sat down and ordered our coffee. She was warm and smiling, but her english wasn't that good, so I found that I had to carry a lot of the conversation. It was very tiring in the end, and hard to make her invest in the conversation. After about 45 minutes, I suggested we go for a walk. This is where 'something' seemed to went wrong. I felt like I should just hold her hand the moment we walked out of the cafe, but I hesitated and didn't do it. I think my vibe got a little 'nervous' and I started to talk a little too fast.
There was a park around, so I told her to come sit on the grass. She didn't want to because she was wearing a skirt. I saw nothing wrong with it. Her skirt wasn't even that short. But we move to an area near a try. Damn this girl is scared to get dirty. She still wouldn't sit comfortably on the ground. Maybe she doesn't want to get her skirt dirty.
She seemed a bit closed. I was tired of making conversation because it was hard for her to contribute. I talked about some sex story and that got her laughing hard. Then I put my arm around her for a few seconds, but she moved it away. Not fazed by it, I continued talking. She's still not contributing much. Then I suggest we go watch some videos on youtube. On our way there, more chit chat to make the transition smoother, but I think she knows what's going on, and she's now looking at her watch a lot.
We arrived at my place. Just before she was about to take off her shoes, she changed her mind. "Sorry...Thank you for today!"
I stood there keeping my body language open and straight. I invited her to come in again. She said no.
What I forgot to do here was using a "yes" ladder. But I doubt that could change anything though. Just before she left, I asked her why she didn't want to come in just to get some feedback. She told me she didn't want to. I thought about it and bid her farewell.
I'm thinking maybe she didn't want to do a ONS.

So there I was...horny and frustrated. I decided to go for a walk, and maybe meet someone new Bumped into a girl I had a date with last year. Some friendly chit chat.
There was barely anyone on the street, since it was Saturday 5pm.

Then I saw this girl sitting alone on the grass reading something. Couldn't tell if she was cute or not. I was about to walk away, then I realized it was an excuse not to talk to her. What if I ended up having an amazing time together with her? Damn I was right.
I walked up to her and said "hi". She looked a few years older than me. Cute enough I thought.
"I thought your hair look really nice... so I had to come say hello"
Then I sit down opposite her and introduced myself. I was sitting a bit too far to establish any sort of touch. But one step at a time.
Started some conversation about the book she was reading. I just let things flow without trying to control it. It was natural to take thing sexual. Talked about fifty shades of grey, and asked her if she likes that sort of stuff. She laughed and said she likes to watch it, but maybe not doing it on her self. She asked me the same question. I told her I don't mind trying something new. Then she mentioned she's leaving tomorrow. I told her to move next to me. She asked why. I told her I don't want sun shining into her eyes, which was true. So she moved next to me, but still a bit too far to establish touch. Then I used my phone as an excuse to show her something and moved closer to her.
Complimented on her body when she said her job is making her work out a lot. I told her I don't believe she's fat, and said I'll need some proof. That leads to some tickling on both sides. It was all in good fun. She was wearing this ripped jean, so I complimented on her skin tone. She told me her leg is really strong. I put my hand on her leg and told her to tense up. haha I felt nothing . She was a bit embarrassed. I told her to feel my leg too, and she was impressed. Those squats finally paid off.
Then she suggested we go for a walk. I looked at my watch. we've been talking for an hour.
Suddenly her phone rang, she seemed to be arguing with someone. After she hung up, she told me she's sorry because she was suppose to go meet her friend for dinner 15 minutes ago and now he's pissed. She told me he's pretty old (about 40-50?) and he thinks girls shouldn't be alone. What a white knight I thought. She also complained that he kept taking her to places that she's not interested. One part of me was about to just let her go, but then my horny instinct kicked in haha
me: "well what time do you finish dinner?"
Her: "maybe about an hour"
Me: "I can meet you after dinner"
Her: "yea that sounds good"
Then we exchange number. I put my arm on her lower back as she entered her number.
Her: "oh you like to touch me"
Me: 'Yea" I smiled at her

I texted her 10 minutes later. She replied and called me by accident. I was cooking and didn't pick it up. I called her back and she apologized that it was a mistake. I told her no worries and I'll talk to her later. After about 2 1/2 hours, she texted me she's ready.
I called her instead of texting because sometimes calling gets the job done faster. I used to think calling a girl is "needy", but now I think it depends on the situation.
I invited her over to watch a movie. So I met up with her around my place.
She seemed prettier than I remembered.
Her: "why are you looking at me like that?"
I honestly had no idea what she was talking about.
Me: "like what?" I smirked
Me: "how was your dinner?"
Her: "He was eating very slow and he wanted to grab dessert as well. I paid for the dinner as a "thank you for taking care of me'"
Me: "well he's old. Old people eat pretty slow"
Her: "haha no. he was doing it deliberately. We actually went to another restaurant just to grab dessert"
Me: "well old people sure like to have desserts"
Me: "why were you at the other side of the town? I thought there were no restaurants there"
Her: "Oh I had to go home and charge my phone so I could text you"
Damnnn, this girl is keen.
I thought about holding her hand while we walk to my place, but it was cold and her hand was in her pocket, so it didn't seem right.

The moment she walked into my room, she seemed to know where this is going to end. The only place in my room to sit is either my chair or my bed or the floor. She sat on the bed. Her body language was close. I sat down next to her but giving her a little space to feel comfortable. I put on "interstellar", but we were talking about her near death experience in a car crash.
Her: "I have a lot of bad (?) experience in my life"
I paused. Thinking I should probably lead this to a positive note.
Me: "So what's the best experience you ever had?"
Her: "Right now. This is the best experience"
Me: "really?" I smirked.
Her: "yea..."
I leaned in and kissed her. No LMR.
This girl fucks like she hasn't had sex for a while. She was very aggressive in the adapted missionary position. I don't really need to move much to make her orgasm lol
I came after 5 minutes for my first round. I didn't tell her I cum, but told her I needed a break and fingered her.
Then I got hard again after 5 minutes. The second round lasted for about an hour. I made her come a lot. She said she was burning and I made her feel so good.
Her: "You look so nice, but you're such a bad boy"
Me: "Speak for yourself bad girl"
Her: "NOoo I'm a good girl....you made me bad"
Me: "Yea I like making good girls go bad"
Her: "hahaha"
Me: "and what do you mean I look nice?"
Her: "like you have a nice face...That's why I kept talking to you in the first place"
Me: "damn girl...You're so superficial"
Her: 'hahaha yes I'm pretty superficial"
We laid there and talked. I asked her about her past relationship. Only 2 relationships. This is the craziest thing she has ever done. Her first ONS.
I waited for her to ask me about my relationships but she told me she doesn't want to know haha.
I told her if she ever come back again we should hangout again. I enjoyed spending time with her.
Then I asked her if the guy she was with tonight likes her.
Her: "I think so. I told him I was talking to some people, and he ask if it was my bf, like what the hell?"
Me: "haha is he married"
Her: "No he's divorced, but he wouldn't tell me his age and about his ex-wife, which was fine"
Me: "hmm it probably doesn't matter"
Her: "and at the dinner he was eating very slow. I already finished eating, and he said to me 'oh you just want to go meet that guy don't you?'"
Me: 'haha was he joking or was he serious?"
Her: "I don't know, but I wasn't going to let him ruin my trip"
Me: "Good decision"
I tried to go for a 3rd round, but I couldn't get hard, so she finished herself off.
Then we hug for a long time before we said goodbye and she told me she likes me.

Looking back, Comparing both dates. The difference in physical escalation is that I didn't go full on aggressive with the second girl, and use sex talk to communicate my intent.
I think this makes me realize that I need to calibrate my physical escalation, and not reward girls with it when they're cold and not investing.