Re: backstory's frontstory
I spent Friday and Saturday night at the bar. This was valuable experience for me as I gained a ton of reference points. A lot of things I did well, but there were also a lot of mistakes I made. I was feeling bold.
Last night I grabbed 3 girl's asses. I really should have looked all three girls in the eye after doing this but I didn't do that! Two of the reactions were neutral, and took place after I was done dancing with them. The other one said, "my ass is not up for grabs." in a semi-serious way. (we were just talking). I want to do this during the daytime too. Is there anybody on the boards that does that? I know Hector does that but its pretty calibrated.
Another thing I did great at all weekend was touch (in general). In the past I have felt a little bit reserved about this. My thoughts were, "it's gonna be weird and seem awkward if I randomly touch her like this at this point in the conversation." But I've found it doesn't even matter..I was touching every girl I talked to consistently and I didn't get any bad reactions. Random shoulder/arm touches and grabs are not a big deal at all. I was sitting down and talking to this one girl I hadn't seen in a while. We were talking about how she has been finding it difficult to get a job. I didn't even realize it but my finger drawing shapes on her upper legs. When I realized it I was kind of surprised that she was letting me do that. It just seems like something girls would be uncomfortable with if it was just randomly happening. I pushed it a little further and rested my hand on her leg. Lately I've noticed I've been pushing myself ever so slightly. It feels good to do this and be outside of my comfort zone, cuz I'm doing things I never thought I would do.
It was a goal of mine to transition from using chase frames through text, to using them in person. I accomplished that this weekend. I'll be honest, my use of them was pretty clunky. My problem was that the majority of the time I didn't use the correct tone of voice or facial expressions. And the actual words I used were sort of weird, a little too direct and could have been better suited to the conversation at hand. Probably made myself look like an idiot but at least I know what I was doing wrong. Reactions to my chase frames were mostly expressions of disinterest.
I used the skeptical look a lot this weekend. A lot of opportunities came up to use it. Except there was this one time I neglected to use it. This one girl said to me, "shut your mouth zach." All I did was raise my eyebrows at her. It was just automatic. That's what I seem to do a lot in those kind of situations. However, using a skeptical or bored look would have been better. I saw this good looking guy at the bar last night and he was talking to this girl. I saw him use a few facial expressions and they were so good and powerful!
I was pre gaming at my friends house, there were a good amount of chicks there. My buddy told me about this one chick there. He said she got married in exchange for a car, then got divorced. Something like that. So I went up to her and this was the conversation:
Backstory: I heard a rumor about you and I wanna know if it's true.
Girl: What is it?
Backstory: Wait, first...what's your name?
Girl: Haha! Good luck!
And after saying that, she walked away from me. I found it was so weird. My buddy saw it happen and talked to her friend about it. He said that she said that this girl is usually very friendly and never a bitch or anything....he was confused. I have a potential explanation for it. I've been practicing my sexual vibe and wearing a really mischevious/sexy smile. So this lady most likely knew right away what she was getting herself into and probably thought I was a player. but she wasn't interested so she just shut me down. Plus the whole rumor comment could have been received as sexual in nature by her. Anyways, this is powerful to me. If girls know right away what they can expect from me, then it's going to save me a lot of time. There's not going to be any beating around the bush trying to figure out if a girl is into me or not. They're either gonna reject me straight away or they're gonna hang around.
My friend and I made a silly bet that if I hooked up with his ex, he'd give me 200$. I wouldn't doubt it if he told her about that. No biggie, I'm not planning for it to happen. A totally different chick in our friend group came over to my friend's place. And she starts talking to me saying "Why did you make a bet that you could fuck me for 200$" or something like that. I made a mistake by telling her that the bet was for a different girl, not her. By doing this, I defused a fuckload of sexual tension. I messed up even further after. She started saying we were just friends. I said to her, "I'm not your friend." There really could have been a better way to handle this. I could have grabbed her ass and said "Do friends do this?" or I could have just flashed her a naughty look.
These two chicks I've known for a while came to my friend's house last night but they were just standing around at the front door with their shoes. They weren't sure if they wanted to stay or not. I went and sat on the couch and said to one of the chicks "Hey come sit on the couch with me." So she comes and sits on the couch with me and she was sitting right beside me, our legs were touching. She was really aggressive, I guess she was pissed off (or maybe just horny). We were talking with the other people in the room and the conversation in general was sexually charged, especially between me and her. I was chase framing her a little bit and there was lots of touch. She left the house, and came back a half hour later. She had to change for the bar. But she just wasn't all that interested in me. Later I was sitting next to her on the couch and I tried talking to me. But she was more interested in her cell phone. I started talking to her about fucking celebrities but it was a little awkward, I could have brought up the sex talk better.
I approached an older lady at the bar. She started asking how old I was. I said "Old enough." I tried deep diving her but she insisted on me telling her my age. I told her my age, then she says she's 34. She said that shes way too old for me. I said "Age isn't a problem for me" That was my first time handling an age objection, and it was awkward and lame! I'm gonna read some articles on how to deal with that.
Overall, a pretty good weekend like I said. Unfortunately my conversations were pretty dry. I just couldn't have a good conversation this weekend. I didn't know what to say! Made it tough to talk to the girls I approached at the bar.
Summer and I are talking again. I thought she had gone into auto rejection, but I guess not. I forget if I had talked about it or not, but she was being rude and distant towards me through text. After that, we didn't talk for a while. I was kind of hurt to be honest, but I'm really glad I didn't chase. Here's what she said to me recently:
summer: hi backstory. i kinda miss you in my life. idk ur just really cool and i thought we got along but then idk where you wandered to. why don't you ever answer me anymore? it makes me feel sad
This kinda made me mad. Cuz she was acting like it was MY FAULT we stopped talking. oh well, whatever. Seppuku says making the guy take responsibility is a speciality of women. It's just an excuse for her to start talking to me again. Now shes saying this:
summer: when you get back you should come over
i wanna show you my place. I got netflix and we can chill
lol nice. that's a pretty good escalation window to take advantage of. I'm definitely interested in dating her. I view this as a second chance for me to step up and make some things happen. I need to be more aggressive and assertive. I'm not heading back till next weekend so I'm just gonna keep her on the back burner till then.
